Was my BF watching porn on net

query08

Hi

I came across something today that confused me. While browsing on the net I was about to log into google. i typed in www.g and all the list of previous links begining with g flashed up. One of the ones at the top was called Girls from Heaven. My boyfriend was in the room readin the papers and I joked asked him was he looking at a site called girls from heaven. He came over and asked was it the one of the last sites visited and we checked the history and it wasnt, but it was still there and in my opinion must have been accessed by him, as its only us living in the apartment. I clicked on the site and it was pretty hard teen porn - i said that it was disgusting and asked him had he accessed the site - he denied it. I then got curious and looked under other historys. Under the goggle lists it showed www .google.com/search/teen&porn
I asked again and he denied it. Said he knew nothing about it. Is there any possibility that this could be in the search bar if he wasnt using it???

Hope I'm not confusing you but dont know much about computers!!

Patricide

One..All guys look at porn so like it or lump it get used to it. Not trying to be a dick but tis true!
Two.. coulda easily been one o his mates.

MagicMarker

Yeah, he probably was... So?

Going by the fact that you've posted here and mentioned that it's ''disgusting'' i can see why he lied about it.

KTRIC

Lets cut to the chase, he was looking at porn. It wouldn't be in the address bar unless he was.

jaffa20

It's only porn. You should be glad he isn't cheating on you. I looked at the site and it's not teen porn. Looks fairly legit to me and doesn't to be any more disgusting than the other porn out there. I don't think it could have been on the computer without him looking at it or at least going to the sight by "accident".

Diarmey

Maybe he purposely left it in the history so you would find it?
You know delievering one off them 'think' messages?:p

nVid

You sound like my GF lol.

Some girlfriends watch it with there partner but thats weird....say "you can look up porn, go ahead I don't care" I bet he won't want to if he's allowed.

dr.bollocko

Diarmey wrote: »

Maybe he purposely left it in the history so you would find it?
You know delievering one off them 'think' messages?:p

HE may have cleared the browsing history without clearing the saved forms and searches on FF.
It appears your OH, like most red blooded males, does not share your hatred of pornography, you know, porn, the bedrock upon which the whole of the internet was built.
I would suggest that the problem is more with you than with him.
Judge not lest ye be judged and all that.

Kold

I wouldn't persue the issue any further, OP. Don't really know what you'd be attempting to achieve.

Fat Pie Lot

Arf, arf. It isn't the olden days any more, OP. It's more than common for blokes (and girls) to watch porn, especially in today's environment where it's reasonably easy to get on the interweb.

OK, so it's reasonable to assume that you have a problem with pornography. But what is your problem with pornography? Do you consider your boyfriend "disgusting" for looking at it (or wanting to look at it)? Is it something else?

I reckon, to a fairly high probability, that your BF was looking at porn. However, I don't believe that's the issue here. I think you need to sit down with your bf and have a chat.

o1s1n

Why do you think it's disgusting? It's just sex. Everyone does it. Leave the poor chap alone.

RoosterIllusion

I looked at the site, it's not teen porn to be honest. It's mid twenties women who love the cock.

query08 wrote: »

...What you said...

I assume you look somewhat like a teenage girl?

I would be upset if he was looking at "super hot 6 foot blonde only large breasted super models who don't look like my girlfriend". Otherwise get over it. I doubt he has an intimate relationship with porn so don't feel threatened. If you want to approach him about it ask him why he was looking at it, but don't be a total bitch about it, remember porn never argues with you

The_Conductor

If you were using Firefox and Google- it automatically will give suggestions for possible websites as you type in your search, regardless of whether the sites have ever been visited or not. Its entirely possible that he is innocent.

LegacyUser

Surely the point here is that its ok to look at porn, most guys do, even when with a girlfriend.

Men ejaculate alot more frequently than they have sex, it doesnt take sherlock holmes to figure out what they are doing.

OP all guys look at porn, your BF looked at fairly tame stuff to be honest, unless you find "giant horse cock" or "midget anal" in his search bar, dont hassle him.

The only problem here is your attitude and naivety to this subject.

