Don't enjoy masturbating

LegacyUser

Just a quick question for the female world. I want to be able to enjoy it, do it, whatever but I really think its boring. There is nothing quite like passion with a man (or woman if you prefer) but to do it alone I just can't get into it.
Any advise because I personally do not want to be dependant on a man for pleasure always, I would love to be able to do it myself.
Tried vibrators, hands, nothing really does it.

Thanks for any input...

mud

it takes some people a long time to get familiar with solo masturbation, best time to do it is when you're relaxed and able to get into a fantasy, your imagination plays a huge part, just close your eyes and let your sexy self take over. Have you ever masturbated with someone else? How did that go for you?

You find orgasms boring?

LegacyUser

Thanks...
I have tried with a parthner before but that was probably for his pleasure as opposed to mine. Maybe I will haev to get into fantasy mode, my friends have said this but I cant. I now think there is something wrong with me!!!

brianthebard

Not being smart op but do you know where your clit and g spot is?

LegacyUser

No, I love orgasms, in saying that its a difficult task and it takes so much trust for me to go there...

LegacyUser

I do know where it is. I think my G-spot is too far in me and I never did get the whole clit thing, its great yeah but it has never brought me to orgasm...Oh I think I am a bit weird now.

No it isn't weird......I'm sure plenty of people identify with what your saying.

There are vibrators especially designed to stimulate the g-spot.



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LegacyUser

See I didnt know that. I will look into these vibrators. In a way Im happy to know that I am probably not alone here then...Thanks...

Nevyn

Well what do you think will help you get into it ?
Do you read erotic fiction or watch porn ?
Have you tried ?

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Marksie

No Joy wrote: »

I do know where it is. I think my G-spot is too far in me and I never did get the whole clit thing, its great yeah but it has never brought me to orgasm...Oh I think I am a bit weird now.

The g-spot is about 2cm in on the top wall, its a roughened patch beneath the fingers.
Have you ever taken time out to visually and physically road map all your zones? Its very useful to do that as yiu can find out what "does it" for you.

Have a think about what fantasies turn you on and try imagining those.

MIN2511

Tbh i don't enjoy pleasuring myself either, i found out their are more women in the same boat as myself...

It's a bit of a touch and go area... there is nothing wrong with depending on a man to pleasure you, especially if you enjoy it when they do.

AARRRGH

No Joy wrote: »

No, I love orgasms, in saying that its a difficult task and it takes so much trust for me to go there...

Are you sure you have definitely had an orgasm? I don't think it is possible to find masturbation boring if you have.

tbh

if you don't like it, don't do it.



right? or am I missing something?

brianthebard

tbh wrote: »

if you don't like it, don't do it.



right? or am I missing something?

Pent up sexual arousal and an inability to deal with it? Would be my guess anyways.

dullmath

I'm happy to see other women think the same. I'm relatively young, but also pretty sexually experienced (was one of the young kids who got involved with a bad group of older people). And I never really got satisfaction from masturbation. If my boyfriend were to participate and do all the things that'd be typical for a woman masturbating on her own, then it'd feel great! I have experienced orgasm, and know my own anatomy as well. But I completely understand not being able to enjoy masturbation.
This reminds me of my recent try attempt to watch porn. So much hype over it, and I never tried to seriously watch any of it or browse erotica online. But, my boyfriend is quite fond of it (all different kinds), so I figured I'd take a look. Maybe I just wasn't looking in the right places, but gees that's just another thing I cannot seem get off on or find attractive. Didn't even attempt masturbation on that night, lol. Another attempt of not being into it.
In my case though, I found that my boyfriend didn't really mind too much. And don't worry about "relying" on a male to help you out, men tend to enjoy exploring the female anatomy. Maybe they can help you find something out about how to pleasure yourself that you didn't realize would do it :-)

Dragan

No Joy wrote: »

Thanks...
I have tried with a parthner before but that was probably for his pleasure as opposed to mine. Maybe I will haev to get into fantasy mode, my friends have said this but I cant. I now think there is something wrong with me!!!

Not really, i think you just need to realise that the feelings and orgasm you get from masturbation are supposed to be very different than the ones you get from sex!

There is a world of difference between how you will pleasure yourself and how you might want other people to pleasure you.