how to approach...

LegacyUser

This really isnt as serious as some of the PIs here but id really appreciate people's opinions... or just tell us to grow up and stop acting like 13 year olds..

Anyway, there's this guy and over the past few months we had a few incidents of kissing etc, brought about by a mutual friend telling us both that we both liked each other. So we kissed a few times on nights out and had great text talks.
We didnt see each other then for a few weeks, there were no parties or nights out that we'd both be at. We hadnt talked in about 2 or 3 weeks when out of nowhere he started texting me again. So since then we've been texting a bit and still getting along great. I was talking to mutual friend the other day and he says we're both well into each other, its crazy that we're still not together and that he thinks were both being stupid for being too shy to say something to the other one about it. He says that im going to have to say something becasue this guy is too shy to say something first and we're probably not likely to see each other for the forseeable future unless we arrange it ourselves.
So what I want to know is... should I just stop ****ing around and text him and try to bring up the subject?? What would I even say?? I can't believe we're both acting like such kids, when we're in our early 20s!!
Would a guy be absolutely taken aback by a girl initiating things? It's just getting frustrating at this stage...
any opinions appreciated!

beth-lou

Just text him now and ask would he like to meet up for a drink. Simple as. If he says no, then so what? I bet he will say yes though. Your friend has already confirmed it. Do it now.

_blank_

Ring him, not text.

And, no. He won't be "totally taken aback" by a girl initiating things. Flattered more like.

Miss Fluff

Phone him and ask him if he wants to meet up for a few drinks

Pipette

Just text him now and ask if wants to go for a drink...you already have a pretty good idea he will say yes from what his friend says so u have nothing to lose!! if he says no then at least you know you wont have to see him again for a good while! I know people say ring but if you are more comfortable with texting do that...just as long as you do something!!!

Singer73

Phone - don't text.
Voices are much more human than texts.

Pigletlover

Text him and ask him if he wants to meet up for a drink or go to the cinema. If (in the unlikey event) he says no, there wont be any awkward silences. After a couple of dates and when you know where you stand you can ring.

nolly23

OP you said you have been texting each other quite a bit and seem to be really getting on..... so casually mention in one of your text messages that ye should go to...cinema/pub or whatever and see what happens. That way you are not making it a huge thing asking him out but just suggesting ye meet up!!!!!

Drift

I'd go for the straight out approach OP if you're doing it by texts. Texts can and are often misread so if you have to do it by text make it clear:

"Would you like to go to the cinema with me on friday night?"

or if you're super cool:

"wud u lyk 2 go 2 cnma wd me fri nyt?"

If you want to do it in a beat about the bush sort of way you'll have to do if face to face or at least by phone and if he's as shy as you say he won't get the hint. The only way to ask someone out by text is to be direct. If it's the cinema or drinks make sure you include the "with me" because otherwise he might think it's a group thing.

If it was me I'd be well flattered either by phone or by text. Also unless the guy is as thick as 2 planks there's no way this will catch him by surprise. You've kissed before ... multiple times!

mardybumbum

OP, do I know you!!!!!! :eek:

Miss Fluff

mardybumbum wrote: »

OP, do I know you!!!!!! :eek:

Well if you do, why don't you phone her and ask HER out for a few drinks;)

Pen1987

Dont just text him str8 out, if a girl did that to me id get 'deer in the headlights' and either not reply or just make up an excuse.

Mention in the middle of the conversation 'what are you doing for the weekend?'... *response* 'Really, I've no plans for saturday, we could go for a drink together if youre around'... that way your not asking him, youre more inferring at him that he should ask you...

GeorgeCostanza

unreg98756 wrote: »

had great text talks.

unreg98756 wrote: »

text him and try to bring up the subject??

unreg98756 wrote: »

just tell us to grow up and stop acting like 13 year olds..

You said it. Call the guy on the telephone and try to have an adult conversation. "should I text him?", jesus ... :rolleyes: