I find it very difficult to cum...

theganster

So many women have this problem but not many guys do! I definitely do...

I remember when much younger I would practive delaying orgasm - I used to be able to cum almost whenever I wanted within a minute or so... There days its a lot harder. I've started to have semi-regular sex and I have not once managed to orgasm. I'm very sensitive and one girl I even had to get her to stop giving me head cause it was so intense, however I was still not going to climax. Condoms really kill it for me, almost no chance of me cumming with a condom on. I have for a few seconds had sex without a condom and found it way better but I do not want a kid so I quickly stopped that one.

Onviously I can have sex for a long time which is a good thing, but girls do want me to cum with them and I can't - its a bit embarrassing.

Is there anything I can do? Does anyone else have this problem?
Thanks

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Is it possible that you're 'thinking' too much and not 'feeling'...?

Failing that, contact your GP and ask him to recommend a psycho-sexual counsellor.

reggiethefirst

I have the same problem. You're definitely not the only one. Pain in the hole to be honest, because I get all worked up and when she can't have sex anymore I'm left pitching a tent. If you find a solution let me know.

Wibbs

Make me number three. Common enough. Condoms just ruin it for me as far as orgasms go. Now I wouldn't go without said condoms for obvious reasons and the whole sex thing is bloody great regardless, but.....

Like you I would be sensitive. To the point that in a certain angle I can pick up the transmissions of the voyager probe, but put a condom on? Then I'm as sensitive as a bull elephants rear end. Weird or wha?

Dunno if I can help tbh, what I have found works well is not "sorting yourself out" for a while. Defo helps.

KrazeeEyezKilla

It's a problem but it would be worse if it was happening too quickly. As another poster mentioned if you think about it too much it makes it worse.

LegacyUser

Me too.

cafecolour

One way it can happen if you've been just **** for ages, but **** in about the exact same style/pressure/speed each time. You'll have almost programmed yourself to only be able to cum with the same set of circumstances.

So lay off any orgasming for a while (as above), and when you do ****, make sure you vary the speed/grip/position, etc.

Jimmy Bottlehead

#4 here!

Out of seven sexual partners, I've only ever been able to cum (without finishing it myself) with three... and only my present girlfriend can bring me to orgasm without intercourse.
I think its a trust thing... like, I had a bad experience with my first gf (she gave off the impression that me cumming was messy and kinda unwanted so I programmed myself not to unless we were having sex with a condom).

Maybe talk with your partner, and get her to make it clear how bad she wants you to orgasm, but also that there's no pressure... also, certain sexual positions make it easier (on top or taking her from behind.

On the condom issue... I know your pain. Very hard to even keep aroused with one on, or putting one on... thankfully herself got the contraceptive injection recently so it's not an issue any more... maybe consider that if you're in a steady relationship?

Above all, try to focus on enjoying sex, orgasm or not. The less pressure you put on yourself, the more natural it'll feel and the more likely it is to happen.

Best of luck

TheZohanS

Make sure your partner doesn't give you oral before you have full sex and change positions regularly during sex. You'll find that some positions will be more sensitive for you. When your g/f is is close to cumming switch to the position that you find most sensitive and away you go!

It might take a little bit of practice but it's worth it.

Karen_*

Think it may also be useful to google some links on retarded ejaculation to see if you are having familiar issues and if any of the advice given is helpful:)

LegacyUser

My boyf has the same problem, he can rarely cum from sex. We tried using different types of condoms and he found the ribbed and dotted ones best for potential cumming, doesn't happen all the time but its a lot more frequently. When he doesn't i finish him off if you get my meaning. Makes a big difference when he's not up to the diy so i'd suggest laying off that for a while

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theganster wrote: »

So many women have this problem but not many guys do! I definitely do...

I remember when much younger I would practive delaying orgasm - I used to be able to cum almost whenever I wanted within a minute or so... There days its a lot harder. I've started to have semi-regular sex and I have not once managed to orgasm. I'm very sensitive and one girl I even had to get her to stop giving me head cause it was so intense, however I was still not going to climax. Condoms really kill it for me, almost no chance of me cumming with a condom on. I have for a few seconds had sex without a condom and found it way better but I do not want a kid so I quickly stopped that one.

Onviously I can have sex for a long time which is a good thing, but girls do want me to cum with them and I can't - its a bit embarrassing.

Is there anything I can do? Does anyone else have this problem?
Thanks

A few seconds of unprotected sex is all it takes to get a girl pregnant

Wibbs

Manties, while anti baby advice is rarely unwelcome it's off topic

Marksie

Well you know, i wont go into my usual separating orgasm from ejaculation spiel adn deal with the issue
or say that the expectation that am man must ejaculate is once again a societal conditioning . the feeling that there must ne somethjing the woman has done "wrong" for lack of a better word.

One thing is to try and get out of your head about its as if you think you wont you wont.

You may try to use positions that increase grip and friction and hence increase the sensation.
If I am correct ther are also condoms that have a sensitising gel ohj them which serve the same purpose.

Of course you may wish to try a technique called slow masturbation or some similar a variamt of teh stop start techniques. whihc you can use befoer penetration to keep builing yourself to the point then going back from it. Till literally your hot to trot