Should I move in to his house for a month!?

LegacyUser

I've been going out with my boyfriend for 9 months. We're both in our early 20's.
We live around the corner from each other in separate rented accommodation. Recently, we've both had some money difficulties due to job loss etc. I'm far away from friends and family and I might have to move home because of this if I don't find another job. My boyfriend suggested that I move in to his rented room next month...so we'd half the rent. Just for a month to help us both out. It seemed like a really logical and good idea when he mentioned it.
Now that I've been thinking about it... I'm not sure if I'm just being negative or if I'm right to think it's an awful idea for us to live together for a month just because of money problems. I mentioned this to him and again he said we'd be 'helping each other out'. Same thing in my opinion. He couldn't give me any other reason why he'd want me to stay with him for a month, so I'm thinking it has to be all down to the money... not my original idea that he was also being sweet wanting us to be closer etc.

I'd love to have moved in with him if that's what he really wanted. Maybe I was wrong to have some idealistic thing in my head about if I was going out with a guy and if he ever wanted me to move in with him...even for a month, it was because he loved me, not because he was short on cash.

Now, seeing he couldn't tell me another single reason other than 'helping each other out', for me to live in his room for a month, I'm getting confused about how he feels about me. He's never told me he loves me and I strongly doubt he does. Am I just being ridiculously silly about this whole situation!?. Any opinions are welcome.

humanji

Maybe he just doesn't know how to say that he actually wants you there? He could be saying that in order to have you move in and he hopes you stay. To be honest, I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. If it makes sense financially to move in and you can't see any down side, then do it.

Some people find it hard to articulate their feelings. He sounds like one of them.

MagicMarker

needopinions13 wrote: »

Am I just being ridiculously silly about this whole situation!?

Yes.

Jack B. Badd

needopinions13 wrote: »

Maybe I was wrong to have some idealistic thing in my head about if I was going out with a guy and if he ever wanted me to move in with him...even for a month, it was because he loved me, not because he was short on cash.

Maybe you are wrong to be ungrateful when you're boyfriend is quite obviously trying to be helpful...

Fine, you'd like him to invite you to live with him for romantic reasons and are a bit miffed that this isn't the case. However he is trying to help you and you'd probably be in a worse position if he had just left you to sort yourself out. Talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth.

mbren

I think your reading way too much into the situation to be honest!! I'd imagine in his eyes, it goes without saying that he wants the 2 of you to be closer, as well as helping each other out.

Move in, have a great time and try to forget about the money problems ;-)

witzky

Mabe he doesn't want you to think he is been sleezly in asking you to stay with him. After all 9 months isnt very long time and in my opinion as a guy I reckon he doesnt want you getting the wrong end of the stick, ie. him wanting you to move in for sex etc..

Hope this helps..

W:D

marti101

Plus hes not putting pressure on you,maybe he wants you to move in for a month like a trial run but if it doesnt work out you will be gone in a month anyway.And after the month is over see what the situation is like then and decide.

Overheal

He the Shy type?