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Just broke up

  • 25-09-2008 1:25am
    #1
    daauneal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭


    Hi, I just broke up with my girlfriend on sunday, we were going out for nearly 4 years, I'm 23 now and just starting college, everything else in my life is going great but thing is we just weren't really happy with each other for the past few months, finally on sunday she said to me that things just weren't going good for us anymore and we should prob just break up, I agreed, and it was the most civilised break up in the history of break ups!.

    I felt happy about it the past few days thinking I'm going to enjoy single life again, but we were talking again tonight and I really miss her now. I cant bear the thought of her with someone else and I still feel like I'm cheating if I think about being with someone else now , even tho I'm sigle now.

    I dont know if I should try to get back with her or if I should just call it a day and try to move on, alot of the problems we were having weren't being helped by the fact that we're both working like crazy right now and are still broke trying to pay for college fee's and such. I cant help but think that in a month or two when money matters settle down we can work things out. so I dont want to get with anyone else just yet, but at the same time I dont want to be sitting around waiting for something thats never going to happen while she moves on with her life.


Comments

  • #2
    Feelgood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,191 ✭✭✭Feelgood


    Hey mate,

    If you are still on speaking terms all is good, why don't you just go on sort of a break for a while. Tell her you will hook up with her in a few weeks to go to the cinema or something when you get settled in college life and when things quieten down a little.

    By the sounds of things you didn't really break up over much??. Maybe things just fizzled out a little bit??. Happens to all of us at some stage and a break can do wonders...absence makes the heart grow fonder as they say...

    Then try to get back into all the stuff that you used to do when you started going out like having fun!!.


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Give it more time OP. You're still in the Withdrawl period.

    If it doesnt feel right to be with someone else; then don't. At least until it feels right. In the meantime play it cool, ride out the withdrawl and see how you feel in a couple weeks before calling her back.


  • #4
    Colonel_McCoy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    what you are experiencing are all naturals feelings, in time they will go away. You are used to be in contact with her on a regular basis, this will fade in time. We have all been there. Coming out of a relationship does not mean you have to chase the first person you see (although it works for some people). Spend time with friends, hobbies, go on shopping spree and get used to having your own space. Enjoy life


  • #5
    Loose Lips
    Closed Accounts Posts: 62 ✭✭Loose Lips


    daauneal wrote: »
    Hi, I just broke up with my girlfriend on sunday, we were going out for nearly 4 years, I'm 23 now and just starting college, everything else in my life is going great but thing is we just weren't really happy with each other for the past few months, finally on sunday she said to me that things just weren't going good for us anymore and we should prob just break up, I agreed, and it was the most civilised break up in the history of break ups!.

    I felt happy about it the past few days thinking I'm going to enjoy single life again, but we were talking again tonight and I really miss her now. I cant bear the thought of her with someone else and I still feel like I'm cheating if I think about being with someone else now , even tho I'm sigle now.

    I dont know if I should try to get back with her or if I should just call it a day and try to move on, alot of the problems we were having weren't being helped by the fact that we're both working like crazy right now and are still broke trying to pay for college fee's and such. I cant help but think that in a month or two when money matters settle down we can work things out. so I dont want to get with anyone else just yet, but at the same time I dont want to be sitting around waiting for something thats never going to happen while she moves on with her life.

    OP: there are plenty more fish in the sea. Pick yourself up and move on!


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