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  • 25-08-2008 8:30pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So i really like my best friends ex,
    She was my friend before they got together an ive always got on great with her,
    When he was with her he used to treat her awful (cheating , lying etc)
    They broke up last month and already he has a new gf, but still talks about how he'l eventually go back to his ex,
    id love to ask her out and i know she feels the same, but knowing my friend he would defo have a problem with it, as would other mutual friends, it would be seen as just using his ex for a shag but nothing could be further from that

    i dunno what to do, should i try talk to him? or just ingore and wait till it goes away

    any advice would be great
    i dunno what to do :(


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭wasper


    Define_ wrote: »
    So i really like my best friends ex,
    She was my friend before they got together an ive always got on great with her,
    When he was with her he used to treat her awful (cheating , lying etc)
    They broke up last month and already he has a new gf, but still talks about how he'l eventually go back to his ex,
    id love to ask her out and i know she feels the same, but knowing my friend he would defo have a problem with it, as would other mutual friends, it would be seen as just using his ex for a shag but nothing could be further from that

    i dunno what to do, should i try talk to him? or just ingore and wait till it goes away

    any advice would be great
    i dunno what to do :(
    You are both free agents. He has a new GF. So what is the problem. If you both feel the same about each other, then the hell with your mate.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Don't go there. His poor treatment of her doesn't justify you moving in there straight away...You say he's your best friend, so let the feeling for her fizzle out, and go hook up with someone else!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 559 ✭✭✭ZygOte


    hes sounds like hes an idiot, but unfortunatly if hes your mate then generally speaking GF's, ex or not, are a "no fly zone". you may find you cant have both you may have to choose one or the other.

    just my 2cent.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Normally i'd be an advocator or the 'bro's before ho's' way of thinking. However, if my friend did that i would lose a great deal of respect for him and to be honest under those circumstances i couldn't give a toss what he'd think.

    Just tell him first, if he has a problem with it then tough.

    Plus make sure you're not the rebound guy, they only broke up a month ago.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Define_ wrote: »
    id love to ask her out and i know she feels the same

    How do you know? If he treated her that badly I say go for it, you may have to expect a fall-out though, sounds like she is firmly on his longterm subs bench so he may not be especially happy for you both.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,433 ✭✭✭sinnerboy


    Same thing happened to someone close to me about 10 years ago . He started dating his best pals ex . Lost his best friend . Married the girl . Baby no 2 due soon . Happy days .


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,104 ✭✭✭Swampy


    Don't break the golden rule. Put your mate first. Or else just tap her on the sly.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 470 ✭✭Craft25


    why is your best friend a liar and a cheat?? or more to the point why is a liar and a cheat your best friend?

    did you pull him up on his behaviour at the time? and say.. hey man thats low stuff??

    if you think yourself more in the right than him, then go for the girl, when he comes complaining just stand up to him, tell him it was his own tough tiddie.. its all well and good saying bro's before ho's, but if you're gonna be always the little bro gettin wedgies & knuckledusters then whats the point? no girl will see u as a man


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