Still living at home

LegacyUser

ok so im just after turning 27 and im still living at home, its starting to get me really down, Is it normal to be 27 and still living with your parents dublin?

Kevster

Hi,

I believe that it is more common than you are currently thinking. Now, especially, I think you will find people may even be moving back home to their parents' house as the economy struggles along. So, basically, don't feel bad about it. However, you should always have the thought in the back of your head that you would be better-off and happier having your own place to call home.

Kevin

Karen_*

Its normal. But if you're not happy then make plans to move out.

MugMugs

It aint the end of the world dude but space is just a killer thing.

If your working and funding your mother and father through rent then you can afford to fund somebody else and get a bit of independence.

Or you can stay with them a bit longer and save for some of your own digs !

Only you can get you out of the house and I can only assume that your parents are looking forward to a bit of their own space.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Kevster wrote: »

Hi,

I believe that it is more common than you are currently thinking. Now, especially, I think you will find people may even be moving back home to their parents' house as the economy struggles along. So, basically, don't feel bad about it. However, you should always have the thought in the back of your head that you would be better-off and happier having your own place to call home.

Kevin

Agreed. I've certrainly known people who were older (myself being one!)

brianthebard

Have you a job? If so I would definitely start making plans to move out soon. Is there a reason you have stayed at home until now?

Ruu_Old

If it is getting you down then move out unless financial issues or something else is stopping you. Many of my friends are using their folks place so they can save for a house, common enough.

Dudess

When you're in Dublin, no, I personally don't see anything wrong with it - as long as you have a car and pay towards bills/other costs and have a partner's/mates' places to stay in. If your folks don't have a problem with it, no need to feel bad. I know of plenty of people your age and older who still live at home. Those from the country have to move out but you don't so why feel obliged to? You'll be moving out for good eventually - maybe even quite soon.

MagicMarker

Unr9gis6ered659 wrote: »

ok so im just after turning 27 and im still living at home, its starting to get me really down, Is it normal to be 27 and still living with your parents dublin?

Some people would probably think it's a bit strange, but so what?

My brother lives at home, he's 31. It's only him and my mother there, they both pay pills etc, they're more like housemates really. He doesn't want to rent because he sees it as a waste of money, so he's saving to buy a house.

But if you aren't happy, then move out.

I think it is entirely dependant on the situation.
It depends on weather you are paying your way, and helping out, and generally behaving and being treated like an adult or not.
And also your reasons for living at home factor into it as well.

If I met someone and they were still living at home without good reason, then I wouldn't be interested to be honest.

bnagrrl

Unr9gis6ered659 wrote: »

ok so im just after turning 27 and im still living at home, its starting to get me really down, Is it normal to be 27 and still living with your parents dublin?

Yes, house prices are ridiculous at the moment.

Personally I see nothing wrong with it. As long as you are paying you way and not sponging off your folks, what's the big deal?

Living at home has it'd benefits ya know; if you're paying your keep I'm sure it's a lot less than what you'd be paying if you were really renting so you should be able to put some money aside to get your own place.

Dudess

Seeing as you already live in the capital city I think it would be kinda a waste to pay the astronomical rent charged there. But have you a car?

IanCurtis

bnagrrl wrote: »

Yes, house prices are ridiculous at the moment.

Personally I see nothing wrong with it. As long as you are paying you way and not sponging off your folks, what's the big deal?

Living at home has it'd benefits ya know; if you're paying your keep I'm sure it's a lot less than what you'd be paying if you were really renting so you should be able to put some money aside to get your own place.

I disagree.

Once you're an adult you should be out of the family nest...that's the natural normal thing to do. This "saving for a house" crap is a load of tosh.

It's nothing to do with money, it's to do with giving your parents back their life.

After 18 years, you should be out. I was 20....2 years too late.

Dudess

Dudess wrote: »

But have you a car?

I missing your line of thinking here....how does that effect anything?

Lafortezza

You missed out on the fun and independance of living away from your parents for the first 7 years of your twenties. Hope you enjoyed it though.

