Is it uncommon?

LegacyUser

Well i'm pushing 18 now and I feel quite left out because
a) everyone around me is in a relationship
b) I've never been kissed

I know it's not a huge deal and I try to forget about it but I can't help but wonder what the hell is wrong with me. I feel alone quite alot. And alot of people say oh be confident be you etc etc etc etc etc and I do that all the time. I'm fairly confident and I'm never anything but myself.

I just don't know what to do, I mean there's nothing I really can do..

Gah.

Marksie

well, basically you can do whatever you want to.
Your young and life is all there, you just haven't experienced it in all its facets..
But you have to determine what it is in fact that you want.

When you do that then you can take steps to achieve it. Becasue its only you that can do so, we can suggest but it is what is withing you that will determine where you go

So the question is:

What DO you want?

Handsome Bob

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Well i'm pushing 18 now and I feel quite left out because
a) everyone around me is in a relationship
b) I've never been kissed

I know it's not a huge deal and I try to forget about it but I can't help but wonder what the hell is wrong with me. I feel alone quite alot. And alot of people say oh be confident be you etc etc etc etc etc and I do that all the time. I'm fairly confident and I'm never anything but myself.

I just don't know what to do, I mean there's nothing I really can do..

Gah.

I only had my first kiss when I was 18 and as with you all my mates had been in relationships by the time I had kissed the girl. Is it a major deal for you OP? I mean are you happy with your life or do you feel pressurised to do something?

spurious

Is it uncommon to not be in a relationship or have been kissed at 18?
No it's not uncommon.

Neither is it uncommon at 18 to be questioning your life and sometimes finding it is not (yet) what you want.

Drift

Hey OP. I was 23 when I first kissed a girl so you're by no means the last pringle in the tube.

Also at 18 most relationships are short lived things that fizzle in and out. They can be fun (I've heard!) but they are nothing like what the tv tells you they are and are indeed quite different from what relationships will be later in life. You're not missing out on anything at all because you WILL be in relationships, it's bound to happen. More than likely it will happen when you're least expecting it so the best advice is to enjoy being 18.

Having said that late teens can be a rough age. School is finishing, adulthood is beginning, there's a whole set of new challenges and responsibilities and like spurious said everyone at this age is questioning who and what they are - everyone will be worrying about different things but the common factor is that no-one will have the answers. (Except us boardsies - we know EVERYTHING!). Enjoy being young, free and 18. Pick some fun things that you want to do and just go do them because there's nothing at all tying you down. If you enjoy yourself and what you're doing others will enjoy your company and you'll be beating them off with a stick!

P.S. Just read you're not even 18 yet. 17 gives you a whole extra year of arsing around!!

trio

You're 17 and never been kissed?

JOIN THE CLUB!!

I remember when I was 17 feeling the exact same way. All around me were people shifting like there was no tomorrow. And me feeling like a total bow-wow.

Then I trotted off to college where the drink was plentiful and people got blind drunk and shifted every single person they met. Only thing is that the person you kissed might not remember it the next day.....STILL, it definately helped me feeling more "normal".

I honestly think 17 is one of the most miserable ages out there. You wreck your own head feeling so insecure. You're not sure what you SHOULD be doing, but you know that somehow, some way, you're just not measuring up. You're not measuring up at school, you're not measuring up socially, you're not measuring up physically.......It's the most negative and depressing year there is.

If you're fairly confident, but still feel alone, with slumps of insecurity and doubt - then I'd say you're probably doing OK. Sounds wierd, I know - but all I mean is that this is the path that all 17 year olds travel, and you're entirely as you should be.

The good thing is - it all gets gradually better from 17 onwards.

Pj!

Yeah I was 18 i'd say before I got my first kiss. Thought it would never come. Nice memory though.

I'm a few years older now and have no major problems getting kisses of a night out. Things change once you leave school mate. And its not just college. People change and you'll change.

Dudess

Didn't have my first relationship til I was 18. I kissed a lot of guys before that but these encounters were meaningless and I felt little or nothing so I might as well not have bothered tbh.

DancingDaisy

I was my OH first kiss and first relationship and the fact always makes me feel extra special. I didn't think it was weird that he had never had any romantic connections before and he was 19 at the time, as was I.

Pen1987

Are you male or female?

Either way its not unusal... you can go out and do something about it now youre eighteen anyway. You wont be cooked up in the same small group - pubs clubs etc, plenty of stranger to attract you.