I develop crushes

LegacyUser

This is really silly but I feel I have to get others opinions on this so here goes.

I am a bloke old enough to know better, but still young enough to be out meeting new folks and making new friends in new circles.

I am happily married for quite some time, been together a good number of years, and I adore the ground she walks on, but...

For some reason I develop childish crushes on women, to the point where I will sometimes listen to sad music and mope about like a teenager for days dreaming of silly romantic situations we're in together.

I have always been a silly romantic, and crushes as a teenager were much the same although I have always been very fical and can fall out of love in 10mins with someone.

The one thing I can think of is it starts when I realize the girl fancies someone else - I think I may just be jealous that its not me, could that be it?

Do I miss the chase, or the feeling of new love or something ?

Anyone any clue ?

witzky

sounds like you're a bit fed up with your marraige and need to spice things up...

Good Luck;)

Peleus

Dreaming too much about other women is gonna do you no good. try to remember why you married your wife. try get a crush on her.

LegacyUser

Bit like that myself where I end up fancying the pants off somebody and start daydreaming (and like you I'm married and old enough to know better too!!!) Personally I think it's cause it's cause it's like the forbidden fruit & you know it'll never actually happen, especially in your case cause you only seem to fall for them when they're with somebody else so doubly no chance of it happening.

Just guessing here (obviously) but maybe part of it makes you feel like a teenager again. Can I ask if you've been feeling old lately? So long as you just recognise it as a stupid crush, it doesn't have any impact on your marriage and never follow through on it then I don't see too much harm.

Curvy Vixen

I'm married and old enough to know better but do exactly the same thing tbh. I was in the garage this morning getting coffee at the same time as a man and had a teenchy flirt and think I have a bit of a crush on him already

I think it's quite common (don't like the word 'normal') As long as you realise it's just a crush there really is no harm in it.

But I would agree with the other poster and maybe see if there is anything you could do with your wife that might alter your view of daily life with her...

abi2007

i'm not married but I can't imagine ever gettin married, I have a long term BF but have the same crushes and daydreams about others. do you think you settled down too young?

sunnyjim

Hahaha, this is hilarious.

You're married. You're allowed have a little crush on someone!!

spinandscribble

i don't think its right to sit around moping, playing sad love songs when you're with someone. its a bit time consuming when you might be needed to wash the dishes :P

Latchy

'' Falling in love again ,what am i to do ? ...i cant help it ''

Marlene Dietrich .