does he like it?

LegacyUser

ok this is going to sound really silly. but i'm pretty "inexperienced" when it comes to men and sex
i'm currently with someone and we just started having sex. he says it's amazing but i want to know for sure that i'm doing things right
are there signs i should look for? anything that might tell me if i'm doing things right or wrong? or preferably, signs that would tell me i'm doing more than right?
any input on this is appreciated. but to be honest i would prefare male opinions, since they are the subjects here
thanks

sinnerboy

simple really - if he keeps doing it - he likes it

Dord

Ask him?

dubsgirl

I think you could be missing out on a goldmine of info by saying you would prefer only male opinions...

They are the subject you say but surely you are also the subject if your inexperience is making you lack in confidence in the bedroom and / or recognise the signs that you are doing something your partner really likes?

hunter164

If he says it's good it must be, he wouldn't if it was bad.

LegacyUser

dubsgirl wrote: »

I think you could be missing out on a goldmine of info by saying you would prefer only male opinions...

They are the subject you say but surely you are also the subject if your inexperience is making you lack in confidence in the bedroom and / or recognise the signs that you are doing something your partner really likes?

i suppose i am a subject. the main issue is i don't know how to read men just yet. but i want to learn how, yknow?

LegacyUser

sinnerboy wrote: »

simple really - if he keeps doing it - he likes it

but are there any more physical signs?
indications of how much he likes it?
etc...?

miles teg

there's usually white stuff if you're doing it right

sinnerboy

try to get as much pleasure out of sex that YOU can . there is no finer turn on for a guy than that . Honestly , we are simple creatures really

Victor

n00b wrote: »

ok this is going to sound really silly. but i'm pretty "inexperienced" when it comes to men and sex

Perfectly normal.

are there signs i should look for?

Him coming back for more is a good sign. Or him not just rolling about after two minutes and going to sleep is also good.

or preferably, signs that would tell me i'm doing more than right?

If his eyes go funny or if he makes noise when he normally doesn't.

Dave147

miles teg wrote: »

there's usually white stuff if you're doing it right

ROFL!

OP I'm all for asking, I'm a very assertive person, if a girl is doing something I don't like I'll tell her, and I'll be very nice about it.. if she's doing something I do like, I'll REALLY MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS!! Practice makes perfect is very appropriate here I think..

Marksie

n00b wrote: »

but are there any more physical signs?
indications of how much he likes it?
etc...?

80% of communication is non verbal. So look to breathing, sound and movement.
Your b/friend will have his own unique ecstatic response (same goes for women) so there is no reall set way to tell. You juts have to tune to him and that comes with contact and the other 20% of communication..talking.

It really is no different if you are male or female, if you are in doubt then ask. But keep it simple so he will be able to answer yes or no (you don't want to have him thinking about the answers rather than experiencing whats happening).

One tip, and it applies to the guys reading as well: If he/she says, Yes like that!
Then dont do anything different, you have hit the spot.

But DONT overanalyse. With increasing intimacy, comes increasing awareness of the others responses. The more you do, the more you become aware of how your partner will react and what they like.
Neither should you be afraid to experiment together, don't worry if things "don't work" as thats part of it.
For every action you do which doesn't get a response, you will find one that does.
So gradually you will build a repertoire of things whihc will drive you both wild.

So, in summary: Communicate, be aware, practice and explore

CapnMark

Practice makes perfect.



Just make sure hes as into pleasing you as you are in pleasing them and sex will only get better and better

Reesy

And, if you want to look at what the experts think is standard practice, there are (or at least used to be) videos / DVDs like 'the lover's guide' which might reassure you or give you some ideas.

Yavvy

like marksie and sinner says keep an eye out for reactions to specific things... and repeat them.
And also enjoy yourself as much as possible... playing with his balls will help too...

Liam Byrne

I'll echo what was said above.....there's no greater turn-on than knowing someone WANTS to be with you; the look in their eyes (during) or whatever.

Recently - due to a few disasters - I had an out-of-character few weekends with what would normally probably be described as a "sex-kitten"....supposedly every guys dream, right ?

WRONG!!!!

When she behaved "normally", she was gorgeous, very hot, and seemed sound.

But she INSISTED on "playtime", and acted accordingly; I've no objection to "playtime", but it's the "acting" that annoyed me.....she was far sexier when being herself!

So be yourself, and enjoy yourself; if that works, it'll work for both of ye!

Best of luck!

SpookyDoll

Liam Byrne for Mayor of the world !!!!

I agree totally, you can try to go by rules but everyone is different so just enjoy yourself and ask him what he likes, in your own way and time. Dont pressure yourself so much!!!

Whn you can see someone likes you so much that they really try to please you as you seem to be doing, its a huge compliment, so you BF is proably already one happy man anyway..!

HouseHippo

Verbal communication is most important.
for example ask him if he likes it hard or soft etc. If you have trouble asking him face to face try some naughty texting. Try saying things like I really like it when you........what about you?

Listening is a close second.Listen to his breathing etc when you do certain things.If he moans or gets particularly excited repeat, but not constantly as this will get boring.

It will only get better with experience the more times you have sex the better you will get to know each others bodies. It's also important you don't constantly worry about how you are preforming as it will be even harder for you to achieve orgasam.


Oh and use contraception and have fun

Liam Byrne

One other point......and I hope SpookyDoll's opinion of me doesn't change

It's also worth pointing out that worrying over this is futile.

Let's take the sex issue out of it for a sec....let's talk about food, movies, lifestyle.

There's always give and take in a relationship (or should be), so bear in mind that what I'm about to say only applies to "over and above" that.

If you make a massive effort to do things someone else likes but you don't, or that the effort stops you from enjoying them, then there's a chance you're not compatible - e.g. different movies (horror vs rom-coms vs brain-dead farcial comedies) different TV (celeb-obsessed programmes & Big Bother vs documentaries, etc) or different pastimes (quiet nights in vs partying all the time) - then you'd quickly get sick of it, no matter how much you like someone - am I right ?

Next step up is doing things together; some people need their space, others are glued together 24 hours a day. It's whatever works for them. Likewise some people love being "romantic" while it can freak others out. Would you stop doing romantic gestures if you were with someone who didn't like them ? Doubt it, coz if you're into stuff like that then that's half the fun.

Then, of course, there's sex. And of course sex is even more personal. Some people have different sex drives and preferences, and it can be hard not to take it personally at times. But think of it like the above, if you can.

So what I'm saying is....RELAX and be yourself. Do what you both enjoy (which it sounds like you're doing - lucky thing!!! ) and then see how it goes. If it keeps you both happy, you'll know and you'll stay together. If you both experiment together, you might end up having even more fun - as long as you're both relaxed and comfortable.

Putting pressure on yourself by worrying about it will only serve to break the intimacy, and if you're not able to simply be yourselves together the relationship wouldn't survive anyway.

I hope the above can be taken the way I mean it; not sure at this hour if I'm making complete sense, but if you can pick up the gist of what I'm saying then I'll be happy that I've been some help.

Otherwise, blame the time of the morning and ignore me and go back to thinking I should be Mayor of whatever..... :P