Wanna move on...

LegacyUser

i'll try keep this as short as possible, im 26, going out with gf for 4 and half years, split up with her 2 months ago. looking back now, it seems that i was more in love with her then she was with me. hindsight is a great thing though. while we got on great and probably did at one stage love each other alot, there where things about us that where very different. we rarely argued, but when we did, the arguements would last for 3/4 days and drained both of us of all energy.

we talked about once a week since we broke up and there was no sign of us getting back together, she has made it clear that she is happy that it is for the best for her to move on. tbh, im kinda annoyed the way she seemed to be happy enough to give everything up so easily in the end considering i thought she loved me like she said she did.

anyway thing is, i loved her so much, and have found the break up hard to deal with at times. im generally very outgoing so friends/family have all commented on how well i am dealing with the break up. i have been out a good bit trying to keep my mind off it but that doesnt seem to work. and when i am not out, i find myself thinking about us alot as well. while i am very outgoing, sometimes i am not near as confident as people think. i just want to now try move on and go back to the person i was before we went out but i am finding it hard to do. any suggestions? how can i stop being angry/upset about the whole thing and start enjoying being me again?

wicklowgal

I no this is gonna sound like a cliché but im afraid u just have to give it time.






or u could have a series of 1 night stands,whichever floats your boat!

bnagrrl

You were with this girl for 4.5 years, it's going to take some time for you to "mourn" the loss of the relationship and move on, but it will happen with time.

I think it's nearly always the case that one person is more into the other person in a relationship.

Try to occupy your mind, go out with friends, get involved in things, take up a new hobby or sport. If you're on your own, stick on a dvd, go for a walk or read a book. Try not to dwell on it; time heals all wounds.

LegacyUser

thats what i am saying though, when i am out with friends, and alot of them have girlfriends, it makes me think about what i have lost. but on the other hand when i dont go out, i am usually thinking about her again anyway. just wanna give my mind a rest from it all and try start enjoying myself again. i feel i should be enjoying myself cause i am single again, but in reality im not, cause i miss her.....

LegacyUser

thats what i am saying though, when i go out with friends, most who have girlfriends at the moment, i think of what i have lost, and then when i am not out, im thinking about her again...

i feel i should be enjoying myself, being single again for the first time in years, but in reality i am not happy, either being out, or being at home. is time the only thing that will help, cause its been 2 months now, and i feel no better about things now then i did when we broke up?

bnagrrl

I don't know how long it will take for you to move on, you could wake up tomorrow and be over it, or it could take months. Four years is a long time to be with someone and then suddenly not have them in your life. Really, the only thing you can do is try to occupy yourself and give it time. The more you dwell on how miserable you feel, the harder it will be. This too shall pass. Take care.

MugMugs

I am in exactly the same boat dude. I mean exactly. Same ages, same time frames and same circumstances.

Difference is that I cut all contact. Killed it completely. Family have seen and spoken to her but not I. I get down too and keep thinking about things and the way it was and all that. I am even dreading Christmas already cos I know it is going to be **** but you just gotta pick yerself up.

Like somebody said, start a new sport / hobby. You will be suprised how many other geezers u meet in the same boat. Go out with them and have a bit of craic ! Live it up.

Working for me so far