Daithi McGee

Unr9gis6ered659 wrote: »

ok so im just after turning 27 and im still living at home, its starting to get me really down, Is it normal to be 27 and still living with your parents dublin?

It is quite normal and common all over the world never mind Ireland. That is not really the point if the true issue is it is getting you down? Now is it living there that is getting you down or just the fact that you think that being 27 and living at home is wrong?

LegacyUser

Yeah i have a car alright,

i went to to oz for a year and came back in june 07 and its been hard to get back to real life and its only really hit me in the last few months that i'm 27 now and should really be moving out - i pay my mother a few hundred a month and she's delighted with that, i recently broke up with my girlfriend so im not in a position to pay 1300 a month to rent out an apartment on my own

Just a little advice - its great getting away for the year travelling but its very difficult when you get home to get things back on track

Dudess

That sounds fair enough - and at least with Oz you've some experience of living out of home. Don't fret it, you're not the only one by a long shot. And there are some people who've never lived away from home and are even older than you - my brother's in his mid 30s and some of his mates haven't moved out yet. And it's not because they're losers, it's because they have it so damn easy at home. And they live in the city so they're near everything.
Gone are the days when only saddos lived at home with their mammies, things are very different today because there's no emphasis on settling down at a particular age like there once was. And it's so expensive to rent too.

Moonbaby wrote: »

I missing your line of thinking here....how does that effect anything?

Well that at least gives some level of independence. I had to move home for a while, and having a car meant I was free to do my own thing in the evenings.

fasty

I think it's worth moving out, even if you're spending the money on rent for the sake of your own independence. It's not sad, but you don't know what you're missing in my opinion.

I rent, and most of my friends own places with friends or girlfriends and they think I'm mad spending money on rent, but it's the price you pay for your own space. I still get to put money away for a deposit on a house.

JDLK

Mate move out for Christ sake, move to a city or to another country for a while- start living independantly and discovering who you are before its too late

MagicMarker

Unrered3765 wrote: »

Yeah i have a car alright,

i went to to oz for a year and came back in june 07 and its been hard to get back to real life and its only really hit me in the last few months that i'm 27 now and should really be moving out - i pay my mother a few hundred a month and she's delighted with that, i recently broke up with my girlfriend so im not in a position to pay 1300 a month to rent out an apartment on my own

Just a little advice - its great getting away for the year travelling but its very difficult when you get home to get things back on track

You don't have to rent your own place, that's a bit of a cop out. Sounds like you're just making up excuses to stay at home, why not just rent with others? 400 euro will get you a single room practically anywhere in Dublin..

Helix

im 25 and live at home. im emigrating in a couple of years so i dont see the point in wasting money that i could be saving on rent when theres a house here for me to live in if i want to.

move out if you feel you have to by all means, but i wouldnt base it on feeling you should more than actually wanting to. the money you could save living at home for a couple of years is a considerable bit more than you could manage if you were spunking 500 for rent, then bills and groceries every month so maybe set yourself a target of cash money and stick to your intention to move out when you reach it

Helix

MagicMarker wrote: »

400 euro will get you a single room practically anywhere in Dublin..

it will in me bum. 400 would get you a shared room in a dive if youre lucky

MagicMarker

Helix wrote: »

it will in me bum. 400 would get you a shared room in a dive if youre lucky

Sigh...

There's 10+ pages there of places for 400 or less.

Read through them OP.

Firetrap

OP, you should move out and share a house somewhere. You can't be a fully fledged adult in your parents' house. Definitely investigate sharing a house with others. It's not necessarily a bad thing - I've made some great friends from people I house shared with.

girl2

I dont think theres anything wrong with it at all. I think it all depends on people's circumstances. All my siblings have left home, gone to university, and returned home again.

Think nothing of it, in my opinion.

C

Helix

Firetrap wrote: »

OP, you should move out and share a house somewhere. You can't be a fully fledged adult in your parents' house. Definitely investigate sharing a house with others. It's not necessarily a bad thing - I've made some great friends from people I house shared with.

i dont see why people think this, do you have hugely smothering parents who butt into your business and dont treat you as grownups or something?

