Relationship Advice etc

blahblah89

Hey...I'm new.

Anyway the thing is I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend before. I could count the amount of guys I've kissed on my hand. I kind of do know what the problem is but don't. Many of my mates would probably seem shocked by this because I'm not ugly (get attention etc), smart, funny, sociable etc. I know some guys look at me twice when they see me because I kind of have a unique look and I dress differently. Sometimes I think this is why guys don't really go for it because I don't attract the chavs, I'm not a typical indie girl, and all the rest of the main social groups etc.

I am very private though and I find it very hard to express my emotions and find love kind of scary. The older I get the worse it gets though. I am blatently very unexperienced and think why would a guy want to go out with me? In the last year or so I thought I would just get p!ssed and lose my virginity to a one night stand- that way we both wouldn't remember. But now I really like the idea of having a boyfriend. But are guys really scared of going out with a virgin or what?

I probably just need more confidence but in some ways I feel I will never get a boyfriend tbh. I'm starting college soon though so I would really appreciate any help or advice!!

It would be nice to someone's advice whose been in a similar situation or of guys themselves.

Anyway hope you don't think I'm a freak. Even though I sometimes feel like one.

Cheers!

Black Swan

Better in PI methinks...

challengemaster

agreed!

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I could count the amount of guys I've kissed on my hand

not always a bad thing!

Tragedy

There are plenty of boys and girls like you, many many are older

Dont worry about it, the private thing will be the main difficulty believe it or not, rather than inexperience or virginity - but again, meet someone special and eventually you'll let your feelings out... a bit

I'm 23(and a half, ugh). Can still remember every girl I've ever kissed - mainly because it hasnt been that many. That doesnt bother me in the slightest, and hasnt bothered anyone I've gotten close to. They're usually just a bit shocked Really, REALLY REALLY fricken private though. I think my parents are half-convinced I'm gay, because I've never ever talked about girls(or guys for that matter), never mentioned girlfriends or brought a girl home

And dont get me mentioned on feelings when in a relationship >.>

Zaph

This should be in PI

Moved from The Ladies Lounge

entropi

Tragedy wrote: »

There are plenty of boys and girls like you, many many are older

Dont worry about it, the private thing will be the main difficulty believe it or not, rather than inexperience or virginity - but again, meet someone special and eventually you'll let your feelings out... a bit I think my parents are half-convinced I'm gay, because I've never ever talked about girls(or guys for that matter), never mentioned girlfriends or brought a girl home

Tell me about it, i got asked the "are you gay or something?" question not long ago, of course i told my mam no as i'm straight but like you, i am a very private person like that.

OP, i would go ahead and say not to worry about it, the more you think about it, the more it will get to you and make you worry even more. You mentioned you are starting college? thats great!! there are ALWAYS people from various social groups that would normally not get along in the same courses, and the college societies you could look into maybe? I'm quite sure you will find someone who appreciates you for who you are, and not what they percieve you to be:)

Just go with the flow, anything can happen!! and for the record, you are NOT a freak, but unique.