Dissapointed

SandraG

Ok so this is a bit of a rant and Im sure Im just being a selfish bi**h but Im really sick in bed and my boyfriend was away all wkend, so I guess I just expected him to come over when he got home and bring lemsip and hugs. Well he didnt and he said he wasnt going to see me coz he didnt want to catch it as he's going on hols on thurs. So I guess i understand he doesnt wanna be sick for his hols but a quick phone call and a how ya feelin would of been nice,no??:(

john_aero

thats just lousey though in all fairness. no matter what you would think if your other half is sick then you would want to spend even more time with them

SandraG

Yeah I would of thought that too, but I guess not in this case! I know Im totally feeling sorry for myself coz Im sick, but I would of gone running to his with the medicine cabinet if he was ill

omb0wyn5ehpij9

That is poor form from your boyfriend. I can understand he doesnt want to be sick for his holiday, but if i was in his position i would have still called over to see you. Have you said anything to him about it?

SandraG

No, sure what can I say?! Spoke to him on the phone last night and he said he thought Id be better by today (only got sick on saturday!) and that he'd come over and to give him a call. Needless to say Im not better and I wont be calling him!
Have to say was really dissapointed

john_aero

like some people would go as far a cancelling hols if wer sick. realy bad form and in my opinion will take lot make up for it

omb0wyn5ehpij9

SandraG wrote: »

No, sure what can I say?! Spoke to him on the phone last night and he said he thought Id be better by today (only got sick on saturday!) and that he'd come over and to give him a call. Needless to say Im not better and I wont be calling him!
Have to say was really dissapointed

Tell him that you are disappointed and that you see it as poor form!

spinandscribble

really bad form. its times like this people show their true colours. in this case he's a bit of a selfish twit.

SandraG

BrynW wrote: »

Tell him that you are disappointed and that you see it as poor form!

Yeah i guess so, I wasnt sure if I was just being over sensitive etc coz Im sick or if it was actually poor form, if you know what I mean?!

RedXIV

SandraG wrote: »

No, sure what can I say?! Spoke to him on the phone last night and he said he thought Id be better by today (only got sick on saturday!) and that he'd come over and to give him a call. Needless to say Im not better and I wont be calling him!
Have to say was really dissapointed

As always, someone is needed to play devil's advocate so i'm going to throw this out there, shoot it down if you will. But i remember when an ex was sick and adamantly refused to see me while she was in that state. and because she was my first gf, i assumed that this was a generic thing, girls don't like to be seen all sniffly etc. Now that doesn't really excuse the "not getting sick, sure i'm off on hols this week" but it may explain why he wants confirmation before he comes to see you.

Just a thought.

spinandscribble

red i shoot that down, she asked him to see her and told her for his own sake he wouldn't come. however he probably realised he was acting the maggit and pulled "oh no i DID say i'd come over (heehee)"

Fat Pie Lot

I can understand that he doesn't want to get ill before his holidays, but a couple of phone calls are called for at the very least.

RedXIV

spinandscribble wrote: »

red i shoot that down, she asked him to see her and told her for his own sake he wouldn't come. however he probably realised he was acting the maggit and pulled "oh no i DID say i'd come over (heehee)"

Was expecting someone to anyway

but as in most of these PI cases, we get one side of the story, and i try and keep an unbiased opinion in most of these stories. for example, you can't fairly say " he probably realised he was acting the maggit".
For all we know he could have a chronic fear of getting ill? long shot but there ya go

But i have to admit, he could have handled the situation alot better OP, you are still perfectly entitled to complain about him

Miss Fluff

Tell him you were really gutted, that you could have done with some TLC. He probably doesn't even realise how insensitive he was to you.

Kiera

Red has a point. I hate anyone near me when I’m sick. I like to be on my own and get over it myself. I don’t tell my Mam when I’m sick anymore cause she just wants to come over and stay with me till I’m better which bugs the crap out of me (yes I know I’m ungrateful) when I’m not well.

Give him a break.

spinandscribble

RedXIV wrote: »

Was expecting someone to anyway

but as in most of these PI cases, we get one side of the story, and i try and keep an unbiased opinion in most of these stories. for example, you can't fairly say " he probably realised he was acting the maggit".
For all we know he could have a chronic fear of getting ill? long shot but there ya go

But i have to admit, he could have handled the situation alot better OP, you are still perfectly entitled to complain about him

:)i'd sooner think he was scared of germs then of seeing her without her really wanting to see her considered she asked him. its my opinion he realised his mistake and thats what accounted for his uturn.

op complain away. its not a dumpable offense but i'd expect a kiss of my arse or a nice pressie from his holidays.

SandraG

Well it seems he realised that he was insensitive without me saying anything as is on his way (on his lunch hour) with lemsip, so Im glad I didnt have to be moaney and Im more glad he realised
So rant over, and thanks for all your comments and just letting me rant

Hrududu

like some people would go as far a cancelling hols if wer sick. realy bad form and in my opinion will take lot make up for it

You'd cancel your whole holiday because your partner has a cold? I don't blame him for not visiting, who wants to be sick on their holidays? But he could have made more of an effort of trying to comfort over the phone.