RoosterIllusion

Ordinary Guy wrote: »

unless you find "giant horse cock" or "midget anal" in his search bar, dont hassle him.

Damn it to hell! :mad:

Looks like I'll have to cancel the auld subscription to giant midget horse cock anal monthly almanac then.

iPlop

Patricide wrote: »

One..All guys look at porn so like it or lump it get used to it. Not trying to be a dick but tis true!
Two.. coulda easily been one o his mates.

+1 especially teen porn

gogglebok

Hey OP, I think people are a bit harsh to say you have a problem here, but I'm afraid the male interest in porn really is a deep and abiding thing. It is absolutely not a review of his feelings for you, or an indication that he is in any way unhappy with you. Men are curious creatures.

You are allowed to have your preferences, of course, and you are completely right to shun all porn if you find it vile.

But he doesn't share your preferences, and I would be wary of asking him to stop outright. He has been pretty discreet, and if you were shocked to find it on his computer then it obviously hasn't adversely affected your relationship. It's not as if a light-bulb went off for you and you thought "Aha! NOW I understand why he's been so disgusting..."

It's just one of those things. One of the reasons that men and women don't blurt out to each other every little thought that crosses their minds.

I would quietly let the subject drop, if I were you.

Silverfish

query08 wrote: »

Hi

I came across something today that confused me. While browsing on the net I was about to log into google. i typed in www.g and all the list of previous links begining with g flashed up. One of the ones at the top was called Girls from Heaven. My boyfriend was in the room readin the papers and I joked asked him was he looking at a site called girls from heaven. He came over and asked was it the one of the last sites visited and we checked the history and it wasnt, but it was still there and in my opinion must have been accessed by him, as its only us living in the apartment. I clicked on the site and it was pretty hard teen porn - i said that it was disgusting and asked him had he accessed the site - he denied it. I then got curious and looked under other historys. Under the goggle lists it showed www .google.com/search/teen&porn
I asked again and he denied it. Said he knew nothing about it. Is there any possibility that this could be in the search bar if he wasnt using it???

Hope I'm not confusing you but dont know much about computers!!

What's bothering you the most here, the fact he looked at it, or that he lied to you about it?

Kiera

Its only porn. Jesus us girls even watch it. Its not a big deal. Could be worse....

iPlop

o1s1n wrote: »

Why do you think it's disgusting? It's just sex. Everyone does it. Leave the poor chap alone.

Unless you find him with pants around his ankles pullin' the chimp off himself with cling film over the computer screen --it's ok:o

K-9

smccarrick wrote: »

If you were using Firefox and Google- it automatically will give suggestions for possible websites as you type in your search, regardless of whether the sites have ever been visited or not. Its entirely possible that he is innocent.

True, but my one includes my search history too.

Just checked there, I see what you mean.

GrumPy

query08 wrote: »

Hi

I came across something today that confused me. While browsing on the net I was about to log into google. i typed in www.g and all the list of previous links begining with g flashed up. One of the ones at the top was called Girls from Heaven. My boyfriend was in the room readin the papers and I joked asked him was he looking at a site called girls from heaven. He came over and asked was it the one of the last sites visited and we checked the history and it wasnt, but it was still there and in my opinion must have been accessed by him, as its only us living in the apartment. I clicked on the site and it was pretty hard teen porn - i said that it was disgusting and asked him had he accessed the site - he denied it. I then got curious and looked under other historys. Under the goggle lists it showed www .google.com/search/teen&porn
I asked again and he denied it. Said he knew nothing about it. Is there any possibility that this could be in the search bar if he wasnt using it???

Hope I'm not confusing you but dont know much about computers!!

All men with a penis and a internet connection watch porn love.

Wibbs

Septic Leper and RoosterIllusion, stay on topic, or take it to After Hours. Read the charter.

Toots

OP, in all likelihood he was watching porn. He probably denied it initially cos he was embarrassed he got caught. His further denial probably stemmed from knowing that you weren't happy. I caught my OH looking a few times, and he was embarrassed initially, but I said I'd no problem with it. TBH, it's normal for guys to look at it. As long as he's not looking up something really weird, or illegal, just let it go.

