Boyfriend is very moody

LegacyUser

Just looking for some advice here. Lately my boyfriends moods are really bad he can go from being fine one day and the next he is really down and wont even speak to me.
I don't know what to do as he is having problems at home and not really getting on with his mother or rest of the family.
He is 31 and im 24 and we have been together for nearly two years now. He wasn't always like this

owenmakken

wow i was havin 2nd taughts about goin for a girl with same age gap(24,17), but goin try for it now -

as for your problem mood swings can be an early sign of depression, if he's not already there.

Cuddlesworth

Unreg?????? wrote: »

Just looking for some advice here. Lately my boyfriends moods are really bad he can go from being fine one day and the next he is really down and wont even speak to me.
I don't know what to do as he is having problems at home and not really getting on with his mother or rest of the family.
He is 31 and im 24 and we have been together for nearly two years now. He wasn't always like this

You already answered your question, people get depressed and emotional when going through rough patch. A strong supportive relationship will work through it but its not going to be easy.

owenmakken wrote: »

wow i was havin 2nd taughts about goin for a girl with same age gap(24,17), but goin try for it now -

Big difference, not in age gaps but in maturity gaps.

Setun

Serious mood swings would usually be indicative of mental health problems, and some people find it difficult if not almost impossible to discuss them, even with a close friend or partner. If he is having trouble at home and you think it is likely that he may be suffering from depression don't take his mood swings personally.

If you think he would like to talk about the problems give him some support, but to reiterate what I said above it's not as easy for some people to discuss such matters openly.

shenanigans1982

I used to be like this with my OH. We only used to see each other on weekends and all week I could not wait to see her but when we did I would start over the smallest thing. I noticed that I always had to be arguing with someone, if it was not her I would be arguing with my brother, parents, friends or someone in work. I don't think it always goes back to being depressed maybe he just needs to do what I did and cop on and realise what he has.

MagicMarker

Unreg?????? wrote: »

Just looking for some advice here. Lately my boyfriends moods are really bad he can go from being fine one day and the next he is really down and wont even speak to me.
I don't know what to do as he is having problems at home and not really getting on with his mother or rest of the family.
He is 31 and im 24 and we have been together for nearly two years now. He wasn't always like this

Does he still live with his mother?

vincenzo1975

sounds like he needs to be on his own two feet to me, suggest getting a place together.

LegacyUser

He only recently moved back home to live with his mother he had been living in his own flat but he got really lonely. Us moving in together isnt really an option at the moment as I'm tied to a mortgage with my sister we only have it about 6 months so it's too early to move out and get my name off the house.

nomorebadtown

Unreg?????? wrote: »

He only recently moved back home to live with his mother he had been living in his own flat but he got really lonely. Us moving in together isnt really an option at the moment as I'm tied to a mortgage with my sister we only have it about 6 months so it's too early to move out and get my name off the house.

He got really lonely so he moved back in with his mother? instead of you or even getting a friend to be a housemate or whatever? Something is not right there. When a 31 year old man moves back to live with his mother due to 'loneliness' you can bet there is something else going on. Only option here is, in a gentle and supportive way, to ask him whats going on.

pwd

maybe his mother or another family member is saying mean **** about you. It might explain his not getting on with them too. People changing their attitudes towards you without apparent cause is often down to people saying stuff behind your back.

AARRRGH

I agree with the other people about him being depressed or stressed, but it's also possible you're finally seeing the "real" him.

I went out with a girl for a while. After about two years she became somewhat abusive and unpleasant. It turns out this was the "real" her, and previous to this I had been seeing her happy mask.

I guess what I'm trying to say is if his behaviour continues and he doesn't seem to be getting any better or doesn't want to get any better, rethink whether or not you want to stay with him.