Living with a person who happens to be female...

LegacyUser

Situation is I'm renting out a room and Ive advertised it to women and men. Now, heres the pickle. Ive never lived with a woman before and theres a girl interested in taking it. She's not bad looking, and my nightmare is her spending the weekends in the room with a fella and me having to listen to it. Has anyone had to deal with that before? What about her one night stands and having some drunk idiot wandering around the morning after etc etc. I have a girlfriend but I wouldnt have sex if someone else would be listening. Also what about taking dumps and stuff, dont laugh honestly I'm serious do you think I should hold out for a bloke. I'm 29, the girl moving in is 25.

fasterkitten

But if you let it to a man he might bring home one night stands too - male or female. And what has her appearance to do with anything?

And FYI girls take dumps too.

MugMugs

I think you should tell the girl your fears and let her realise the mistake she is making and go elsewhere !

Annie Bananie

fasterkitten wrote: »

But if you let it to a man he might bring home one night stands too - male or female. And what has her appearance to do with anything?

My thoughts exactly..

If you rent the room to someone and dont want them to bring people home overnight, just state it in the household rules before they agree to rent.
Simple as that.

petethebrick

Annie Bananie wrote: »

My thoughts exactly..

If you rent the room to someone and dont want them to bring people home overnight, just state it in the household rules before they agree to rent.
Simple as that.

Two points:
1) To argue with an above poster appearance can have a lot to do with things. Living with someone you're attracted could be awkward for a lot of reasons. I've lived with girls a fair bit and much prefer when I don't fancy them as can relax much more around the gaff.
2) Yeah fair enough you can tell them you don't want people staying overnight etc but I personally would never move into a place where I was told that up front and I doubt most people, at least those with half a life, would either. As an adult there's no way I'd be living somewhere with childish restrictions like that.

sunny2004

fasterkitten wrote: »

]And FYI girls take dumps too.

Are you making this up ?? :eek:

LegacyUser

Okay, no realistic help there...its the type of apartment where you can hear a good bit..maybe I should just say we'll try a month and if it doesnt work out well....

jozi

Living a few other people in my house. My room is quite isolated (attic) but one of my other flat mates has her room right next to a couple.

Initially there where some problems with a conflict in life styles. These where dealt with by everyone in the house by making some rules.

Simple things like no noise after 11, whisper in the room, no music, no drying hair at 1am etc. Worst comes to worst can't you just ask people to be quiet at night?

I think so long as he/she has respect for their flat mates everything should be fine, you respect him/her and the will respect you.

On the flip side, there's a better chance of a girl being more tidy than a guy (from my experience, and there are exceptions for sure).

stovelid

LOL - men sleep with people too.

It sounds like you might not be quite ready to live with strangers. If you have a tenant, they should be able to treat the place as a home, and that means, well, shagging people, amongst other things.

LolaLuv

I used to live with a house full of men and I was very concerned about taking dumps as well. Most of the time I was able to work it so I'd crap before getting into the shower, so all the evidence would be gone by the time I was done showering. That might work out for you as well.

MIN2511

livingwithabird wrote: »

Okay, no realistic help there...its the type of apartment where you can hear a good bit..maybe I should just say we'll try a month and if it doesnt work out well....

Imagine her spending money and time to move in and then having to move out after a month.... It's either you can deal with it or not!!!!!

hussey

livingwithabird wrote: »

Situation is I'm renting out a room and Ive advertised it to women and men. Now, heres the pickle. Ive never lived with a woman before and theres a girl interested in taking it. She's not bad looking, and my nightmare is her spending the weekends in the room with a fella and me having to listen to it. Has anyone had to deal with that before? What about her one night stands and having some drunk idiot wandering around the morning after etc etc. I have a girlfriend but I wouldnt have sex if someone else would be listening. Also what about taking dumps and stuff, dont laugh honestly I'm serious do you think I should hold out for a bloke. I'm 29, the girl moving in is 25.

I've lived with guys and girls, I view them the same, they have the same rules.
Honestly it sounds as if you are not mature enough to live with a girl.

your nightmare is her having sex ... so if a bloke was to take the room and have sex .. it would be high fives all around??

When your GF is around do you worry about her having a dump?
if you visit her place do you think other people are worried and 'have to listen to it'?

Jack B. Badd

hussey wrote: »

Honestly it sounds as if you are not mature enough to live with a girl.

I think I'd amend that to "anyone" tbh...

It is much better to live in mixed houses. The sexes civilise each other.

john_aero

just make it clear at the beginning that "extremes" of anything are out fo the question. like she may not bring may people back to the house but love loud music so your scrwed then too. so just get peoper tenant agreement sorted and then just see how it goes.

i fyou have these concerns then maybe your not suited to rent rooms out as you will be un able to relax around your tenants

Karen_*

Well the solution to this is not to take in a girl. You've too many reservations about it and you're going to be uncomfortable in your own home. Scrap the idea and get a bloke. Problem solved.

neuro-praxis

This thread has really given me a chuckle!

You're obviously not comfortable. So wait for a bloke. It's your house!

Craft25

People have been saying he's not ready to live with a girl, or scrap it and get a guy.. but i think it could be a good thing for him..

if she does start the headboard rocking then OP will be forced to have a maybe uncomfortable conversation that could be good for him.. if i had to work/get up id definitely want her to put the matress on the floor and hold the screaming at least... maybe he feels he could just turn to a guy and say.. shut the hell up, but cant say these things to a girl.. i always think its better to take the challenge if ur not up for that stuff, rather than setting a rule for life of never living with women... basically get over it now, sooner the better

id be much more concerned with finding people i think are sound than worrying about gender..

just buy air freshener/spray.. everybody poops.. even jessica alba tho its hard to believe anything smelly ever came from tsuch a finey hiney

Velvet Vocals

sharing is such a difficult thing that if you're not comfortable with the person regarless of sex then you shouldn't go with them. in saying that though i agree with a previous post, it might actually be good for you, getting to know what living with a woman is like before you actually move in with a gf or partner.

Also, I moved in with my flatmate who is a man last year and I quickly learned that it was wize to have a nice room spray in the bathroom to mask any unwanted oders:)

LegacyUser

I've lived with chicks and the one nights stands they have does get annoying after a while.

I have to make a point about you saying taking a dump would be awkward, are you serious? Proudly proclaim, "I'm off to unload one into the jacks, wish me luck, I don't think it's gonna be pretty" and go and do your dump. It's your castle man.

Faith

Like others have said, men are as likely to have sex as women are! With any flatmate you have to deal with certain uncomfortable situations - hearing them have sex and smelly bathrooms among other things. If it helps, I've had two different female flatmates over the past two years, and neither of them have ever brought a guy home while I was there. I could just be lucky of course.

pepsi1234

OP, you obviously have very little else to worry about in life.
Good for you.

MagicMarker

Dude, get a girl! She'll cook and clean for you, win win i say;)

Ok, all joking aside. If you don't want to live with a girl, then don't. But have a really really really good think about it, what's so different between a girl and a guy, or than genitalia.

Annie Bananie

petethebrick wrote: »

Yeah fair enough you can tell them you don't want people staying overnight etc but I personally would never move into a place where I was told that up front and I doubt most people, at least those with half a life, would either. As an adult there's no way I'd be living somewhere with childish restrictions like that.

Exactly my point I wouldn't either. But someone else prob would. Just saying that if the OP don't want the person who rents to bring people home overnight, then tell them upfront. If they can't accept it, its better to find someone who would. A bit harsch to call it childish though, even if it would not bother you or even me, some might find it really uncomfortable listening into other people having sex.