First Time.

Shadow_1409

Okay i'm 17 and so is my girlfriend, i've been with my girlfriend for a long time and we've discussed sex, and up until today we'd done everything except sex, (Oral, Mutual masturbation, etc), and theres been times where we could of had sex, at parties and other places, but we didnt want to, we were alone today in my room and we decided to take the plunge, i had condoms and we werent going to be disturbed in the privacy of my bedroom, but the we were just taking off our underwear when i lost my erection, and i couldnt get it back, and this just made me panic and stress out, we didnt do it and she went home soon after, i was wondering if this has happened to anyone else?

I'm not entirely sure if this is relevant but the night before i was at a party and i had some to drink and i barely got any sleep, so when we were in my bed i felt slightly sick from the night before, and i was ridiculously tired, i was wondering if that could of had any effect on my...performance skills.

Another thing, after she left i was worried about my ability to get an erection so i had a go at masturbating and everything went fine, i'm sort of thinking it was down to nervousness or fatigue but im not sure.

All advice is appriciated. :pac:

Lollipops23

ah don't fret!i'd say it was a combination of exhaustion and nerves(each alone is enough to "let you down"!) that caused it.maybe prepare in advance a time that you know you won't be disturbed,keep relaxed and just take your time!

mbren

Of course it has happened to other people!! All i'd say is don't worry about it and the next time the opportunity presents itself, try and stay relaxed! The more you worry about it, the less chance you will have have of maintaining the erection!

I'm sure it will be worth the wait when it does happen anyway ;-)

Shadow_1409

That makes me feel alot better about it, hopefully it was a one time thing. :]

Lollipops23

Shadow_1409 wrote: »

hopefully it was a one time thing. :]

more than likely it'll happen several more times in your adult life!but seriously,DON'T WORRY!perfectly natural!just take a deep breath, and laugh-if your gf is the right person to do this she will totally understand and will help you chill out!;)

Talliesin

Shadow_1409 wrote: »

i had condoms and we werent going to be disturbed in the privacy of my bedroom, but the we were just taking off our underwear when i lost my erection, and i couldnt get it back

Then forget about getting it back and concentrate on her. Make the things you do to get her ready things that turn you on too.

pisslips

It's happened to me a couple of times and two of my friend's that I can remember, some people seem to panic about it, gets them into some sort of mild depression. If noone had told me that I could lose it, I probably wouldn't have the first time it happened, the whole,''Oh ****, I don't think this is gonna work'',''what do you mean it's not gonna work, look at her, just keep goin' and shut up'' dialogue going on in your head does not help at all.

It reminds me of closing your eyes on an amusement ride, that feeling that you really pussied out.....it's like an attack on your manhood.

Get back on that horse!(not literally)

turgon

My advice would be maybe have an idea of when your going to do it, then dont jerk off for a few days, maybe 4-5 before it, so that when the day comes you will be really in the mood. That might counter the nervousness.