Please tell me what to do for my mom

LegacyUser

I love my mom to bits but I just dont know what to do. She has been on antidepressants for decades now and a month ago she decided to come off them because she said it was affecting her quality of life. Since then she has been crying all the time its been 3 weeks since she went back on them and still she cries all day the doctor said 1-2 more weeks and she'll be back to normal and I keep repeating what the doc said but she wont listen she keeps saying i dont think it will ever be normal again and she keeps saying I hope nothing will happen to me that makes u upset. I think shes going to commit suicide I havent left the house all summer just in case and i cant sleep. I keep telling her to get a different doctor and to read, watch tv etc. but she doesnt want to. My dad cares about her but he cant show emotion at all and that makes her so upset

i feel so sorry for her and i am starting college in 3 weeks and i dont know wat to do in her current state i cant go i could never leave her but wat cud i do to make her feel better? i keep reminding her the drugs will kick in soon but she wont listen

i am so afraid please tell me wat i can do i hate seeing her like this i really do

Victor

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I love my mom to bits but I just dont know what to do.

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She has been on antidepressants for decades now and a month ago she decided to come off them because she said it was affecting her quality of life.

Did she just stop or did she agree something with her doctor like a dose reduction?

Sometimes we need to realise that we are ill and we need to follow the regime prescribed by our doctors. What else is your mother doing beside medication? Counselling? Group therapy? Is she keeping herself busy? Might you do some activity together?

I think shes going to commit suicide

Do you have anything concrete on this? If you have a grounding for your fear, you need to tell your father and the doctor.

For the crying - try to keep her away from the news and talk radio and similar sad / aggravating stuff as they can be triggers. Try to find and avoid other triggers.

beth-lou

Tell her how worried you are about her. Tell her you're afraid she'll commit suicide. Tell her that you don't want to go to college because you are so worried about her. Ask her to see someone. Tell your Dad. Ask him to be more demonstraative to her. Get some professional help.

I am so sorry for you and her and your Dad. I really hope that the meds can help to make her feel better and you can go to college. I'm sure your Mam wouldn't want you to miss that opportunity. All you can do is talk to her and get some professional help. Is there anyone else you can get involved, aunts, uncles etc? It's a lot to carry on your own.

jimmycrackcorm

op, talk to your dad and let him know how much he can help. He most likely isn't aware.

LadyE

Id say the dad is aware, but doesnt know what to do.

Is there any other family member you can talk to? Your mam isnt herself at all. Can you sit and ask your dad what you both should do. Its not good you having this on your shoulders, and going through the worry, maybe he can go to the doctor and have a word, or if your mam speaks to a psychatrist maybe talk to him/her.