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Post College Depression

  • 23-08-2008 1:05am
    #1
    Icarian
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 256 ✭✭


    Just finished a 4 year degree in Dublin and now I'm back home in Wexford

    I've always had a tough time making friends, and unfortunately all my friends from college are staying in Dublin, for postgrad courses or work, meanwhile im stuck in Wexford. I've tried keeping in contact them, but they just dont seem interested.

    I've got no job, no money, no friends, i'm at home fighting with my parents. I stay awake until 5 am, and get up at 2pm. I.m just so bored and lonely that i feel it in my stomach...

    I've applied for jobs, pHD studentships and masters, but all i get back is rejection, and the economy at the moment makes finding a job difficult. Every job i apply for say they need a masters or phd, or 2 years experience, but i cant get the experience because i cant get a job, its a catch 22 situation.

    I know post college depression hits alot of people, but i just feel so bored, hopeless and lonely, i really dont know what to do... I'm 22, but i feel like my life is over while all my friends are going back to the party

    i dont want to be left behind


Comments

  • #2
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    count me in. I just dropped out after 2 years. though it hasn't sunk in yet. Now I've moved back to the states into an area I've never lived before. So I have no job, no friends, and if not for the internet I would barely be able to tell you which way was North from South.

    What can you do though, besides carry on? Not much.


  • #3
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Icarian wrote: »
    Just finished a 4 year degree in Dublin and now I'm back home in Wexford

    I've always had a tough time making friends, and unfortunately all my friends from college are staying in Dublin, for postgrad courses or work, meanwhile im stuck in Wexford. I've tried keeping in contact them, but they just dont seem interested.

    I've got no job, no money, no friends, i'm at home fighting with my parents. I stay awake until 5 am, and get up at 2pm. I.m just so bored and lonely that i feel it in my stomach...

    I've applied for jobs, pHD studentships and masters, but all i get back is rejection, and the economy at the moment makes finding a job difficult. Every job i apply for say they need a masters or phd, or 2 years experience, but i cant get the experience because i cant get a job, its a catch 22 situation.

    I know post college depression hits alot of people, but i just feel so bored, hopeless and lonely, i really dont know what to do... I'm 22, but i feel like my life is over while all my friends are going back to the party

    i dont want to be left behind
    Why don't you go back and do a post grad?
    Why not move back to Dublin and work there in some random job and be able to see your mates?
    Why not move anywhere in the country?
    Why not go travelling the world?
    Why sit at home and do nothing about it?


  • #4
    Icarian
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 256 ✭✭Icarian


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Why don't you go back and do a post grad?
    Why not move back to Dublin and work there in some random job and be able to see your mates?
    Why not move anywhere in the country?
    Why not go travelling the world?
    Why sit at home and do nothing about it?

    I actually suffered from depression long before i finished college, i was on meds, but now even they dont seem enough to stave it off...


    1. Yeah... i'm looking for jobs, most of the jobs i've applied for are in Dublin, but i keep getting rejected... to be honest, even if i do go back, i dont know if my friends will have time for me... theve got lots of oter friends too, so they dont need me as much as i need them

    2. i've been looking for jobs in cork and galway too, since i like those cities, but its the same story, even if i do get a job, im a shy guy, and depressed, so its not going to be easy to make friends, but i will try if i get the chance

    3. i've actually been dreaming of travelling the world for years, but i dont know if i can do it on my own, especially in my current state, i really want to go to Australia, NZ & Japan

    4. I'm trying to man, i'm just not having much luck at the moment

    Overheal, it took me a couple of months before this funk started setting, in hope it doesnt happen to you, good luck man..,


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Icarian wrote: »

    1. Yeah... i'm looking for jobs, most of the jobs i've applied for are in Dublin, but i keep getting rejected... to be honest, even if i do go back, i dont know if my friends will have time for me... theve got lots of oter friends too, so they dont need me as much as i need them..,

    Are you looking for jobs specific to your degree? If so then change that, look for anything you can get, you can always keep looking once you find something.
    Icarian wrote: »
    2. i've been looking for jobs in cork and galway too, since i like those cities, but its the same story, even if i do get a job, im a shy guy, and depressed, so its not going to be easy to make friends, but i will try if i get the chance..,

    Friends can be made naturally when in a new job, other than that there are plenty of websites where you can meet new people, boards.ie being one of them. There's plenty of social gatherins organized through this site, keep an eye out.
    Icarian wrote: »
    3. i've actually been dreaming of travelling the world for years, but i dont know if i can do it on my own, especially in my current state, i really want to go to Australia, NZ & Japan..,

    If you have the means to do it, then you should do it. Going on your own will only improve your own self worth. You won't have a problem meeting other people on your travels. Life is about taking risks man, if anything i would suggest going on your own rather than going with mates.
    Icarian wrote: »
    4. I'm trying to man, i'm just not having much luck at the moment..,

    Are you still seeking professional help with regards to the depression, you say you're on meds, did the doctor also refer you to a therapist?

    Keep at it man and don't rule out travelling on your own, it will probably be the best thing you will ever do.

    Best of luck


  • #6
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Going to bed at 5am and getting up at 2pm isn't going to help matters. Go to the bank, get a loan of a few hundred or from your parents, pack your bag like Paddington Bear, kip on a mate's floor on the agreement it will be for no longer than two weeks and put your heart and soul into job hunting. Your first job does not necessarily mean it's for life so choose a role that will keep you in food, accommodation and spending money and then use your time constructively to find a job that you really want. I'm not being unsympathetic but the amount of posts I see from people claiming they can't find a job etc and then when actually probed about how they are going about it and how much time they are dedicating to their search, it's no bloody wonder. Choose a specific day as your day to move, take positive steps and everything else will follow.


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