High maintenance?

LegacyUser

K this is one for the girls, well I suppose the guys too. Have u ever been referred to or referred to someone as "high maintenance"??? And What does this mean?? I was out a few nights ago with friends and one of their bfs was hammered and decided to confess that he and "all of his mates" think that I am high maintenance???

Now I would have thought I'm similar enough to all of my friends, who are, as it happens NOT high maintenance. Yes I make an effort with my appearance and have a decent enough job (same profession as my mates!) but I certainly would not think of this as hight maintenance!

I dunno why this bothers me so much but I can't seem to put it out of my mind - like i'm prob the quietest of the group, wud be shy but am chatty in company, I do make the effort to chat to my friends bfs and their friends but apparently I still manage to be totally unapproachable and "high maintenance"

sorry for the rant but wtf does this mean???

Cunny-Funt

“High maintenance women, from my personal definition means:

1. Needs lots of time

2. Needs lots of effort

3. Are very fussy and particular

4. Are difficult and troublesome

5. Are annoying

6. Have high expectations of her partner or date

7. Will be quick to reject a person if those expectations are not met

8. Hard to please, not easily impressed

9. Takes forever to get ready

10. Something all but the most patient and tolerant men should avoid like the plague.”

from http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22267/29805

more : http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=high+maintenance

K-9

Emotional drama queens basically!

pwd

yup
try using fewer question marks

LolaLuv

Cunny-Funt wrote: »

from http://www.divinecaroline.com/article/22267/29805

more : http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=high+maintenance

That is precisely what it means in my mind, although I might argue with number 9. I sometimes take a long time to get ready and have never once been told I'm high maintenance, quite the opposite in fact.

Why do you care though? Some guys like that. If it's who you are then it will be much easier to accept it than to change it. As long as you're not a jerk, it's alright.

pwd

PillyPen wrote: »

Why do you care though?

see post #3

LolaLuv

pwd wrote: »

see post #3

Lol, thank you for clearing that up. :rolleyes:

Jack B. Badd

wtf??? wrote: »

K this is one for the girls, well I suppose the guys too. Have u ever been referred to or referred to someone as "high maintenance"??? And What does this mean?? I was out a few nights ago with friends and one of their bfs was hammered and decided to confess that he and "all of his mates" think that I am high maintenance???

Now I would have thought I'm similar enough to all of my friends, who are, as it happens NOT high maintenance. Yes I make an effort with my appearance and have a decent enough job (same profession as my mates!) but I certainly would not think of this as hight maintenance!

I dunno why this bothers me so much but I can't seem to put it out of my mind - like i'm prob the quietest of the group, wud be shy but am chatty in company, I do make the effort to chat to my friends bfs and their friends but apparently I still manage to be totally unapproachable and "high maintenance"

sorry for the rant but wtf does this mean???

Tbh, this post comes across as reactionary and overly dramatic given the topic - it may be the overuse of questions marks, I view them in a similar manner to exclamation marks when they're grouped together. The questions themselves aren't an issue but the demanding way in which they are phrased would, ironically, be something I would associate with someone who's "high maintenance".
Personally, I would agree with the characteristics described by Cunny-Funt, with particular emphasis on numbers 2 and 4.

Wibbs

For me high maintenance would be a woman who appears to need me as a man to make her life better, but then takes issue when I try to accommodate her. Basically those women that need almost constant entertaining of their whims; emotional, psychological and physical. Been there and no thanks. Shrinks and entertainers get paid for that.:D

There's likely a male equivalent. I'm just speaking as a bloke here.

stepbar

We'll if she looks like a Ferrari, it comes with the territory

unhappycamper

stepbar wrote: »

We'll if she looks like a Ferrari, it comes with the territory

High maintenance means somebody who wants their way all the time. A taker not a giver .

newballsplease

imo, its usually only goodlooking women who are H.M

unhappycamper

newballsplease wrote: »

imo, its usually only goodlooking women who are H.M

Yes true, because they always think they could get another partner who would date them and spoil them :mad:because they are so good looking..

