experence in this ???

SnowMonkey

Hi guys this is not a long one but

Ive suffered the young shy man's bain, like so many of us have and partly walked through it, Ive still got rough age's. But I'm getting help.
Some of my friends as a child turned into a junkeys when i was 18.. 8 years on i see them from time to time there, cool... Now there all cleen well balacanced adjusted people and Id like to be like that.

I went to my Gp and he said you can see a shrink or a ounciller and i said your the docter so... Im going to a see a counciller hopefully sometime this week coming, Im looking forward to and am willing to except the changes in my life and make the changes in my life, to get my self esteam and self confidance back....

can any one tell me of experence's and how things went ?
for them as in where they wear and where they are now, do you still get down ?

thanks for reading

Monkysnow...:)

trout

Are you looking for advice / experiences on going to a counselor?

Maybe if you can share a little more detail about your situation, someone here can give you a more specific response.

Good luck with it, whatever it is, it is good that you are taking charge.

SnowMonkey

oh ok i hade depression, got throught that but i still dout who i am dout my self and my dessiions on a regular basis's. so i think my self worth sefl confidance and self esteam are very low but at the same time I am quite confident. My past has been amaxzing in some ways but i was bullied a lot, im over that i think, for about 14 years of my life, teacher's kids adults, Ive been walked on bye people manipulated and genrally been a door mat....

I suffer from anxitiy and faustratingly low lows and extream high's, and i want tobe more rounded, I'm over sensitive, to...

im just wondering whos been there or been to a counciller and how did they find it... ?
did they make changes in there life? are they happyer now then they where ?

I'm looking forward to it so much because i wanna be a strong person who has ballance and direction in life........ Hope this helps

trout

OK ... I understand your question now

I myself don't have much experience in this regard, but I think you are doing the right thing by getting professional help.
Stick with it, and work at it.

You may find some people here that have had similar experiences, you may even find support groups recommended by your GP or counselor.

I'm a great believer in karma ... I think good things happen to good people.

Well done, and best of luck with it. It takes courage to face these things.

I hope it works out for you.

Overheal

SnowMonkey wrote: »

oh ok i hade depression, got throught that but i still dout who i am dout my self and my dessiions on a regular basis's. so i think my self worth sefl confidance and self esteam are very low but at the same time I am quite confident. My past has been amaxzing in some ways but i was bullied a lot, im over that i think, for about 14 years of my life, teacher's kids adults, Ive been walked on bye people manipulated and genrally been a door mat....

I suffer from anxitiy and faustratingly low lows and extream high's, and i want tobe more rounded, I'm over sensitive, to...

im just wondering whos been there or been to a counciller and how did they find it... ?
did they make changes in there life? are they happyer now then they where ?

I'm looking forward to it so much because i wanna be a strong person who has ballance and direction in life........ Hope this helps

Depression is rarely a one time thing. To say that youre over it probably isn't true I'm afraid. It goes up, and it goes down, usually over the course of months. Its cyclical.

If you feel the highs and lows of youre depression are making you too bipolar you should go see a psychiatrist that can analyze your situation and prescribe you some anti-depressants to level out the highs and lows into a more moderate up/down or hopefully level situation.

Wibbs

Overheal, while your advice re seeking out professional help is welcome and good advice, "diagnosing" something like bipolar depression is not and against the charter.

SnowMonkey

Overheal wrote: »

Depression is rarely a one time thing. To say that youre over it probably isn't true I'm afraid. It goes up, and it goes down, usually over the course of months. Its cyclical.

If you feel the highs and lows of youre depression are making you too bipolar you should go see a psychiatrist that can analyze your situation and prescribe you some anti-depressants to level out the highs and lows into a more moderate up/down or hopefully level situation.

i agree with you,

ehh who are you ? I tak offence to that fact you've just said I have bipolar, Im not on meds and never will be I dont need it im stronger with out them. Ive read the threads where some people are pumping 4 different chemicals into there bodys everyday... I do not want to be like that relying on a tablet, to fix me...........

ps im usually a happy person but to me anything low is extreamly low...

evs

Well seeing a GP and taking their recommendation is a really good step. Counseling may well help you to get the root of some of the issues causing your depression, which again can only be a good thing.

Fair play to you for admitting there are problems and getting help - a lot of people are afraid to do that in the first place. It won't get better overnight but you seem to be on the right track. Best of luck with it!

Beruthiel

SnowMonkey wrote: »

I tak offence to that fact you've just said I have bipolar

Ignore him.
This is not a medical forum, none of us are professionals and as such, anyone even thinking of suggesting a condition or suggesting drugs of any kind will be banned for a week and should be ignored by you on the grounds they have no clue what they are talking about.
B

von Neumann

SnowMonkey wrote: »

I'm looking forward to it so much because i wanna be a strong person who has ballance and direction in life........ Hope this helps

Well you've got a great attitude and that's a good start, This is just my persective, but couselling is only there to enable you to fix what's broken, so a lot of the work you'll have to do yourself....I went for a while and can honestly say I didn't get much out of it......but this had more to do with me, my head was up my arse!.

amom

SnowMonkey wrote: »

oh ok i hade depression, got throught that but i still dout who i am dout my self and my dessiions on a regular basis's. so i think my self worth sefl confidance and self esteam are very low but at the same time I am quite confident. My past has been amaxzing in some ways but i was bullied a lot, im over that i think, for about 14 years of my life, teacher's kids adults, Ive been walked on bye people manipulated and genrally been a door mat....

I suffer from anxitiy and faustratingly low lows and extream high's, and i want tobe more rounded, I'm over sensitive, to...

im just wondering whos been there or been to a counciller and how did they find it... ?
did they make changes in there life? are they happyer now then they where ?

