Virgin

gal1234

OK, so if a 24 year old girl told a guy she was a virgin, would he think shes weird?

(background, never been into one night stands and never been in a serious enough relationship)

Wibbs

I would say that if he thinks it's weird then he may not be the right guy. Obvious answer I grant you, but there's something in it. I think most good men would see it as an honour that you trusted him with that info and even more if you chose him to be your first.

eveie

i really dont see how any guy could think that strange, as wibbs said most would look at it as an honour and those that dont are not worth pee-ing on. hold your head up high and do not be ashamed of it

r3nu4l

Strange? No! In fact, I'd put less pressure on the girl as I'd want her to be really, really sure that she was happy to lose her virginity to me. I'd also feel very proud of the fact that I was the one and that she was sure of it.

rosiec

+1

Its definately nothing to be ashamed off and a guy definately shouldn't be weirded out by something like that. I'd imagine most would feel rather chuffed that they'll be your "first".

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

gal1234 wrote: »

OK, so if a 24 year old girl told a guy she was a virgin, would he think shes weird?

(background, never been into one night stands and never been in a serious enough relationship)

No. Unusual yes, but not weird. It shouldn't be an issue for you and shouldn;t be an issue for us.

JaneyMc

I have a friend who was in a similar position and he didn't think it was weird at all, he respected her for not sleeping with just anyone just to get it over and done with. She was 23 afaik.

If he does have a problem, it's his not yours and isn't worth your time.

Gaoithin

gal1234 wrote: »

(background, never been into one night stands and never been in a serious enough relationship)

I was the same til I was 22, then got together with my boyfriend. He'd been with a few other girls, but my virginity was never an issue. And it shouldn't be an issue if you're with the right guy.
OK it was a bit nerve-wracking actually saying it, but once the words were out there, it was all fine. He was actually more nervous on my first time than I was! :pac:

cowzerp

I'd have great respect for the girl..

Annie Bananie

JaneyMc wrote: »

I have a friend who was in a similar position and he didn't think it was weird at all, he respected her for not sleeping with just anyone just to get it over and done with. She was 23 afaik.

If he does have a problem, it's his not yours and isn't worth your time.

+1

minidazzler

I would have huge respect for a girl that told me that. In this day and age a Girls virtue truely is her virtue. Good on ya.



BTW Alot of girls have told me they respect me for being a Virgin.

LadyMayBelle

Be proud of yourself, you weren't prepared to give yourself to just anyone. It's not as unusual as you might think. Good on ya.

Adam

High fives all round with the lads in the pub tbh :pac:

Sorry, of course I kid, but then guys will be guys more often than not!

In seriousness, as others have said, it wouldn't be weird at all, and quite reassuring to the guy if you are in a relationship with him. On top of which, I'm sure there are girls that would be in this(presumably your?) situation and actually wouldn't tell the guy even though any self respecting male would prefer to know from the point of view of making the girl comfortable, and knowing she is sure about her decision and not just trying to "get it over with". It's something special to most people, male or female, and should be acknowledged and treated as such.

Phlann

I think, OP, you're underestimating the attractiveness of a girl with no frame of reference by which to judge a man's sexual performance!

He might think it's odd, but at the same time, he'll probably find it kind of hot. I totally would. Although I'm not sure why...

Summary: Don't worry about it.

Dave147

Personally I would be surprised to meet a virgin at 24, most girls succumb to pressure by losing it and rarely with the right guy. I was 19 when I lost mine and had been going out with my gf for 9 months. I have tremendous respect for you OP, I hope you've got the right guy now so enjoy every minute of it.. And he'll probably be more nervous than you!!

LegacyUser

Hey OP, I dont think its weird at all tbh. I really respect your decision. I lost my virginity a year and a half ago when I was 17 with my then bf. We'd been together four months at the time and although I really, really loved him then, I did feel some pressure. He subtly implied once that if I didn't do it, he'd get it somewhere else. I didn't see how wrong he was at the time and tbh it was only reading what some of the guys here have written that has made me feel like I kind of missed out on the reassurance and respect I should have gotten. I know it isn't that important at the end of the day but from my experience I think you should wait until everything feels perfect and right. Not rushed for the sake of solidifying a relationship. With us, it was rushed, awkward and painful. Then he got up, left and ignored me for the next two days. Ironically, he cheated on me regardless of the fact that we were having sex. We broke up about a month later.

Moral of my story anyway is that doing it for the wrong reason was a mistake that still hurts very much. I wish I hadnt chosen him to be my first. To me, he was the most important thing to me at the time and I allowed that to cloud my better judgement. I regret it now and reading the men's comments here I feel a little sad that I missed out on something special. I would have been so happy if he told me he was ''honoured'' (as used by a male poster here) that I loved him enough to be my first. He actually told me afterwards that he didn't think it was important and it wasn't a big deal. You may feel now that you'd prefer it not to be a big issue to him but at the end of the day no girl wants to feel like something special to them meant nothing to the person you waited for. Let it be a big deal, let him respect you and make you feel loved and special. It isn't at all weird. I really admire you

newestUser

I think that it would be considered unusual, but not 'weird' in the sense that it repels blokes.

Wouldn't bother me, I wouldn't be weirded out by it, any bloke in his mid-twenties who would be freaked by it is either a d!ckhead, or hasn't a lot of life-experience and is easily shocked.

Dave!

Nope. Truth be told, it'd make me a bit more comfortable about the first time with that girl, as I wouldn't feel like my own performance is being scrutinised!

Don't worry about it

randylonghorn

gal1234 wrote: »

OK, so if a 24 year old girl told a guy she was a virgin, would he think shes weird?

Personally, no, I might be a little surprised, but I certainly wouldn't think it was weird.

who007

gal1234 wrote: »

OK, so if a 24 year old girl told a guy she was a virgin, would he think shes weird?

(background, never been into one night stands and never been in a serious enough relationship)

Was told that by a 20-something girl I was seeng last year - but then found out she had told the other guy she had started shaggin the same thing cos we ended up meeting one evening when he called to her new apartment and I had changed plans to spend the evening with her at the last minute, and hence was there when she didn't expect me to be.

Oh well... but anyway to answer your question, I didn't think it weird.. at the time

gal1234

thanks for all the comments. was just a tad worried as the guy is 30 and not sure how he would take it! anyways. thanks.

ps, to all the guys that replied, firstly thanks, but god where do you all hang out that your actually understanding??!!! lol

girl_friday

gal1234 wrote: »

ps, to all the guys that replied, firstly thanks, but god where do you all hang out that your actually understanding??!!! lol

+1

Restoring my faith in men one post at a time!!

Dave!

Glad to be of assistance

star-pants

belated - but my 2c - I was 23 when I first slept with someone, and I said it to him - he seemed a bit surprised but was very nice about it. Said that he didn't want to pressure me or make me do something I didn't want to. Which I thought was very sweet.

I have always been of the opinion of don't do something until you're ready, and if you are then tell him and he'll be gentle with you. I was dead nervous cuz it was brand new to me but don't worry, if he's a decent guy he'll take his time. And I don't think he'll find it 'weird'