ZygOte

This type of question seems to come up a lot on PI, "has he been looking at porn?"...

maybe a MOD can make some kind of sticky thread with a cover all answer for future posters.

Ladies : Got a boyfriend/Husband ?
Please Note: Yes he has been looking at porn from time to time. He's not doing it to disrespect you, hes doing it because hes like almost every other man of the planet.

WE JUST LIKE PORN.

Rowley Birkin QC

Why not try watching some with him? Could open up some new interests and ways to pass the time for you as a couple.

Annie Bananie

Someone has typed it in, or it wouldnt be there, simple as that.
Now if someone else is using the computer it does not have to be him.

But if it was, I would not worry. Lots of people watch porn. I do too and Im a girl. Does not mean he loves you any less. And then there is people that does not like porn and do think its disgusting. I do not think you can get him to stop watch it, but do have a chat with him about it if it bothers you. But try and not be too judgemental, as he shouldnt be towards you, just because you do not like it.

K-9

The OP looked at the site and she didn't like it.
That's what matters. Contrary to popular opinion on here, it is acceptable to have objections to porn!

Personally it's ok with me, but OP, if you have personal objections to it, your boyfriend should appreciate that.

Kold

Seanies32 wrote: »

The OP looked at the site and she didn't like it.
That's what matters. Contrary to popular opinion on here, it is acceptable to have objections to porn!

Personally it's ok with me, but OP, if you have personal objections to it, your boyfriend should appreciate that.

In fairness, she doesn't really have any right to restrict him to look at anything he want. Object all you want, if you feel your relationship depends on it, if a girl pushed the subject with me I'd probably tell her to take a walk. It's bad form if it's on your computer though.

query08

Thanks for all your replies

been honest, the reason i thought it was disgusting was that I thought it was teen porn. I guess i was worried that they were underagers - which would be disgusting

I have since checked the site and see that this is not the case. i have no major issues with porn itself, and have watched it in the past, both on my own and with my BF - i dont think its particularly tasteful, but i have no major issues with it

i guess my main concern was the age of the girls as i thought they were underage, and then that he lied to me

I was having a bit of a low day anyhow, so prob took it more personally than needed to.

thanks for replies !

finbarrk

And they lived happily ever after!

Jack Sheehan

It's just porn, it's not a big deal. Leave the poor bloke alone.

RealEstateKing

But "Teen" porn is not as worrying as it may sound: It simply means "Young looking women" as opposed to women who look like they are in their 30's - none of them are actually teenagers, it's just billed that way, as the greatest amount of heterosexual males like the idea of women being in there absolute prime if they are paying to look at em. Its a a Darwin thing.

K-9

Kold wrote: »

In fairness, she doesn't really have any right to restrict him to look at anything he want. Object all you want, if you feel your relationship depends on it, if a girl pushed the subject with me I'd probably tell her to take a walk. It's bad form if it's on your computer though.

Indeed, no problem there, as I'd have no problem if she walked, if it was an important issue to her.

There's a large proportion of men posting here, so of course you'll get the "hell ya, nothing wrong with porn" answers! Kind of suits us, doesn't it! :cool:

Anyway OP, good you got it sorted out! Enjoy!

tbh

Ordinary Guy wrote: »

Surely the point here is that its ok to look at porn, most guys do, even when with a girlfriend.

Men ejaculate alot more frequently than they have sex, it doesnt take sherlock holmes to figure out what they are doing.

OP all guys look at porn, your BF looked at fairly tame stuff to be honest, unless you find "giant horse cock" or "midget anal" in his search bar, dont hassle him.

The only problem here is your attitude and naivety to this subject.

even tho the OP has clarified the situation somewhat, the problem here is not her attitude (or what we thought her attitude was). The OP is perfectly entitled to have whatever opinion of porn she wants, and it's not for you or anyone else to criticise her. The only problem is if she wants a relationship with someone who has a different attitude.

Attitudes in and of themselves are not a problem. Stop thinking she's "wrong" just because she doesn't think the same way as you. It's very patronising.

Wibbs

tbh wrote: »

Attitudes in and of themselves are not a problem. Stop thinking she's "wrong" just because she doesn't think the same way as you. It's very patronising.