I'm looking forward to it so much because i wanna be a strong person who has ballance and direction in life........ Hope this helps

your obviously already an incredibly strong person to be able to be so honest with yourself!:) i think its great that your going to talk to someone and your willing to put yourself out there! i wish you all the luck in the world and i'm sure you'll be an inspiration to a lot of people. please post again and let us know how your feeling and how its all going for you.:D

Overheal

Wibbs wrote: »

Overheal, while your advice re seeking out professional help is welcome and good advice, "diagnosing" something like bipolar depression is not and against the charter.

whoops.

Thats why I urge going to a professional Psychiatrist or Psychologist. Only they can really diagnose these things. Sorry if I didn't make that clear. I meant no offense

AARRRGH

I know a couple of people who went to counselling and it really helped them. They tackled some very difficult issues.

Counselling only works if you really believe in it and are willing to be honest and work through your problems. This will means thing like crying and really trying to understand yourself.

It won't work without pain, and it takes a long time, certainly at least one or two years of regular sessions.

There are things you can do in the meantime to help build up your confidence and general self belief.

You need to work on both the physical and mental you.

Start going to the gym, buy very nice clothes, get a decent haircut, get a facial, that kind of thing. Feeling and looking good is really good for your self-esteem.

Get counselling, but also do little confidence building things like improving your education, doing charity work, creating some art, etc.

I was shy why I was a younger teenager. I made friends with some very confident guys (the typical jock investment banker types) and their confidence rubbed off on me. So if possible, try to get around other confident people. A good way to meet these guys is team sports.

Good luck.

RossFixxxed

I would like to add, and perhaps I've picked you up wrong that you should listen to what a professional says. Sure you're strong and you want to get over it yourself but do listen and do what they say, they're the professionals.

I understand the frustration and the will to 'beat' these things but sometimes you do need other help, and it may well not be just pills or soemthing.

Go with an open mind I guess sums it up.

Good luck,
Ross

SnowMonkey

trout wrote: »

OK ... I understand your question now

I myself don't have much experience in this regard, but I think you are doing the right thing by getting professional help.
Stick with it, and work at it.

You may find some people here that have had similar experiences, you may even find support groups recommended by your GP or counselor.

I'm a great believer in karma ... I think good things happen to good people.

Well done, and best of luck with it. It takes courage to face these things.

I hope it works out for you.

Thanks, I would'nt call it courage, I see it as, away of taking control of me, I want to do well have the ambition but lack the motivation big problem... Which i want gone...But thanks for your kind words...

evs wrote: »

Well seeing a GP and taking their recommendation is a really good step. Counseling may well help you to get the root of some of the issues causing your depression, which again can only be a good thing.

Fair play to you for admitting there are problems and getting help - a lot of people are afraid to do that in the first place. It won't get better overnight but you seem to be on the right track. Best of luck with it!

I had to mate, I'm sick of getting anxed up over nothing i want to be in controll I want to walk into a room and be that confident person....I relise it wont get better over night but it will get better.... I look at it like this if you can admit tha you have problems thats half the battel done, the rest of its disscussing them....

von Neumann wrote: »

Well you've got a great attitude and that's a good start, This is just my persective, but couselling is only there to enable you to fix what's broken, so a lot of the work you'll have to do yourself....I went for a while and can honestly say I didn't get much out of it......but this had more to do with me, my head was up my arse!.

Oh il claw bye my finger tips if i have to its nothing new..... well i think its like junkys they have to want to be cleen, if not they dont want to be there same for, depredssed people you have to want to get better to reap the bennafit's... wel maybe that was yout state off mind...

amom wrote: »

your obviously already an incredibly strong person to be able to be so honest with yourself!:) i think its great that your going to talk to someone and your willing to put yourself out there! i wish you all the luck in the world and i'm sure you'll be an inspiration to a lot of people. please post again and let us know how your feeling and how its all going for you.:D

If your not Honest with your self then your lieing to your self and every body else. Thanks i feel i am quite strong but yet week in the wrong place's, I see them as the nigiley bits of the problems... Il probably post about in 6 weeks time when I've had time to digest my problems i think after 6 weeks id be making some head way..But thank you .

RossFixxxed wrote: »

I would like to add, and perhaps I've picked you up wrong that you should listen to what a professional says. Sure you're strong and you want to get over it yourself but do listen and do what they say, they're the professionals.

I understand the frustration and the will to 'beat' these things but sometimes you do need other help, and it may well not be just pills or soemthing.

Go with an open mind I guess sums it up.

Good luck,
Ross

perhaps if you noticed i made the choice to go get help. I told a docter Ive known 20 years that i need help I think that justfys an open mind, would it not?

SnowMonkey

Hi peeps just wanted to say thanks for your words of confidance which is really boosting, Part of my trouble is I dont beleave/trust people, which i gotta learn to do.

So even when I wrote the page above, I did'nt beleave it but i was reading back over my own post, felt it didnt show thanks for your wise kind helpfull words so thanks for the confidance boost. it didnt really kick in at first...
Espechillyfor the listening, opinions i really wanted to hear opinions. Il end this some what positively. A latvian girl asked me out on a date:D tomorow...



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RossFixxxed

perhaps if you noticed i made the choice to go get help. I told a docter Ive known 20 years that i need help I think that justfys an open mind, would it not?

I'm reiterating the point. And I'm trying to offer helpful advice on it. You seem agains the idea of meds etc, just reminding you. You looked for advice, and yes I did notice that. If you're going to throw it back at people that's fine, and that my friend is a closed mind. Frankly I'm not wasting my time on this anymore.

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