Why does she do this?

needhelpguy

I'm looking for girls opinions on this one. There's this girl I know in a club I'm in, we've known each other for 2 odd years through it. She is early twenties, I am also but one/two years younger.

This girl seems very interested in me particularly when we are talking alone. Maybe I'm just seeing things but I think there is a liking there. Sometimes when we are out she touches me lightly and gently, on the small of my back asking are you ok? etc. Or she would lightly touch me on the arm or something.

I'm just confused because she has told me that she is only interested in guys much older than her, and indeed was going out with a guy twice her age a while back.

Maybe I'm just looking into this too much but why would girls do those things if they are not interested?

Of course I'm not going to ask her that would be too awkward and could ruin the friendship. I'm just looking for some opinions of her behaviour because I am getting confused by it.

Loose Lips

needhelpguy wrote: »

I'm looking for girls opinions on this one. There's this girl I know in a club I'm in, we've known each other for 2 odd years through it. She is early twenties, I am also but one/two years younger.

This girl seems very interested in me particularly when we are talking alone. Maybe I'm just seeing things but I think there is a liking there. Sometimes when we are out she touches me lightly and gently, on the small of my back asking are you ok? etc. Or she would lightly touch me on the arm or something.

I'm just confused because she has told me that she is only interested in guys much older than her, and indeed was going out with a guy twice her age a while back.

Maybe I'm just looking into this too much but why would girls do those things if they are not interested?

Of course I'm not going to ask her that would be too awkward and could ruin the friendship. I'm just looking for some opinions of her behaviour because I am getting confused by it.

OP: Tell her how you feel about her and ask her if she feels the same about you.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Sincho

Ah man, get a grip, just coz shes usually into older guys doesn't mean she can't be attracted to you! I spent most of my life being attracted to really tall red heads but ended up marrying a dark haired guy of about 5 foot 6! Next time you're having a drink together make a move, if you're rejected you can blame the alcohol but from what you've said shes trying to let you know shes interested!!

Faith

Girls often touch others for no reason. It's not necessarily a come-on. It could be though, so you should just tell her how you feel and put yourself out of your misery.

TheZohanS

Next time she touches you look her straight in the eys, smile, and tell her "don't touch the merchandise unless you're going to buy it!".

See what her reaction is.

MagicMarker

Next time she says starts saying ''i'm into older guys'' you say ''yeah well i'm into you, so cut the bull **** and kiss me god damn it!!''...

Or... you could say ''would you like to go out some time... with me?''.

Or you can continue to post on boards about little things she does that confuse you. Truth is, no one here knows if she likes you, the only way to find that out is to ask her yourself. Her touchy feelyness could mean something, it could mean nothing.

Marksie

needhelpguy wrote: »

Maybe I'm just looking into this too much

Simple answer yes you are

needhelpguy wrote: »

why would girls do those things if they are not interested?

irrespective of gender, why are some people more expressive than others, because that is who they are.
It may be an expression of humanity, friendliness, openness any reason other than an emotional interest.
Or it may be she does find you attractive

needhelpguy wrote: »

I'm just looking for some opinions of her behaviour because I am getting confused by it.

You are confusing yourself and the opinions you are going to get are unlikely to clarify as they are going to be as wide and varied as any you will see in this forum.

Why wont you ask her out?
You are the only one who can answer why you wont make an approach, but instead continue to wander around in a fuge state

Cupcake_Crisis

some girls are just very tactile. I am, and it does get me in quite a bit of trouble.

You should let her know how you feel, the worst she can do is say no!

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TheZohan wrote: »

Next time she touches you look her straight in the eys, smile, and tell her "don't touch the merchandise unless you're going to buy it!".

See what her reaction is.

haha, brilliant....this is acutally a really good idea

break the ice with a joke but have some meaning behind it

entropi

needhelpguy wrote: »

Sometimes when we are out she touches me lightly and gently, on the small of my back asking are you ok? etc. Or she would lightly touch me on the arm or something.

Sometimes women do this, as previously mentioned, but touching on the small of your back is usually deemed a quite personal thing for people, denoting alot of closeness and i would take that as another positive sign.

Maybe I'm just looking into this too much but why would girls do those things if they are not interested?

Yeah you are definately thinking too much about it, yet some do it just to exert control, some don't even realise they are doing it. The only way though you are gonna find out if she is interested sadly is by just taking control of the situation yourself and ask her about why she likes to touch you that way, or look at her behaviour towards others and see if she is as touchy feely with them too.

Of course I'm not going to ask her that would be too awkward and could ruin the friendship. I'm just looking for some opinions of her behaviour because I am getting confused by it.

Well hopefully you find out why she does this, but i would imagine she is interested and is waiting on you to initiate first contact. Good Luck with it anyhow:)

biko

If she is into older guys it's likely she likes more mature men. However, don't let that stop you, she can change. This is if you're interested in more than friends.
If so keep chatting but start touching her too, she should pick up on that.

Gone Drinking

Two month old thread.

I'd say he's tried touching her, gotten rejected, slapped in the face and found a new bird at this stage!

Lab_Mouse

LOL at poster above me ...:D