How to hang out?

LegacyUser

Have to see an ex tonight for the first real time since a very messy fight.
We are both really happy in new relationships and I know I certainly don't harbour any feelings whatsoever.

The last time we spoke properly was at christmas when he discovered I had been with two of his freinds and resulted in a big ugly fight where a lot of crap was said. Since we've seen each other only once by accident both out with our new partners.

Tonight we're both going to a session with a mutual friend. I didn't want to go initially and made the friend ask him if it would be cool or would it result in a fight. He said basically "your house your call" and just asked that I don't bring up the past infront of his new gf (which I wouldn't be tactless enough to do anyway)
I'm just really nervous about going in case he gets drunk and says something or anyone mentions anything that happened before because i've changed from the person i was back then.

The only reason that I really want to even go tonight is that the mutaual friend who's having the party is one of the only people i would actually call a true friend (as i said made mistakes before with people etc)

I guess i want someone to say it'll be okay and i'm just worring unnessicarily.

IanCurtis

My advice: Don't go. Seems like unnecessary hassle to me.

MagicMarker

Question is, will either of the two friends you f*cked around with be there?

Fat Pie Lot

Is he the type to get drunk and say something out of turn?

If yes: don't go.

If no: he'll probably be true to his word

LegacyUser

No, no

That was really only the tip of the iceberg, a big fight had been coming we'd broken up AGES before but kept meeting up and going at it etc

i just want to grow up and put the whole thing behind us i'm just worrying about trying to make small talk!

sunnyside

inapanic wrote: »

I guess i want someone to say it'll be okay and i'm just worring unnessicarily.

Hopefully but there's no guarantee especially if there's a lot of drink involved.

jdivision

Being with his mates wasn't very grown up to be honest. Sounds like you're afraid he might bring up stuff you've done and embarress you rather than fact you're being "grown up" all of a sudden.

conbob

you were with your exs 2 friends?....... jaysus