Guy I like is moving away soon.

LegacyUser

This will probably sound so silly but it's really bugging me.

I've known a certain guy, lets call him James, for a few months now. I would see him at parties at the weekends etc, because we have a few mutual friends. I've always found him attractive, but didnt really think too much about it if you know what I mean...he's good looking, great personality but I didnt particularly think anything was gonna happen. One night though at a party he came over to me, gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek and told me he thought I was gorgeous. I didnt think too much about it.

On Friday night, we were at my friends house for a party again, same as every weekend. He was there. Everyone was feeling great, we'd had such a good night, so the atmosphere in the house was great. The two of us as well as two good friends of ours were just lying down on my friends bed chilling out. He was lying down beside me, so I turned to speak to him and we ended up kissing. For the rest of the night we just kissed and cuddled. Around 6am, we and our two friends decided to go for a walk to the quay to watch the sun come up. As we were walking there, I just stopped him and told him that I had always liked him but I'd started to really like him because of the closeness that night. He told me that he liked me too, that he thought I was gorgeous. We were just attatched to the hip all night. It's been a hell of a long time since I felt like that about anyone. Sure I have my crushes, and thats what he started out as, but now I have real feelings for the guy.

This could all have had a nice happy ending, but he's moving away next week for Uni to Wales and I am so gutted about it. This will be his last weekend here so no doubt there will be some mad party but I'm kind of dreading it. I should probably just leave it and never bring up the fact I like him again, it might be for the best but as I said, long time since I felt like that about anyone. Help please

Dragan

Without wishing to sound mean the guy could think you are gorgeous, interesting, intelligent etc and still just be looking for a lay?

If he is going to Uni in another country it's highly unlikely he would like any kind of relationship out of it, imo.

In other words thread softly, if you do like him then perhaps hold back a bit as it's hardly a long term option for you.

LegacyUser

I was wondering in case he was just saying this stuff for that reason, but I'm not sure- he doesnt strike me as the type. I've never really saw him kiss anyone else let alone anything else. Hmm, think Ill just play it by ear, but Im gonna try and detach myself anyway.

mrDuke

Why dont you go to wales after him? is there anything holding you back, life is to short for letting things go.

suckslikeafox

I feel your pain OP, the girl I like is moving to Scotland to do a masters.

Lifes a b*tch, eh?

All you can do is say how you feel and hope you see him again and thats things are the same

Dragan

mrDuke wrote: »

Why dont you go to wales after him? is there anything holding you back, life is to short for letting things go.

Do you not think that might be a slight overreaction.

They kissed.

Once.

Thats it.

LegacyUser

mrDuke wrote: »

Why dont you go to wales after him? is there anything holding you back, life is to short for letting things go.

Well, my daughter and college for a start...plus that would just be a tiny bit insane lol. I like the guy a lot but I'm not in love with him...just bummed that we're not really get the chance and that that one night is probably it .

Dragan

Maybe take the lesson that if you like someone you might want to make a move a bit earlier?

Some guys are shy remember.

LegacyUser

Well I didn't actually realise just how much I liked him until this weekend, which is a shame really. This coming weekend shall be his last until he comes home again at like Christmas, Im really dreading it. Sigh, oh well .

Miss Fluff

On Friday night, we were at my friends house for a party again, same as every weekend. He was there. Everyone was feeling great, we'd had such a good night, so the atmosphere in the house was great.

The two of us as well as two good friends of ours were just lying down on my friends bed chilling out. He was lying down beside me, so I turned to speak to him and we ended up kissing. For the rest of the night we just kissed and cuddled.

Around 6am, we and our two friends decided to go for a walk to the quay to watch the sun come up. As we were walking there, I just stopped him and told him that I had always liked him but I'd started to really like him because of the closeness that night.

He told me that he liked me too, that he thought I was gorgeous. We were just attatched to the hip all night. It's been a hell of a long time since I felt like that about anyone.

Your whole post suggests to be that the two of you were doing yokes that evening. If that's the case, you were both loved up, simple as. Wouldn't go reading too much into it tbh.

LegacyUser

I don't do drugs, if it was involved I would have said.

biko

There is not much you can do. Ask him for his mail, keep in touch, meet up when he's back here, perhaps go over there.
In honesty going to university is a major event and he'll be really busy getting into it and making new friends there.
Think you're going to have to let this one go.