Tubes tied.

sillyGoldie

What I'm wondering is what is the general reaction a doctor would give me if i went in asking about female sterilization?
I am 20. I HAVE HAVE HAVE thought about this too much. Please do not preach that my clock will start, I have had ALOT of personal experience of having children, including newborns. If children become an option I want to adopt, also another personal choice.
So just wondering about general reaction and if anyone knows a rough ball park price as well. thank you very much in advance.

Dizzyblonde

I'm not a medical person and I just happened across this thread, but I wouldn't imagine that any doctor would consider performing a sterilisation on a childless person of your age.

Enii

Why sterilisation?

Why not use contraception?

sillyGoldie

I have been using contraception for 4 years now, and being childless is a personal choice of my own. There have been a number of issues in my life that have come to this, and i have wanted this since, forever. I doubt i will have the money for the operation for a number of years, I just want to start saving, thats all.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Seriously, you're 20. I know a girl who had the exact same stance as you when she was 20 but completely did a u-turn a few years later.

The meds on this board will clarify but I would have thought sterilization could have some effect on your libido/drive etc.

Can you elaborate on your issue here? The girl I mentioned above was quite feminist and got really pissed off about a lot of my opinions. Seemed to me it was like getting sterilised was making some sort of political statement.

Read a book about human evolution. Would recommend "human instinct" by Robert Winston.

More on topic the girl I mentioned was refused & I would hope all Doctors would do likewise if a girl your age approached them.

Vorsprung

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

The meds on this board will clarify but I would have thought sterilization could have some effect on your libido/drive etc.

Operative sterilisation or tubal ligation involves placing clips across the Fallopian tubes, so the egg can't pass into the uterus to be fertilised. Don't think it has any effect on libido, stand to be corrected though.

There's a thing called the Pearl Index which measures the effectiveness of various birth control methods. Sterilisation is actually LESS effective than medications because sometimes the one of the clips can come loose/fall off, or if the clip is put in the wrong place during the procedure. Given that you're so young and the fact there are (oddly I know) better options to not get pregnant, I'd be surprised if a doctor offered you tubal ligation as an option at this stage of your life.

Nevyn

You will not be referred for a tubal ligation in this country at the age of 20 with no children.
You will have to go to the U.K. or elsewhere to have it done.

sillyGoldie

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Seriously, you're 20. I know a girl who had the exact same stance as you when she was 20 but completely did a u-turn a few years later.

Can you elaborate on your issue here? The girl I mentioned above was quite feminist and got really pissed off about a lot of my opinions. Seemed to me it was like getting sterilised was making some sort of political statement.

No I am not doing this for a political statement, and I am not a feminist.
I want my tubes tied as i have already raised a child, my brother. My mother had a nervous break down after she had him and i was left to raise him as hs father was not around. That was enough for me. I also do not want the dependancy of anothers life again.
so I am dead set on getting this done.

kelle

How about using Implanon. It provides contraception for up to three years.
What happened was very hard on you. I had similar issues (though not as severe as yours in any way), and my husband married me believing we would never have children. But I did change my mind at around 30, and I now have 3 children. While it's every bit as difficult as I had known it would be, I have the support of a wonderful husband and I wouldn't change a thing. And they get easier as they get older - so far anyway.
I had wanted sterilisation at 25, and I know I would have lived to regret it.

Bottle_of_Smoke

sillyGoldie wrote: »

No I am not doing this for a political statement, and I am not a feminist.
I want my tubes tied as i have already raised a child, my brother. My mother had a nervous break down after she had him and i was left to raise him as hs father was not around. That was enough for me. I also do not want the dependancy of anothers life again.
so I am dead set on getting this done.

have you talked to a counseller? Fair enough I accept its not a political statement, was just describing the girl I knew. Read that book i mentioned. I understand you went through a hard time but I just think there's better ways of not getting pregnant. You could hit 28 and really want a child of your own.

Piste

Sterilisation has a failure rate of about 4% (Source: VHI) whereas hormonal contraception tends to be less than 1%.

lostinnappies

I asked at the age of 30 when i was going in to have my second child via section. They refused point blank. They said i was too young and it was only my second child. Even though i had asked during my preg and with my previous child too which was also by section and wouldnt have been a stretch, dont get me wrong i love babies and children but its very dangerous (medically) for me to have any more children ... i nearly died during both.... and even with that compelling argument they still refused. Had my hubby done instead (better chance i wont get preggers). But saying all that 20years old is TOO young, other peoples children and having your own are completly different experiences and even if you still decide at baby age you want to adopt you have not thought of the man in your life .. im sorry to say it but alot of men dont want to adopt. Even my fella having had two sons it would be nice to have a girl but my hubby is set against it. He loves our two sons and children in general but doesnt see and cant see that an adoptive child will be anymore then someone elses child and doesnt want to hurt said child, by having favourites. I do understand and am happy with my two boys, but leave something so drastic until you hit broody age 30 ish.

sillyGoldie wrote: »

What I'm wondering is what is the general reaction a doctor would give me if i went in asking about female sterilization?
I am 20. I HAVE HAVE HAVE thought about this too much. Please do not preach that my clock will start, I have had ALOT of personal experience of having children, including newborns. If children become an option I want to adopt, also another personal choice.
So just wondering about general reaction and if anyone knows a rough ball park price as well. thank you very much in advance.

eth0_

sillyGoldie wrote: »

No I am not doing this for a political statement, and I am not a feminist.
I want my tubes tied as i have already raised a child, my brother. My mother had a nervous break down after she had him and i was left to raise him as hs father was not around. That was enough for me. I also do not want the dependancy of anothers life again.
so I am dead set on getting this done.

You're only 20. No doctor in Ireland will give you this operation. It doesn't matter that you had a bad experience with raising your brother (and I find that extremely hard to believe - social services or your family must have also been involved).

Steralisation has as high a failure rate as condoms. Why don't you use the pill, or Implanon, or Depo Provera?