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Relationship problems

  • 23-08-2008 12:36am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi.

    My bf and I have been together for 2 years now. Things were really really amazing for the first year and a half and I felt better than I'd ever felt in my entire life.

    In the past six months we have broken up and gone on breaks so many times I've lost count. I've been quite depressed and stressed which i think has played a big part in all this. Last time we got back together we promised no more messing around and we'd try really hard blah blah blah. And up until the middle of this week it was going really well and almost felt the same. But now I just don't feel it...again. I'm terrified of breaking up with him. I realy don't know what to do.

    I really really want to make things work, but at this stage I don't see how they can. It just feels like what we had is gone. But the two of us still love each other so much and it's impossible to be apart. I feel like being with him is the lesser of two evils. I also feel that I'm sorta trapped in this 'on again off again' thing that's never going to stop. We share the same friends and go to the same parties so everytime we break up we end up seeing each

    What should I do? Do you think there is any way to 'fix it' or should I just break up with him and hope it sticks this time?


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  • #2
    fits
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,638 ✭✭✭✭fits


    Break up and make it stick. Avoid each other for a few months, its not that difficult. And cut all contact.

    You will only end up hating each other if you continue like this. Much better to make a clean break of it.


  • #3
    anucksunamun
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 273 ✭✭anucksunamun


    hey there,
    I've been in your shoes, I stuck around for nearly six years.. do you want to look back in a few years times and see years spent in fear of spending some time on your own, on finding out about yourself, and who you are, what you want from life, from a relationship? I can tell ya here and now, your not in the right relationship. You dont have to work so hard to remind yourself that you love him, when its really love. I know your caught in a viscious circle at the moment, wanting to feel how you did, wanting to be happy, if you need to talk pm me, but i'll only ever be completely honest, and tell you the truth no matter what.. If you want someone to tell you it'll be ok, I'm not the girl, I wouldnt want to see anyone else waste their life, like i did!


  • #4
    G86
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,660 ✭✭✭G86


    Its been said before and it can never be said enough in my opinion - you can love someone but not be IN love with them.

    If what you had is gone and you've spent the last 6 months trying to get it back then you have to face up to the fact that maybe its gone for good. You could spend another 6 months trying to fix things, or you could make a clean break and get on with your life, its your decision. I understand how scary it is to think of being alone, but is it not better to be happy and be on your own than to be depressed the way you are now?


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