Shelflife

i would look into moving out, for your own sake and your parents they need a bit of time together as well.

i think that it would suit you better on the social scene as well as life in general. its easy get into a rut and then your stuck at home.

get out spread your wings , make mistakes and live life.

Dudess

MagicMarker wrote: »

You don't have to rent your own place

I agree. You could rent with two or three others.

click4444

I understand man, I moved out 2years ago I'm 30:eek:. Had to rent outside Dublin but still work in Dublin I love it, should have moved out when I was 20.

LegacyUser

I moved back home after I lost my job a few years ago, I'd been out of home for over 7 years, didn't mind sharing in college (with friends) but hated it in Dublin, esp when I wasn't in good form. Moved home and got a job in Dublin, was planning to move to Dublin but scrapped it after I found I preferred at home, Kinda turned my room into a Granny flat and rarely see the folks except at weekends and find we're good at helping each other out. When I afford to buy/build my own house I'll go (or they want me to) but until then Im quite content (99% of the time)

i dont see why people think this, do you have hugely smothering parents who butt into your business and dont treat you as grownups or something?

Nothing wrong with living at home if you and your parents prefer it that way, but you're kidding yourself if you think you can be as independent as you can on your own. You just can't, for a huge number of reasons, and it doesn't matter how cool your parents are.

Helix

[quote=[Deleted User];57324051]Nothing wrong with living at home if you and your parents prefer it that way, but you're kidding yourself if you think you can be as independent as you can on your own. You just can't, for a huge number of reasons, and it doesn't matter how cool your parents are.[/QUOTE]

well ive lived on my own abroad, and to be perfectly honest i never got up to anything i wouldnt get up to right now. its possible thats just me and my family dynamic, and that im the exception to the rule, but id act no different or get up to anything different living in my own place than i do now

sunnyside

Living away from your parents and being entirely responsible for bill paying, putting food on the table, etc teaches you a level of responsibility and independence which is very useful in life.

From what I can see lots of people choose to stay at home for longer. It's definitely normal these days even if some people disapprove.

lolli

Op,

I personally would rather live at home with my parents than getting into a house share with people I dont know. I moved to Dublin at 18 and moved back to my parents house when I finished college, I've been there since, I get on great with them, I currently stay between my boyfriends and my parents houses. I see no problem staying with my parents, I get on great with them, they want me to stay there, so as long as everyone is getting on I dont see why it should be a problem. In the long term wouldnt you be better saving money and saving for your own house rather than wasting a fortune every month giving rent to a stranger. I personally would rather give that money to my parents than to a pure stranger to live with people that I dont know.

coillcam

I'm back home living with my Dad now aged 22. I've spent the majority of the last 4 years in Galway and about 6/7months in Dublin. It's great to be home again for a while but as soon as I get a job I'm moving out again without question.

I suppose it's down to the person in question. 2 of my uncles lived at home until they got married and had reached their 30's by then. Some people are comfortable with it, others aren't and some parents like having their children around. Even Ireland's Olympic silver medal champion Kenny Egan still lives at home so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

TEDDYBEAR90

I dont think it should be a big concern to be living at home at 27. My sister is 31 and still living at home, she bought an apartment but it wont be built for another year so she's saving money and staying at home until its ready for her to move in to. The way she sees it is she could afford to rent but thats money she could put towards the apartment. And my parents are cool with that. Loads of people are in the same boat as you. People put too much pressure on each other if you ask me. If its a major worry just start putting a bit of money aside and look into renting / buying.

Firetrap

Helix wrote: »

i dont see why people think this, do you have hugely smothering parents who butt into your business and dont treat you as grownups or something?

No, I wouldn't describe my parents as that. But it's easier to have a boyfriend and a physical relationship when not living under my parents' roof. I don't have to have meals at set times like what they do or if I want something to eat, have to make something for the three of us. Parents are nice to visit but once you grow up, you should get out.