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Confused about whats going on...Help me...

  • 28-08-2008 8:01pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    I need a little advice.

    I have been dating this girl for about 5 weeks now. Everything was going fine until today. We both told each other that we liked each other...I call her Princess and she calls me Prince Charming...you get the picture. Everything was going fine. Today, we where texting and she said she could't see me until Sunday. Sounds fine you might think, but this has happend before. We dated about a year ago and the same thing happend she cancelled a date and then told me that she wasnt ready to go out with anyone yet and then five weeks ago told me that she was never rejecting me just rejecting a boyfriend. I am a bit worried that the same thing is happening again. I know everything appears to be going well but that just puts a bit of doubt in my mind...I adore her..We have been flirty for about three years but she had 2 boyfriends in that stage and they treated her badly.

    Maybe I am just overreacting but i have a feeling that everything might not be rosy.

    Thanks,


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    If you have the feeling that everything "might not" be rosy,then it isn't rosy. You need to talk to her about this before you end-up hurting yourself again. You shouldn't be coming here for advice: You should be going straight o her for answers. Certainly, I don't think you have the time to be waiting around for people like her. If she doesn't want to be with you, get her to admit it and then move-on. Don't let idiots run your life - Take the reigns yourself and be proud that you are in control of your own destiny.

    Kevin


  • #3
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    I don't know, sounds like she goes out with other guys, but just sees you as her safety net.

    Not a cool position to be in.


  • #4
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Did she give a reason?

    If not why dont you talk to her and ask?


  • #5
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Her last two boyfriends treated her badly?

    I'm sorry, but I would forgive her the first time as she may be unlucky, but two bastards in a row? That's something she's choosing.

    I would run away from this girl. If she's already messing your head up (after 5 weeks!) there is something wrong.

    Your partner should make your life better.

    I suspect this one likes drama, so you're in for a head wreck if you stay with her. Especially since you're probably a "nice guy" and she doesn't like nice guys.


  • #6
    petethebrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,031 ✭✭✭petethebrick


    I reckon just play it casual with her as well then.
    Have a bit of fun with her, keep you're options open though


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  • #7
    dudara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,518 ✭✭✭✭dudara


    You might just be reading far too much into this.

    She cancels a date and you're transported back in time to when she cancelled another date and subsequently broke up with you.

    Don't overreact here. People have to cancel things all the time. Talk to her and find out how she's feeling.


  • #8
    faceman
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 16,663 CMod ✭✭✭✭faceman


    Its all just speculation for now OP until Sunday arrives. If she does give you the run around on sunday then knock it on the head and probably cut contact from there.


  • #9
    STUBBORNGIRL
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 252 ✭✭STUBBORNGIRL


    i say - while its normal to read into things dont count your chickens until they are hatched. you have related this to a previous bad encounter which is fine but it may not turn out to be anything like that.

    On the other hand as someone already mentioned Gut instincts are usually right (well mine anyway) so there is probably reason to your suspicions!

    What i suggest you do is - let her off on her weekend and see her on Sunday, if she is acting differently then you will know that something is up. Sometimes other halves plan things with their friends and this has to be accepted. If she has gotten up to anything it will be written all over her face on sunday!

    I wouldnt advise speaking to her about your concerns at this early stage , as she may withdraw from you and see it as you over reacting.

    Sometimes you just have to let these things run their course to know the result - and this is one of those times!

    On another note - if she is letting guys treat her badly then that is all she deserves. Im a firm believer that anyone can be treated badly once but to let it happen twice is just stupid! Major Flaw.

    Good luck anyhow and enjoy your weekend needless to say!

    Edit: Just read Faceman comment and i 100% agree. Sunday is D DAy!


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