understanding?

Moi2008

I been through alot of stress over two years, and I'm nervous travelling on my own, I feel secure when others are around, sometimes I feel like a burden on people, I know they think I'm clingy, but do you think they'll understand that I felt insecure for such an extended period that I feel like I need just a bit of security to make me maintain my sanity, do you think they'll understand if I ask to travel with them?

Drift

Hey Moi, you don't go into too much detail about who the people you are asking to travel with are. But if they are good friends they'll probably realise without being told why you are asking to travel with them. Would it be a couple and you travelling with them or a group of friends?

buckieburd

Moi2008 wrote: »

I been through alot of stress over two years, and I'm nervous travelling on my own, I feel secure when others are around, sometimes I feel like a burden on people, I know they think I'm clingy, but do you think they'll understand that I felt insecure for such an extended period that I feel like I need just a bit of security to make me maintain my sanity, do you think they'll understand if I ask to travel with them?

The best thing for you to do would be to bite the bullet and go on your own. You will see it wont be as bad as you think and it will give you confidence. It's always good to push yourself out of your comfort zone, and things are never as scary as what you build up in your head, and you will find your much stronger than you think you are.

Good luck!

madziuda

OP, I used to be like you when I was younger - felt that people were judging me all the time, was sure that they thought that the only reason I was alone (in a pub, on the road, ANYWHERE) was that I was a loser.

I missed out on so much because of that!

Finally, I decided, scr*w that, and began travelling on my own. It was frightening for the first day or so, but after that I was fine. I met wonderful people, made new friends, seen breathtaking places, had a good few adventures and soon my confidence was soaring!

Since then I visited dozens of new places both in my home country and abroad, moved to live for a year and a half in a country where I knew absolutely no one and you know what I was hardly ever alone.

When you're travelling on your own it's easier for other people to approach you as they're not afraid they'd intruding. And once you met other 'lone' travellers sure you can go to places together. Everyone's looking for some company after all.

Bottom line, OP, is give travelling on your own a try - even for a week or two - if it doesn't work out then you can always go and join your friends and continue the journey with them