Advice please.

LegacyUser

Sorry, whiny post ahead:

Few weeks ago, met a girl, we got talking and she mentioned a concert she was helping put on and wanted more people to go to show support for the band. I went along with a friend of mine and we were watching the show and I saw her.
Waved at her, she came over, some of her friends arrived and we basically talked for the entire evening. Got on well, gave her my bebo before I left. I'm really struck by her intelligence and passion for stuff. Really attracted me to her.

She adds me the next day, commenting etc ensues and she mentions she was near where I work the other day but didn't want to visit in case she got me in trouble. I tell her to swing by sometime as the managers are grand with the odd visit.
She does so, we talk for a while before I need to get back to work.

Few days later, I mention I'm off work on a day she's free. Ask does she want to meet up for a coffee and send her my number, figuring the balls in her court as she can just ignore the number. Next morning, I get a text asking do I want to meet up. We do so, go for coffee and she talks a lot with me hardly getting a word in edgeways. We text a bit that evening. I'm still trying to work out how I feel about her as she's fairly one of a kind. Text her a few days later, ask does she want to meet up, she says she can't as her cousin is visiting the day I'm off. She;s telling the truth there, fine by me. Odd bit of beboing/texting going on about nothing in particular. Text her again a few days later asking does she want to meet up when I'm off work, again she can't. Decide to try one last time, ask to meet up. She says sure thing and we meet again only she has to leave early. We walk around a bit, her talking mostly only I'm fairly untalkative as I'm trying to work out where the hell I stand with her.

Met up with my friend who went to the concert with me later that day and his girlfriend swings by. Both were giving me advice and both said she seemed into me. I phoned her up, apologised for my behaviour that day and ask does she want to go out sometime (as opposed to just meeting up)
she said nah, as we were going to start going to the same college and she didn;t want to be tied down with someone. She seemed embaressed and tried changing the conversation, asking did I get the courses I want etc. I wasn't thinking as far ahead as college and intended to just see how the date went if she accepted but thought "nah she's not interested, I shouldn't push her"

I was fairly crushed by this, havn't heard from her in two weeks. It's fairly obvious she doesn't feel that way about me but it'd be hard for me to be just a friend.

Feeling down really as I don't get attracted to people easily, only had the odd few girlfriends in my life (currently 19), none of whom attracted me like this one.

Any advice on what to do?

Finally, thanks for reading this far. I appreciate it.

Karen_*

Well what choice do you have but to forget her and move on? You don't have to be her friend and I don't think you should be if its going to bother you.

She may have been into you at first but she's changed her mind and that can happen. You can't beat yourself up over it and there sure is no point going over and over it. Its disappointing, I know when you rarely fall for anyone that when it happens the feeling isn't mutual. Its pretty gutting actually. You've just got to suck it up I'm afraid.

Annie Bananie

Agree with Karen.

pepsi1234

You say you're starting at the same college?
I suggest you be friends with her, who knows what might develop from that.
You never know her feelings may change or get back to what they were when you started meeting up (as she did seem pretty interested from what you have described).

Anyway, girls love being chased and I'm sure she will appreciate and be flattered by your persistance (If not as a boyfriend, but still wanting to be friends with her)

Good luck!