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A Rant - sort of

  • 17-09-2008 9:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Okay, I'm not really sure what I'm expecting out of this except maybe just to vent a little frustration.

    Right, I'm a 25 year old guy, and early this year myself and my girlfriend ended it after almost 6 years. Although we both agreed to the split obviously there was a bit of anger and mixed feelings going on afterwards and so we stopped talking for a while and I kept myself busy to keep my mind of things, mostly with work. Eventually it all caught up with me and so I started to go out a fair bit and get a bit too drunk. After a few weeks I calmed down and started to go back to normal. Even started talking to the ex and managing to stay good friends.

    Now for the problem. I've been working in a large company ever since I left college and I've climbed the ladders in it a bit, which is all well and good except work kind of took over my life. The result is that most of my current friends are all older people with their own families and they don't particularly head out much or socialise anywhere except the golf course. I'm at a stage now where I'm very lonely and although I do have a few friends in my age group that live here, they are all male and married/have kids and don't particularly head out much too or have much time for anything else really.

    I've tried heading out on my own and just trying to meet new people and it's like I don't know how to talk to people anymore. I find this really wierd because a few years back when I lived at home or when I was in college I had loads of friends and was able to talk to anyone about anything. Even keep a conversation going with a turnip (true story). I'm finding it particularly hard to meet girls. Now I'm not an ugly guy, I may have put on a few pounds over the past couple of years but nothing more than any other average guy does when they hit the mid 20s. It's really getting to me lately and I'm just down about the whole thing. I could head out with my old friends ( my ex's friends ) but they are all 15 miles away in her home town and to be honest I'm better off starting fresh. I'm almost tempted to leave my job and hopefully get back in with all my old friends but I think I'd be foolish to leave after working so hard at it for so long.

    Ha I knew I'd end up ranting. Ah well at least it's vented out now.

    I just don't know what to do.

    Any and all advice welcome :)


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    I think that the biggest thing you should realise in your situation is that change is good thing to embrace. I'm sure, for example, that there are many things in your life at present that rekindle old and faded memories that no longer serve you any purpose. So, your way forward is to embrace change - i.e. face-up to what you would normally do, and then say to yourself that you're going to do things different from now on.

    Going out on your own isn't ideal because, typically, people go out in groups and are afraid to go outside the 'safety-net' that their group provides. So, I strongly suggest joining a club/society that involves something you've always wanted to do, but have never done.

    Take care,
    Kevin


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