LolaLuv

Perhaps this is true in Ireland, but in America there are some absolute trolls who act like the biggest bitches I've ever met in my life. Eew.

mumhaabu

I found some of the women I was in relationships with in the past were very high maintenance. I once dated and lived with (she moved into my place) and we lived happily for a while. Anyway better looking women are generally more clingy and love to make mountains out of molehills.

Alot are gold diggers and that particular woman I was with took me to the cleaners and cost me over €50,000 as we had opened a joint bank account :eek: (Big mistake fellas), anyway she made of with a new VW Golf and left me with over €26,000 in debts mostly blown on designer goods and she had the cheek to ditch me at Christmas and head to NY with "the girls" shopping (hence the €26k on my platninum).

She was quite literraly the most expensive sex ever, I'd have got more had I paid a prozzie! As a guy I was worse as I just went with the flow and accepted it as she was Page 3 material and I was pulling in half a mill a year then. Now I am older richer and wiser and beware when the hot chick approaches you in the bar!

MagicMarker

mumhaabu wrote: »

I found some of the women I was in relationships with in the past were very high maintenance. I once dated and lived with (she moved into my place) and we lived happily for a while. Anyway better looking women are generally more clingy and love to make mountains out of molehills.

Alot are gold diggers and that particular woman I was with took me to the cleaners and cost me over €50,000 as we had opened a joint bank account :eek: (Big mistake fellas), anyway she made of with a new VW Golf and left me with over €26,000 in debts mostly blown on designer goods and she had the cheek to ditch me at Christmas and head to NY with "the girls" shopping (hence the €26k on my platninum).

She was quite literraly the most expensive sex ever, I'd have got more had I paid a prozzie! As a guy I was worse as I just went with the flow and accepted it as she was Page 3 material and I was pulling in half a mill a year then. Now I am older richer and wiser and beware when the hot chick approaches you in the bar!

Have a mil a year and you buy a new golf? Riiiight....

Anyway, OP, really, why do you care about what some drunkard tool told ya? Be happy with yourself and you'll be grand.

mumhaabu

MagicMarker wrote: »

Have a mil a year and you buy a new golf? Riiiight....

Yes I bought it for her, nice little run around not my favourite car but she looked good in it so I bought it. Admittedly I was a total idiot, I could have probably made her give it back but tbh I was glad to see the back of her.

stepbar

unhappycamper wrote: »

High maintenance means somebody who wants their way all the time. A taker not a giver .

I'm sure you could find ways of giving it back to her... Haw haw haw LOL

stepbar

mumhaabu wrote: »

I found some of the women I was in relationships with in the past were very high maintenance. I once dated and lived with (she moved into my place) and we lived happily for a while. Anyway better looking women are generally more clingy and love to make mountains out of molehills.

Alot are gold diggers and that particular woman I was with took me to the cleaners and cost me over €50,000 as we had opened a joint bank account :eek: (Big mistake fellas), anyway she made of with a new VW Golf and left me with over €26,000 in debts mostly blown on designer goods and she had the cheek to ditch me at Christmas and head to NY with "the girls" shopping (hence the €26k on my platninum).

She was quite literraly the most expensive sex ever, I'd have got more had I paid a prozzie! As a guy I was worse as I just went with the flow and accepted it as she was Page 3 material and I was pulling in half a mill a year then. Now I am older richer and wiser and beware when the hot chick approaches you in the bar!

More fool to you sir TBH.

dudara

OP, you admit yourself that you are the quietest of the group and that you make an effort to talk to the other's boyfriends etc. Well, this may be intrepreted by the men as being aloof and hence "high maintenance". They might feel that you are merely deigning to talk to them.

You should try to become more natural and confident in the company of others. Easier said than done, I know. But being natural is a trait many men like in women.

LegacyUser

I have been described as HM too and was upset with that fact as I am one of the most easy giong people you would ever meet. Guys sometimes just do this to wind you up and it can be considered as a term of affection (I went with the guy a few times even tho he said this and he said afterwards that it was to get my attention! - [not a great way to do it tho]).

Post #2 is very funny tho, and would say that although some are true, i am definitely not all of them [every girl has some of these]

To be honest, looking back, a guy that feels the need to say that in the first place in an ass and not worth thinking about.

Just be yourself!