Fella clingy to phone

LegacyUser

I met a lovely fella a few weeks ago and he is a fun fella except for his phone. He spends forever on his phone, whether calling someone or texting them. He cant put it down. Sometimes i feel as if im second to his phone (i dont expect to be his first on his list either after a few weeks, but i feel as if the phone always comes first). There is other things in life besides the phone.
The other day i left my phone at home and after a day of work i had received about 20 msgs in the one hour from him because i couldn't text him back. Messages like why arent you talking to me, and if you dont want to talk just say so. Its fairly cop on if you dont get a reply, there is a number of reasons - busy, out of credit etc. He expects me to be at the other end of the phone just because he is.
Its not the first time either. I dont always have time to text/call. I dont like wasting my life away at a phone and i could live without it and most of my friends can too. They realise that if im not there, i cant text back instead of sending another million texts.

What do i do?

Nevyn

Don't jump and reply to him when he starts texting.
Explain to him you don't always have your phone on you.
When he starts taking phone called when he is with you get up and walk away from him
and let him come find you, explain that you were giving him some privacy to talk on the phone as clearly it was more important then talking to you.

Dwn Wth Vwls

Clingy.to.phone wrote: »

The other day i left my phone at home and after a day of work i had received about 20 msgs in the one hour from him because i couldn't text him back. Messages like why arent you talking to me, and if you dont want to talk just say so.

That's a bit scary. Is he really young? It sounds a bit like he thinks the world revolves around him and his phone, I kinda doubt that's going to change anytime soon unless someone says something to him.

sam34

Clingy.to.phone wrote: »

The other day i left my phone at home and after a day of work i had received about 20 msgs in the one hour from him because i couldn't text him back. Messages like why arent you talking to me, and if you dont want to talk just say so.

this kind of behaviour rings alarm bells for me. i had a boyfriend once who was really similar, texting repeatedly, i came home from a 10 min walk to shop once to find 11 missed calls on my mobile and 6 on my landline. this guy was very controlling, possessive and jealous. in fact he was a psychopath.
while your fella may noy be as bad as mine was, i would say be careful.

ciano6

i don't have a mobile and my girlfriend says that sometimes it can be annoying. so you could think of the other extreme. personally i think that anyone who is so attached to a phone has problems. unless he works for the emergency services, there should be no reason for having a phone attached to him 24-7.
incidently, the reason I got rid of my phone was that one of my best buddies got a brain tumour 4 years ago and was always on the phone...:eek:

towel401

Wow, if I sent a girl 20 messages in a row I'd be typing this post from a laptop smuggled into my prison cell.

**** it, I'd be done for stalking, sexual harassment and god knows what else. I'd never see daylight again

Not every guy who does it has to be bad. but there is an overwhelming sense of paranoia about guys who call / text too often. it doesn't take long before people start to think he's a stalker or infatuated or something. If I call a chick from a different number to see if she's ignoring me then she thinks i'm a stalker and never wants to talk to me again. I really don't know how this guy gets away with it without everyone running a mile from him thinking he is some sort of freak.

Texting is a ****ty way to communicate.