Wedding Issues

StonedParadoX

Okay My Family and i have been invited to a wedding IN belgium ( my moms side of the family are from Belgium ) on the 2nd of October and i am EXPECTED to go
i havent seen my granny and grandad in a few years or most of the other family
( my uncle and his 3 kids came over a few weeks ago ) but that actually doesnt bother me i KNOW I should visit them and see how there doing, But its for like a week.

the thing is i dont talk to my other relatives on both sides much only at them once a year family get together things at xmass and thats about it

im REALLY dreading having to go because i'd have to make small talk with everyone and i cant stand small talk and im in a place where iv never actually enjoyed going because its an old folks city.
plus the guy my cousin is marrying is a complete Wanker hes rude and hes arrogant and he thinks hes god gifts to a pile of ****e
iv told my mom that im not going but shes adamant( i think adamant is the right word) on me going and iv told her im not and she said you are going wether u like it or not
basically this conversation ended up going nowhere.I think we just changed conversations

basically im wondering what you lot would do im my situation
would u go or would u ride the evil wave of doom that my mom will send out if i dont go

ps: i actually happen to be moving out in a month or 2

seamus

Sound like you need to grow up a little tbh.

Weddings are usually fun and they're usually not jam packed with pensioners.

You only get one family, so make the most of them. Go, get drunk, have some fun.

A week does sound like a bit much - Belguim's not far away. Come up with a compromise where you arrive the day before the wedding and fly out the evening afterwards.

Miss Fluff

You have to bear in mind that you are genetically linked to both sides of your family. To claim or intimate that every single person in your family is in fact a tosser would suggest there is not much hope for you either.

Try and have a little bit of maturity. I'd see it as a great opportunity to get to know everyone on their home turf, why do you have this dread of "small talk"? Surely you see it as a good opportunity to get to know your relatives? If after a week you still conclude that they are all in fact complete **** then at least you've made an informed decision rather than huffing like one of the adolescents from Kevin and Perry Go Large.

unhappycamper

Pull a sicky?

Oryx

Go to the wedding, paint a smile on, and play nice. Sometimes you just have to suck your feelings up and do nice things for your family.

Grit your teeth and make small talk, how bad can it be? Youve written off a whole group of people as tossers and geriatrics, which sounds to me like a sulky way of convincing yourself its ok not to go. If they are actually all that bad, bravo on hitting the Jerry Springer bad family jackpot. You must be unique in having the only family in history where you are the only non tosser.

If you really cant make it for a week, then compromise on a shorter time. Weddings are never-to-be-repeated events, and making a mistake in not attending this is not something you can undo. People might forget you went, but they will never forget if you refuse to.

Redpunto

Can you just go for a few days, it is one of those things though that you should do, family is important even if its your idea of hell to go. You should go but if ya really dont wanna try breakin a leg or somefink along those lines:D You could say you cant afford it.

Sleepy

Lemme get this right, you're giving out about someone else paying for you to go away on holidays for a week because you'll have to spend one day of that time with your relatives?

manicmonoliths

I say don't go. Assuming your over 18 no one can force you to go.
If you don't want to do something, don't do it.

I know it's difficult with family situations like these because you feel like you 'have to go' or you're 'supposed to go'.

To the people who are telling you to grow up : What sounds more grown up to you? Someone who doesn't go to a wedding they know they will find boring or someone who goes to the wedding because he's worried about what his family will think about him if he doesn't.

So I say : grow up. Start living for yourself and not for your family. Live your life how you want to, not how you think others want you to.

StonedParadoX

woah guys

i said HE was a wanker .. not my family or the other family
there all kewl

tinkerbell

Just arrange to go over the day before and leave the day after. Problem sorted.

loloray

StonedParadoX wrote: »

woah guys

i said HE was a wanker .. not my family or the other family
there all kewl

Well you certainly gave the impression you don't have a high opinion of your relatives. However, I already thought you should grow up and go, and now that all your family is "kewl", then why the hell wouldn't you go? To p!ss off your mam?

heyjude

Oryx wrote: »

Weddings are never-to-be-repeated events,

Thankfully

Oryx wrote: »

and making a mistake in not attending this is not something you can undo.

Assuming that not attending is a mistake. I've attended several family weddings just to keep people happy, most lived up to prior expectations and still provide unpleasant memories, though one or two were tolerable. You have decide whether its more important to keep your mum happy, grin and bare it, or go with your heart, miss the wedding and accept the inevitable fallout for possibly years to come.

You know the choices and the repercussions, now you gotta make your choice and live with the consequences.

MagicMarker

No offense, but from your OP you sound like a 16 year old, but i see you're 24.

The fact that your parents are paying for you to go on holiday tells me you should grow up, if you want to be treated like an adult and make adult decisions, you should start acting like one.

If you had your independence and didn't live at home your parents wouldn't demand you go, they would ask if you wanted to go. But so long as you live at home you are bound by their rules, you're still a kid in their eyes and what they say goes.