Do i let keep going the way it is?

Miss Pinky

Apologies it’s so long
My head is all over the place as the moment so I thought if I posted this I might get some other peoples opinions…here goes.

So back in February I kissed this guy ive known for years didn’t think much of it at the time as I never seen him out that much. Begin texting meeting up the odd wkd nothing heavy bit of fun then bang nothing he goes cold stops replying to texts. So I just thought well if that’s the way he wants to be then grand move on. Then about 2 weeks ago I was out on a girly night out in Town, dancing having fun with my mates, proceed to the smoking area with the girls and bang bump into some of his mates in suits, they were at a wedding in the Hotel next door. Was chatting to them for a couple of minutes, as I know them for years also. They go back to the wedding so I think nothing more of it…

So nightclub is over and go outside then phone starts ringing it’s him. First instincts don’t answer so I just let it ring out. About to go up the street to get my car then bang
who do I bump into only him and his best mate. Heart starts thumping, stomach flips, never felt so sick!! They were also at the wedding and his mates told him they met me. Long story short I end up bringing the two of them home and one of my mates. So I drop the others off then get to his house (which by the way is only up the road from me). So I just say start talking…he proceeds to tell me he really likes me and is very fond of me but doesn’t want to hurt me. So I tell him how I feel about him, yes I really really like him and am also very fond of him and enjoy his company but I was so mad when he just stopped making contact. It was like a bullet out of my mouth I had said all this before I had time to think. Then he asks me to stay the night but I say no.

So next day get a text asking me out for dinner, so I say what the hell!!
Forward to Wednesday he picks me up and my house. Go for dinner and get on so well I couldn’t believe it. Then he tells me why he was acting so hot and cold and why he went so odd. His Ex’s (yes the dreaded conversation!). So he tells me what happened and to be honest I have never heard anything like it. I now know why he has an issue with trusting people after what he went through. I don’t want to go into detail here but hand on heart I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. He leaves me home and we meet that wkd things are back to the way they were having a laugh. But now I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to push him into a relationship if he isn’t ready for one now but I cant put myself through the waiting game for him then to say he never wants anything. I like him so much and he knows it. He is only out of the last relationship since December or so.
Do I say something about how I am feeling or just leave it and see what happens??

mikewest

One step at a time and see how it goes. I'll bet he's very fragile at the moment reading between the lines but if he likes you and you him etc then take it gently. Be aware this could turn into a rebound type relationship for him so be careful. Again take it gentle and slow and the very best of luck.

Edit: P.S. I like the fact he took you to dinner and seems to want to take it slowly himself, good omens.

**Caroline**

I agree with Mikewest.;)

Although I hope the ex thing wasn't just an "excuse" for not contacting you? I'd be a bit cautious for the moment - he seems to give mixed signals so only time will tell if he's genuine.

As for telling him how you feel; I wouldn't disguise the fact that you really like him, but I'd try not to be too over the top about it either, at least until you know for sure that he feels the same. Sit back a bit and let him do some of the chasing! And if he doesn't, then you deserve better - someone who thinks you're worth the chase

Hopefully things work out for you as you seem to really like him. If it's meant to be, it'll be

Wibbs

I'm with mikewest on this one. See where it takes you. Every relationship you start on runs the risk of being hurt. If you don't run that risk or pull back you could miss out on an awful lot of good times, even if it goes south down the line.