where do they go?

LegacyUser

Been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks, only a few dates due to hols, but having a lot of fun. Had dinner friday night, at mine, think he might have been expecting to stay but I didn't imply or invite him to and he went on his way after a few hours. But we had a nice evening.

He texts to say thanks when home. I reply next morning, couple of texts, busy for day, I text in evening that i'm going out to such a place if he's free and if not hope he's having a good weekend. Get no reply! It's now wednesday and still nothing, apart from a couple of bloody pokes on facebook!

Needless to say he's now on the blacklist, but, rant, why do they do this? I thought we were getting on ok.

RedXIV

Aha! this is when guys try to play games, and noticably, against a girl who has no time for them.

My advice? Tell him now you don't do games, you'd like to meet up again, if he hasn't replied to you within a few hours, you can be sure he's only wasting your time.

I'd put money on him replying though

LegacyUser

hmmmm thanks, not sure if that's it, i've kind of written him off now to be honest.

and definitely don't want to go texting him.

Spike440

Herewegoagain? wrote: »

I text in evening that i'm going out to such a place if he's free and if not hope he's having a good weekend.

In fairness he should have replyed to you either way at that point, but I would take that to mean "I'm going out either way, so it doesn't matter if you come or not, in fact, you don't even have to reply. Have a good weekend."

Consider being more direct.

LegacyUser

Spike440 wrote: »

In fairness he should have replyed to you either way at that point, but I would take that to mean "I'm going out either way, so it doesn't matter if you come or not, in fact, you don't even have to reply. Have a good weekend."

Consider being more direct.

Well it was what I meant, lol... I was going out anyway, if he was free then come along, great, if not, no hassle...

I thought it was pretty direct/clear to be honest, but that's interesting that you don't read it that way...

Wouldn't it be the norm to reply yes/no/nay?

valleyoftheunos

If he expected to stay over at that early stage I'd say he might be after one thing. If I were you I'd be greatful for what seems to have been a lucky escape and move on.

AngryBadger

Not really much information there OP, and it's a bit of a stretch (for me at least) to assume that he was only after sex and decided to bolt when it wasn't happening.

I'd say he more than likely just thinks you aren't interested since you guys haven't gone out that much.

syklops

here's a new idea. Why dont you call him?

Miss Fluff

Why don't you contact him?

Although he didn't stay I take it there is physical contact, i.e. snogging etc going on here?

Victor

Herewegoagain?, sometimes there isn't a moderators available to immediately approve posts from unregistered users. During the day posts are usually approved within an hour, but it may take longer at night.

I have deleted part of one of your posts as it was phrased in a way that is unfair on other posters.

mbren

Hey OP,

The thing that struck me after reading your post was that maybe he thought you weren't into him by not offering him to stay over after the dinner.
He might have decided to cut his losses at that stage rather than falling for you any further.

Of course I could be completely wrong as well, but I think you should contact him.

mikewest

+1

When are the women of this world going to finally get the message that guys take hints. Also use the phone to talk to him not text. Good luck with it op.