Break-up ramble

LegacyUser

Okay......

Broke up with the gf there at start of last week after 5 yrs of going out. We bought an apt. 2 yrs ago and now we're in a quandary as to what to do with the property.

She's moving out today into an apt. down the rd. as a couple she knows have a spare room. I offered to move into our spare room but she said it wouldn't be enough free space for her (we work together and reason we broke up is cos we were on top of each other all the time).

So choices are:

1) Get someone i know to move in and rent the spare room
2) Both of us move out (me back to parents') and let the whole apt out
3) Sell it
4) I move out and her parents buy me out
5) Rent spare room out to a stranger and i take main room

3 and 4 are non-runners. No point selling it in current climate and i don't wanna be bought out. Don't really want a stranger living in the house either so it looks like option 1 or 2 and no-one i know is looking to move out.

I'm well freaked about the break-up cos i'd no idea things were this bad but she just broke the news to me last week and said she was moving out. We were s'posed to be going to Oz for a month in October but that's all out the window now as well.

I can live with losing out on the money for the holiday, and i'll get over the break-up, but it's the gaff that's killing me. I don't wanna move back into parents' gaff so was thinking I'd just rent a place (for some reason this isn't a big problem for me) somewhere, but how ridiculous is renting your own apt. out to someone because you don't wanna share it with anyone, only to move into someone elses?

Sorry if i didn't explain it well enough.

RedXIV

Being honest? renting out the spare room to a stranger has the potential to be the best thing you've ever done. i've some amazing friends from people i moved in blind with, and even a relationship with one girl.

Don't rule it out just yet.

Is it possible for you to live there on your own?

not yet

Strangle the cat, feed the dog water the plants and go get drunk......sorted.

Velvet Vocals

I agree with RedXIV, it seems like renting out the spare room is the best option. Just make sure you vet the person well before hand and you should be ok. I've been renting and sharing with people since I was 17 (I'm 30 now) and apart from 2 weirdo's the majority of people are fine.
It'll alow you to stay where you are and also give you and your gf space. It could just be that it was all too much for her, living and working together, it might just be that after some time to think and miss you she moves back or if not that you might get back together but not live together for a while.
Give her some time and best of luck!

LegacyUser

RedXIV wrote: »

Being honest? renting out the spare room to a stranger has the potential to be the best thing you've ever done. i've some amazing friends from people i moved in blind with, and even a relationship with one girl.

Don't rule it out just yet.

Is it possible for you to live there on your own?

No, definitely not. Mortgage would cripple me. I take your points on the stranger moving in. Starting to get a little bit less apprehensive about it. Thanks.

As it turns out, twasn't last Monday she's moving out, but next Monday. She's proposed a new alternative arrangement as well. Her sis goes to college and lives in London but she's coming home for about 4-5 months. If/when she gets a job she'll be looking for a place to stay so if I move back to the parents' house, the 2 of them will move into the apt. together.

TBH, this sounds like a bullsh!t deal for me. For a start the thoughts of packing all my sh!t together and moving it seems like a nightmare to do once, never mind twice in such a small space of time.

The entire situation is a pain in the hole.

LegacyUser

I'm in exactly the same boat. Both bought an appartment last year, but broke up after over 5 years of living together. All is sad and very tragic. And that bloody appartment. Don't know what to do either.