Birthday with girlfriend......

Mr. Bean

Hey, can you guys help with this issue.....i'm getting nothing but sarcastic c.rap in that other forum.... cheers. (http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055382146)

Overheal

Mr. Bean wrote: »

Hey, not sure if this is the right section, but hopefully it'll get some responses here!

I'm going to a birthday party next friday with my girlfriend...it's her friend's party. The thing is i wont know anyone there, just my girlfriend! what do I do at it....just stand around like a plank what with not knowing anyone?!? Any suggestions/comments greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

That was After Hours. What did you expect? Lesson Learned: serious answers in PI.


You could always try thinking of it this way: there was once a time when the only thing you knew in life was your mother's tit. So whats wrong with running into new people?

krpc

i-bloodhound wrote: »

If you were looking for more than sarcastic comments regarding this topic it should have been posted in personal issues, I would imagine.

After Hours wasn't the best place for a practical discussion on that topic

Surely you've been in new situations that required you to meet new people before? Starting a new job? Starting a new course?

It's pretty much the same thing - just be thankful that unlike starting a new job, you have alcohol on hand.

MugMugs

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

Chances are she'll introduce your to a few people when you get there. From there, the usual ice-breaking questions where you working/what do you get up to when you're not a corporate slave/how do you know the brithday girl kinda thing and latch onto a common interest.

Best advice ye will get on this one....

I am quite suprised you got it on After Hours though.

I like the idea of making a train and being the geezer at the front !

haha

aidan24326

Mr.Bean wrote:

Hey, not sure if this is the right section, but hopefully it'll get some responses here!

I'm going to a birthday party next friday with my girlfriend...it's her friend's party. The thing is i wont know anyone there, just my girlfriend! what do I do at it....just stand around like a plank what with not knowing anyone?!? Any suggestions/comments greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

Er, you could start by not standing around looking like a plank?

Every person you ever knew or friend you have or ever did have, there had to be a first meeting at some time. Meeting new people is always a little daunting, especially if you're a bit shy (sounds like you might be) but provided your gf's friends aren't a pack of total divas it shouldn't be that difficult to make conversation and chat to them. Just be friendly and you'll be grand. Always a tad awkward at the start but once the beer starts flowing you'll probably have people blathering on at you like you've known them for 10years.

MooseJam

I think if she is dragging you along to do's where you don't know anyone without any concern for your feelings well then she isn't the girl for you, give some thought to dumping her

Tar.Aldarion

Go travelling.

MugMugs

MooseJam wrote: »

I think if she is dragging you along to do's where you don't know anyone without any concern for your feelings well then she isn't the girl for you, give some thought to dumping her

A bit harsh maybe ?

Piste

I HATE those parties where you just know one person! I suppose just try to make conversation with her friends- no doubt she'll make a beeline for her mates at the party and introduce you, conversation will happen and you can just participate in that.

Though it could be that they start talking about someone/something you havent a clue about, in which case my only practical suggestion is to whip out your mobile and text someone so you look like you're in demand.

You never know, you might end up running into someone you know at the party.

cafecolour

Stick with her initially, and she should introduce you to people. Or if she's social stupid like that and doesn't think to do introductions, introduce yourself to the people she's talking with (make sure you do the whole group at once preferably - so it doesn't come off like 'dude talking to my girl - back off).

She'll wander to new people as they come in (very quickly, as it's her party). Stay talking to the people she just introduced you to for a bit. If the conversation dies down or people wander off, just find her again and repeat the process.

cafecolour

Actually, the advice I just gave is pretty generic advice for going to a party with a friend when you don't know anyone else. It's a lot easier as the BF. If you've not met her good friends who are here before, I assure you there will be several who are dying to find out what the new boyfriend is like, and will hunt you down to make conversation.