Anger issues

Affable

I get angry on occasions. A fair bit actually. This may sound weird but it's a genuine concern. I can't stop anger over incidents coming around but I can't show it in public, so I allow anger to come out in private. On my own. I need to know if thats weird that I'm so pent up. I also need to know if it's healthy when I'm feeling that tension around the head and don't want to risk bad blood pressure or a burst blood vessel in the head or any other kind of harm. Could this occur?

Thanks

If you're making a thrad over it, and describing it the way you're describing it, then its pretty clear you need some Anger Management.

Overheal

the way you're describing it - holding it in and getting rid of it later (like poo) is uncommon, but doesnt sound all that dangerous to me. Why?

brendansmith

Join a gym. Take the anger out there and i will be constructive.

As pantera say: "when i turn all my hate to productive, i dont find it hard to impress"

Zillah

You either need to change your lifestyle, or you need to take medication. The reason being that there is either something horrible in your life causing large amounts of aggravation, or you're suffering irrational levels of anger at virtually nothing.

sam34

Zillah wrote: »

You either need to change your lifestyle, or you need to take medication. The reason being that there is either something horrible in your life causing large amounts of aggravation, or you're suffering irrational levels of anger at virtually nothing.

take medication? to treat what illness exactly? anger is not a mental illness, nor a sign of one.

Victor

I don't think medication is the first step, but I think a trip to your GP might help.

If this stress is affecting your life and / or ability to act, then you need to work on changing thigns.

Dwn Wth Vwls

Do you know what it is exactly that's making you angry? Anger is generally the feeling that whatever just happened shouldn't have happened. You can learn to accept things and deal with them rationally as opposed to bottling it up for later or medicating yourself.

Affable

Dwn Wth Vwls wrote: »

Do you know what it is exactly that's making you angry?.

Incidents and conflicts with people that I'm sensitive to.

LegacyUser

Letting go of anger like that doesn't help, even on your own. It doesn't go away like that. The gym is a good idea though, releasing endorphins an all that. Much better medication!

Anger manifests itself in lots of ways, pent-up and quiet to violent. Me, Un-communicative with a tongue on me like a fishwife. It's also one symptom of reactive depression ie. if you have been stressed, breakups, death etc. I'm not suggesting either of us have that btw.

As long as you see it for what it is, just anger and nothing else you'll be fine. I find thinking through logically helps, try and figure out why you are angry and communicate that if you then feel you need to.

http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html#counsel

Dwn Wth Vwls

Affable wrote: »

Incidents and conflicts with people that I'm sensitive to.

That's pretty vague. Can you give an example?

Zillah

sam34 wrote: »

take medication? to treat what illness exactly? anger is not a mental illness, nor a sign of one.

It depends on the degree and frequency, no? Anger is a very natural emotion, but if he's feeling overwhelming amounts of it day to day for no real reason then it could very well be a variety of illness.

Jigsaw

You are not alone. Quite regularly I feel the purest, most undistilled rage. I feel like I could run full pelt for miles or bend a bar of steel, although what I usually do is punch something hard. It is quite understandable - there are a lot of things that can cause intense anger. I'm not saying that you are a weirdo but there will be a root cause. I know what the root cause of my anger is and I am taking steps to deal with it and if you can identify the root cause I suggest you do the same.

Overheal

You're being awfully vague here.

Needless to say, if you feel you are not in control of your emotional states you probably would benefit a lot from visiting a counsellor.

sam34

Zillah wrote: »

It depends on the degree and frequency, no? Anger is a very natural emotion, but if he's feeling overwhelming amounts of it day to day for no real reason then it could very well be a variety of illness.

while irritability can be seen in people who are depressed and in those who are hypomanic, anger like the op is describing, overwhelming, pervasive, but within his control to some degree, is not a sign of any mental illness that i'm aware of... and i'm a psychiatrist

sure, he may have "issues" and would probably benefit from exploratory psychotherapy, but imo there is no point taking meds for something like this

Overheal

Please tell me this isnt why you're angry?

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055379843

littlefriend

Hi Affable
you have posted on here loads of times about the same issue - have you considered seeking professional advice in the form of counseling about the difficulties you experience?
Would it be possible to avoid the people who wind you up?

Overheal

littlefriend wrote: »

Hi Affable
you have posted on here loads of times about the same issue - have you considered seeking professional advice in the form of counseling about the difficulties you experience?
Would it be possible to avoid the people who wind you up?

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055299723
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055291441
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055302975
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055330259
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055347785
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055362037
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055365134
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055366075
http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055291770

And thats just from Personal Issues. Your stated issue seeming to be feeling inferior; that you are too nice/lenient when dealing with other people and that makes you angry, that you perceive other people as trying to force their beliefs on you. Do I have that correct?

OP have you considered speaking with a counselor yet?