Stress Management

LegacyUser

I was wondering if anyone can advise me;

I’m a natural born worrier, get worried about stupid things and due to things going on this year with ex’s, family etc I have been really stressed out.

I have been to my doctor about this (so not looking for medical advice), and she wasn’t much help (said my symptoms were stressed related) but this week its been a lot worse, am constantly tired, my skin is in bits, have had a horrible bile-y/horrible taste in my mouth the last couple of weeks, but now I have a horrible burning pain in my stomach and loss of appetite. I’m around 5’6 and 8.3 stone, so in proportion, but anymore weight loss will be noticable.

As its stress related I was wondering can anyone tell me how to combat/manage stress levels. I haven’t really got any free time in the evening with family obligations, but I’m hoping that will change in about 2 months.

I have started a multi vitamin, but hoping to get some suggestions as to what you do, to keep stress levels down?

Thanks

cafecolour

First, get a 2nd opinion from a different doctor, that doesn't sound normal even from stress. When you go to the doctor, just tell him your symptoms, don't be like "I'm really stressed, and I think..." or they'll automatically just tell you it's stress.

IMHO exercise is far and away the best stress-buster. Like heavy, heart-beat raising exercies, not just power-walking or what not. Go to the gym regularly, and if you're feeling stressed, do some jumping jacks or such for a bit and get the blood flowing.

Otherwise, take some meditation classes, buy one of 20,000+ stress manangement books just to learn how to manage your reactions. Also for immediate relief, I find having a default 'happy place' to go to and distract you from your real world issues helps a lot. Mine happy place is my playstation

Dizzyblonde

Definitely get a second opinion - a burning pain in your stomach should not be ignored.

Sincho

2nd opinion is definitely needed here, the tiredness etc can be easily passed off as stress related but unless you've been so stressed you've developed a stomach ulcer the bile thing is not normal. Possibly it is a touch of a stomach ulcer but get a 2nd opinion as even if this is the problem it needs to be treated. Best of luck with everything and hope everything works itself out for you soon

MugMugs

Stressed123456 wrote: »

and due to things going on this year with ex’s, family etc I have been really stressed out.

Is this the pivotal part ?

Did you have a messy break up ?

LegacyUser

Extremly messy break up. But Im well passed that now, things are still a little difficult, but not as bad as they were then (his behaviour).

I think I will get a second opinion next week (by a different doctor in the surgery), if the appitite thing hasnt fixed its self by then, Ive barely eaten since Wednesday, the thought of eating makes me sick.

von Neumann

Not wanting to be too blunt, but get help, be it with your family obligation, or the shopping,...........you haven't really told us enough about your situation for us to able to advise you.

Are you working?

What is your family situation, are you in touch with your parents?

Do you have childern?

Are you living at home?

Don't worry about reaching out as we've all needed some help from time to time.

LegacyUser

hey dude.
I've got a similar story as you too. I've had a really messy break up n then due to college, exams n all other things i've ended up with similar problems to yours. Just not as bad as you mention.

I've been a lot stressed out over the past year. I also think too much and usually overthink things/events too much which leads me ended up stressed out of my head. I quite hate it and i have little clue on how to manage my stress. Lately i've been very tired too. My digestive system is completely screwed up, i've been losing a lot of hair off my head n my skin is in not much of a great shape either. All stress related things. Probably has resulted in hypothyroidism (as for the bad skin, loss of appetite, tiredness). Stress is one major factor resulting in hyper or hypothyroidism. Stress is a really bad thing for the physical body.

I've decided to go and meet up a gp sometime soon about this. Cuz its really not healthy to live like this. But then i think the main think will boil down to managing your stress and trying to live a stress free life which is so tough here. But you've gotta manage to do it sometime if i need to stay healthy and happy!!
How i'm going to do that?, i've got no clue yet... Maybe the books n all should help. And if anyone know of any better methods, they can let us know!!

JuliusCaesar

Stressed123456 wrote: »

I have started a multi vitamin, but hoping to get some suggestions as to what you do, to keep stress levels down?

Try this - it's a free online course which might be useful to you.

LegacyUser

von Neumann wrote: »

Not wanting to be too blunt, but get help, be it with your family obligation, or the shopping,...........you haven't really told us enough about your situation for us to able to advise you.

Are you working?

What is your family situation, are you in touch with your parents?

Do you have childern?

Are you living at home?

Don't worry about reaching out as we've all needed some help from time to time.

OK, my situation, am a single mother to a toddler, my parents arnt much help, they have their own lives to live, am in my early 20's, have family obligation with my grandparents in the evenings (as they cant get out to do shopping/bills/sociallising I take them to do this in the week), I work fulltime, and live on my own with toddler.

Have decided to deffo go to the doctors, have lost a pound since yesterday, its absolutly crazy. Think I might just be run down or something.

I must stress, I dont think this is anything to do with the breakup. Am wellllllll past that.

Crannog

I'd be surprised if anyone wouldn't be stressed with all that is going on in your life. It sounds like nobody is supporting you or helping you. I wonder if it is possible to get some practical help with the tasks of the week so that you get a little break? A couple of hours would make a lot of difference.

Stressed123456 wrote: »

I’m a natural born worrier

Do you worry about stuff that might happen in the future or worry about stuff that has happened in the past? If you were to only worry about what needs your attention right now would that reduce your stress by much?

I know that you haven't much time so I recommend some breathing exercises and meditation. They don't take any time at all. Breathing has to be done anyway so in for the count of 4 and out for the count of 8 till you become more relaxed. Picture some nice place where you have felt at peace in the past. Concentrate on the image until you can recall at will and take yourself there whenever you need to for as long as you've got.

I know that you expect things to get a little better in a couple of months so please arrange to get yourself some counselling by then. But, you deserve to be happy right now so please don't put off that visit to the doctor.

Best of luck

von Neumann

Stressed1234678 wrote: »

OK, my situation, am a single mother to a toddler, my parents arnt much help, they have their own lives to live, am in my early 20's, have family obligation with my grandparents in the evenings (as they cant get out to do shopping/bills/sociallising I take them to do this in the week), I work fulltime, and live on my own with toddler.

Have decided to deffo go to the doctors, have lost a pound since yesterday, its absolutly crazy. Think I might just be run down or something.

I must stress, I dont think this is anything to do with the breakup. Am wellllllll past that.

OK, It's very important that you take care of yourself......even if you feel like your being selfish or letting people down.

Because if you don't take care of your self you won't be able to take care of the other people in your life.

First make sure your eating good food and enough of it.....try and make it as simple as possible. Mircowaved spuds, carrots and a burger under the grille and a tomato for some color :-)

Try and avoid sugar and caffeine, these are only short term fixes

Try and get quality sleep, not easy with a toodler.

Do you have any holidays you can take from work? may be take a sick day or two............ no need to feel guilty....it's a preventive measure.

Why do your parent not take better car of your grand parents?

I think you will have to draw a line with your grand parents, not easy I know but you have enough on your plate and need to put yourself first...
They should understand and it'll only be for a while, til you can get back on your feet.

Maybe you could get some home help for them, or more to the point maybe your parents could get home help for there parents.....
I think you need to move this responciblity back to your parents if possible.

Hope some of this help