Stupid situation with ex-gf... Should I just ignore her?

LepperJoe

I'm 26, ex is 25.

I dated this girl for 3 years and (and it's now 2.5 years since we broke up).

We tried to remain friends as we do have mutual friends so it would obviously be a problem if we didn't get along.

As you can imagine, it's not easy being friends with an ex. For whatever reason she was always getting upset with me or just not acting very nice. (And trust me, I know she has no interest in getting back together - nor do I).

I finally questioned her about it (in an email) and all she said was that she thinks nothing bad of me but "our friendship has run its course" (which surprised me because she's been saying for 2 years that she didn't want to lose me as a friend). I didn't reply.

I just assumed that was the end and I wasn't going to bother talking with her again.

I haven't heard from her in over two months and out of the blue she leaves me a message on facebook commenting on a photo of me with a baby dear and asking me where i took the photo.

Everytime we've ever gone through these not-talking spells, she's always done something subtle like this. She'd never just phone and say hi.

I like her as a friend and wouldn't mind talking to her again, but part of me just feels like I shouldn't be responding to this. She said it was over, so I feel like if she want's to patch things up, she's gonna have to do more than commenting on a photo.

It feels childish on my part though, assuming she's trying to get an open dialog again.

Thoughts?

hussey

Facebook friends != friends.

I wouldn't worry too much about it, commenting on a photo could just be that.

You can always be the better man and answer it directly then forget about it, or if you want to get rid of her completely remove her as a FB friend.

Overheal

ex can always mean excluded. make your profile private and delete her.

If you want to be friends with her but you dont want the bull****, you're going to have to tell her that. but honestly if she hasnt grown up by now whats the point? either bury the can of worms or open it. your call.

LolaLuv

I would just ignore her. She sounds like a bit of a drama queen. There's nothing more dramatic than breaking it off with a friend, it's so unnecessary. I wouldn't knock her off Facebook either, just don't respond at all. If she needs more drama in her life and wants to make a big deal about being friends with you once again, then see how you feel at that time.

StockCube

I would ignore the photo comment tbh - It's a very immature and cowardly way for her to try to reopen the lines of communication and since she was the one who believes that your friendship has run it's course then you are very within your rights to not acknowledge the comment.

I don't think deleting her as a facebook friend will help the situation, it draws attention to the "issue" and depending on what type of person she is you don't want her going around your mutual friends saying she left you a lovely comment and wound up getting deleted. I think ignoring is the answer at the very least if there is more to her comment than the comment itself she'll have to deal with it in a more adult way.

Good luck

star-pants

Agreed - don't delete her, she could just use that as an opening chip

If she wanted to talk to you she should go and say hi to you. Think of the comment as just that, a comment. You can respond if you like, or just ignore it. She said she didn't want to be friends so you shouldn't feel obliged to respond to her.

Colonel_McCoy

Ignore it.....you have nothing to gain.