Not handling things well

LegacyUser

Hi everyone. Im not quite sure how to start this post, but i'm just looking for anyones help or advice. I'm 18, in my last year in school. But for the last year at times I've just felt really low. I feel like its one issue after another, and Im not so sure how much more I can handle. Im always anxious, I get worried about stupid stuff which makes everything so much worse. When I go to bed at night, I just cry for ages, and sometimes Im not even sure whats wrong with me. I have a tendancy to bottle things up -but sometimes Ifeel like I really want to turn to someone and just be protected, but I dont know who. And when I say something and ask for help, I always feel like an idiot later.

Any advice would be great

Wurly

Hi there OP. What are the issues you speak of?

Can you elaborate on your post a little more? Do you have friends you can count on?

What exactly does be going through your head when you feel these 'low' periods?

What do you do with your spare time?

Thanks

taz30

dont worry bout the small stuff!just relax and chill out,these things will pass ,you will get over them.every crap experience we go through just makes us wiser and tougher!try not to dwell on the bad things,its harder then it sounds ,but seriously try not to dwell!i used to and it really brought me down-it was only when i focused on what good i could make for myself ,thats when things got better and made sense.keep your head up!

geminilady

Hi tessa,

what your experiencing is totally normal, teenage years are really tough, but what you need to look at is how long you have been feeling this way. A year feeling this way, needs to be addressed.

There is so many people that are anxious about things, cognitive behavioural therapy might help you.

The great thing is that you're realising you need to talk to someone, its so much better than bottling things up.Sometimes i feel like things could be only small and when you bottle them up they just grow out of porportion. Have you thought about writing a diary if you feel you can't talk to someone?

Perhaps you should talk to you're GP and they may refer you to a specialist. You could even print this out?

But do see someone, or talk to a close friend, you're going on the right track.

Do something you enjoy, perhaps take up a new hobby or do something you really wanna do that you never seemed to get round to.

x

LegacyUser

Tri wrote: »

Hi there OP. What are the issues you speak of?

My family have always fought ALOT. Not me, just my parents and my older sister. My family isnt close, although im close with my extended family if that makes sense.
My mum is recovering from an eating disorder. My grandad died a month ago. I found last year really tough, my group of friends spilt. However I have a close group now, but at times they can be a bit judgemental. I do have a best friend(of 5 years now), one of the most important people to me. She also told me she has an eating disorder, and I know i'm not the one with the problem, but I found it really tough to accept.

Tri wrote: »

What exactly does be going through your head when you feel these 'low' periods?

Its hard to explain, I just feel so overwhelmed. I'm sick of things always being the same **** day in day out. When a row at home is over... of course there's relief, but I know there'll be another pretty soon.

Tri wrote: »

What do you do with your spare time?

Since I'm in 6th year... spare time has gone down the pan! In school every day till 7. On the weekend I would just go out with my friends.

K-Bowie

People always have these feelings no matter what walk of life they come from, I personally deal with any issues that might arise at the moment One that comes to mind is me repeating my leaving cert and see all my friends goto college - Damn this time next year i'm going to be going to somewhere similar and enjoy it all no matter what. I hope everything works out for you and don't worry you will also be heading off to college next year and its going to be great

Miss Fluff

Tri wrote: »

Hi there OP. What are the issues you speak of?

Can you elaborate on your post a little more? Do you have friends you can count on?

What exactly does be going through your head when you feel these 'low' periods?

What do you do with your spare time?

Thanks

+1, what causes you to feel like this OP?

LegacyUser

Hey just seen your message and thought I would reply because I know exactly how you feel-largely because its how I used to be. Looking back I dont really know what it was probably a mixture of teenage hormones combined with a predisposition to certain mood swings etc. I was at that stage battling with OCD, Bulimia, Anxiety disorders and mood swings. I know how hard the downs can be and how trivial things can cause them. The very fact that you worry shows you are a deepthinker something which I can emphasis with, the anxiety is the worst-I still suffer although to a much lesser extent. How did I overcome it? Well my technique along with the help of family was to imagine the worst possible thing happening as a result of my fear and deciding how I could cope with it and overall changing my attitude. Also get active dwelling on things too much adds fuel to the fire. If you are a deepthinker like me keep your mind preoccupied, a mind such as this whicle causing these problems can be used to your advantage. The main reason why I have come on so much is because I made the effort to live life to the full. Do I still have bad days? Sure I do and the lows still come although there much less frequent and Im better able to cope. Its all a learning curve. You mention you are in final year in school why not write a list of goals of where you see yourself in a years time-at college, work etc and strive to achieve them. Include smaller goals also-achieving each one and marking it off on the list will give you a sense of fulfillment while striving to achieve will keep your mind preoccupied and stop the worrying. Remember-Whats the worst that can happen? Deal with it and remember it hasnt happened yet so rejoice in the fact that life is good instead of fearing that some day it might change. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. I hope you feel better soon.:)

wexford1

Quiet alot of people have anxiety disorders with symptons like you mentioned. The good news is it can be managed with the therapy. There is a therapy group called Recovery that can and will help you. It takes time, effort and patience but worth every minute of it. In there you will see that people think exactly like you do, e.g. always thinking the worst, making dire emergencys out of trivialities etc and you will learn how to alter you thoughts and behavior to adjust. there is a group in Dublin for young people if you're from Dublin. Try and go if at all possible. In time, you won't be disappointed.

http://www.recovery-inc.com/

http://www.recovery-inc-ireland.ie/meetings4print.htm

LegacyUser

Thanks for the link, I'll have a look.

Alot of the time it's just my family, they argue so much it just makes me so tense.
I was away for a month, and it was great.. and the day i got back, i was thrown back into the usual crap