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  • 01-09-2008 2:38am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Okay so first off about myself, I'm in my early 20's and have no major problems at all really. Have a good group of friends, family, starting a masters course which is being paid for by my future employer. Absolutely no trouble with girls at all.

    Now there's one person who I've always gotten on great with and she's a girl. We've always gotten on extremely well with each other over the last 6/7 years and we'e both been there for each other at various points, nothing major just the usual stuff that goes on in peoples' lives ie break ups, deaths, advice. Now I'd be lying if I said at the start I became friends with her because I was attracted to her but I was in the midst of seeing someone as was she so that attraction was lost on me. It really was a case of just being friends:)

    It's only now in the last 2 weeks that I've started seeing her again in person(I was away for 3months this summer). Anyway I was in town seeing friends and ended up meeting up with her and driving home this past week. We were talkin on the way home (I'd to pick up another mate) and she rubbed my head and arm once or twice(probably just me looking nto this too much) when I said certain things about her (another bloke was trying it on with her and was asking me about her, it's only when I responded that I knew I was keen on her). I've now become really smitten on her and I'm kinda pissed at myself because I've always looked to her as a friend, me going ahead and now looking to pursue things further could potentially cause me to lose an aspect of our friendship which I value. I know if I looked to take things further and she wasn't interested we'd still be friends but obviously not to the same extent. However do I be dishonest and surpress my feelings while at the same time ruining a part of our friendship by not being totally honest with her?

    There's a pretty obvious answer here and it's just talk to her and see how things go. I'd just hate to think that I could lose an aspect of my friendship with her that I've yet to have with anyone else. I've another mate who I'd regard as my closest friend and family who I just don't have that level of trust(prob not the best word maybe someone I can confide in) and losing that is what is stopping me from looking to advance on our friendship.


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  • #2
    Kevster
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    Hi,

    In your own opinion, what exactly are two lovers to each other? Are they just two people who live together for life, raising children along the way?; or could they also be viewed as being best friends, sharing a strong trust and bond?

    What I'm trying to say, of course, is that the best friends also make the best lovers. I'm sure that there are people here who will refute this, citing personal examples, but if you and her have been so great together for so long, what makes you think that it couldn't last?

    I say go for it because, deep down, it's what you want.

    Take care,
    Kevin.


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