I agree. It's her choice whether she finds this a problem or not. One man's meat is anothers poison. This goes double in the case of sexuality and it's various forms of expression.

Trinity

I personally have no problem with porn, i've watched it myself.

However i have a problem with the OH having clips on his phone. I dont know why, i think its cos it makes it more personal or private.

I think you just have to be honest with people about your limits and if you care about each other more times than not you will reach a compromise unless one or both of you are being totally unreasonable.

milod

Septic Leper wrote: »

...with cling film over the computer screen...

Ingenious! why didn't I think of that...

If I can just the g/f to go out this evening it'll be all hands to the pump...

Wibbs

milod unhelpful and off topic posts are not welcome hereabouts. The person you quoted has been banned for the same. Keep on topic.

marti101

Unless he prefers the porn to you,you have nothing to worry about.Maybe suggest an evening where you watch something together and maybe you will get a few ideas.

LegacyUser

Isn't it funny though how, despite the fact that as we seemingly all know here, 1, all men watch porn, 2, lots of girls do, 3, he has a right to watch what he likes in his own time, 4, non-teenage porn actresses genuinely love cock and 5, IT's JUST PORN... the guy in question still flat-out denied it?

So maybe it wasn't him but if it was, he feels the need to lie about it. Now that is a relationship problem. It's true that this kind of question shouldn't be posed in an accusing or over-emotional fashion (using words like disgusting, before the OP knew what exactly was under discussion) but if you're asked straight out, why not stand by your own decisions and interests and give the OP a straight answer?

It's one thing if you have a don't-ask, don't-tell veil of privacy around what you do to get off in your own time but lying about it is different. That would be a character trait that I think the OP could legitimately feel aggrieved about.

Dragan

query08 wrote: »

Thanks for all your replies

been honest, the reason i thought it was disgusting was that I thought it was teen porn. I guess i was worried that they were underagers - which would be disgusting

I have since checked the site and see that this is not the case. i have no major issues with porn itself, and have watched it in the past, both on my own and with my BF - i dont think its particularly tasteful, but i have no major issues with it

i guess my main concern was the age of the girls as i thought they were underage, and then that he lied to me

I was having a bit of a low day anyhow, so prob took it more personally than needed to.

thanks for replies !

I wouldn't worry about the teen bit. Even if they are really teenages ( 18 and 19 are still teenages remember ) they would be legal age. The majority of porn actresses who end up in the type of catagory are normally just younger looking early 20's anyways.

Teacherman

Most Men look at Porn. Its no big deal. Shame is internet provides such a huge amount of it. Sometimes address bar does guess what you might want to look at but he probably was. I delete my history and my wife knows what Im at but we dont discuss it. Men have higher sex drives and are more visual. Deal with or become a lesbian!

carlybabe1

Trinity1 wrote: »

I personally have no problem with porn, i've watched it myself.

However i have a problem with the OH having clips on his phone. I dont know why, i think its cos it makes it more personal or private.

I think you just have to be honest with people about your limits and if you care about each other more times than not you will reach a compromise unless one or both of you are being totally unreasonable.

Me too, I went out with a bloke once who had a very explicit one of a girl and a horse, I dont know which I was more ...well..insulted for :eek:
I thought it was sick and told him so, and he thought I had totally overreacted...he and his mates were for ever sendin each other stuff, and it didnt bother me at all till I saw this one and then all of a sudden I had a huge problem with any porn vids on his phone, I couldnt even explain why. Needless t say, didnt go to well

challengemaster

Men look at porn, Men masturbate, those who "dont" are liars.

davyjose

Well well, men today. Next of all you'll find him using expletives, or smoking a marajuana cigarette. Tut tut, what's the world coming to at all?

carlybabe1

davyjose wrote: »

Well well, men today. Next of all you'll find him using expletives, or smoking a marajuana cigarette. Tut tut, what's the world coming to at all?

yes cause these are all traits we find particularly attractive in a man, especially the smokin pot mmmm sexy

Marksie

Carlybabe1 and davyjose, take it to pm, keep it on topic.

carlybabe1

Apologies, sarcasm is my only form of wit