Dating Etiquette

ElvisP

Hi,

Advice from some ladies if possible (and gents if they want)

Situation:

Boy meets girl
Boy likes girl
Boy asks girl on date
Date was okay but boy not interested in Date#2
End of night boy says 'thanks for the date and good night'
No 'I'll call you'
What next?
Is any communication necessary or do you leave it hanging and then bump into her socially and have an awkward moment while she lies to her friends about you? (this has actually happened)
thx
EP

Wurly

ElvisP wrote: »

No 'I'll call you'
What next?
Is any communication necessary or do you leave it hanging and then bump into her socially and have an awkward moment while she lies to her friends about you? (this has actually happened)
thx
EP

Hi there, well i'm a little confused at the above. What did you say when she said she'd call you?

Imo, the less said here, the better. You're not interested. From what I can gather, you didn't lead her on as you weren't the one who said you'd call (or did I read it wrong?).
So, you've done nothing wrong..

What did she say to her friends? Your post is pretty vague so..

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Tri wrote: »

Hi there, well i'm a little confused at the above. What did you say when she said she'd call you?

Imo, the less said here, the better. You're not interested. From what I can gather, you didn't lead her on as you weren't the one who said you'd call (or did I read it wrong?).
So, you've done nothing wrong..

What did she say to her friends? Your post is pretty vague so..

I'd have just said "ok", as neutrally as possible.
Polite, closes the conversation, and best of all non-commital. If she does call, you can make your excuses then.

ElvisP

Thx for the reply Tri.

This is what I figured happened. She told her friends she was going on a date with a nice guy . Apres date, she said it went well and was expecting date v2. When this didn't happen she made up some story to make herself look better. One of her friends actually accosted me (she was very pished) asking me 'WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?'

I just walked away. Wasn't going to have a screaming match.

Btw, do you think all women have the 'nutjob gene' and some guys activate it in them? I've had so many bad episodes I think it might be me and not them

minxie

ElvisP wrote: »

Hi,

Advice from some ladies if possible (and gents if they want)

Situation:

Boy meets girl
Boy likes girl
Boy asks girl on date
Date was okay but boy not interested in Date#2
End of night boy says 'thanks for the date and good night'
No 'I'll call you'
What next?
Is any communication necessary or do you leave it hanging and then bump into her socially and have an awkward moment while she lies to her friends about you? (this has actually happened)
thx
EP

from a ladies point of view if i was on a date,
from seeing there was no offer of a phone call from you,or no "first kiss" id take it for granted that was that, and not to expect anything more,

Wurly

ElvisP wrote: »

Thx for the reply Tri.

This is what I figured happened. She told her friends she was going on a date with a nice guy . Apres date, she said it went well and was expecting date v2. When this didn't happen she made up some story to make herself look better. One of her friends actually accosted me (she was very pished) asking me 'WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?'

I just walked away. Wasn't going to have a screaming match.

Btw, do you think all women have the 'nutjob gene' and some guys activate it in them? I've had so many bad episodes I think it might be me and not them

You know what OP, she built this up and it didn't go her way. She has made you out to be a b@stard, which is not accurate.

Her friend is protecting her friend who is upset and feels rejected. To accost you though, is ridiculous.

I mean, it was only one date ffs.

Just ignore these people. They are not worth your energy. The only crime you committed as far as I can see is that you were not interested in this girl. No fault of yours.

With regards to women having a 'nut job' gene. - LOL! Well, sometimes we can behave a bit erratic over guys that we really really like. This can also happen when we feel rejected/used/hurt. We are usually very very embarrassed afterwards when we realise we've behaved like a d1ck.

Don't worry about it dude, seriously. You just haven't met the right girl yet.;)

minxie

Tri wrote: »

You know what OP, she built this up and it didn't go her way. She has made you out to be a b@stard, which is not accurate.

Her friend is protecting her friend who is upset and feels rejected. To accost you though, is ridiculous.

I mean, it was only one date ffs.

Just ignore these people. They are not worth your energy. The only crime you committed as far as I can see is that you were not interested in this girl. No fault of yours.

With regards to women having a 'nut job' gene. - LOL! Well, sometimes we can behave a bit erratic over guys that we really really like. This can also happen when we feel rejected/used/hurt. We are usually very very embarrassed afterwards when we realise we've behaved like a d1ck.

Don't worry about it dude, seriously. You just haven't met the right girl yet.;)

totally agree with you on that,

ElvisP

you're reaffirming my belief in women. there are normal ones out there. you don't happen to have a couple of bunnies on the boil do you?
:pac:

Wurly

ElvisP wrote: »

you're reaffirming my belief in women. there are normal ones out there. you don't happen to have a couple of bunnies on the boil do you?
:pac:

Just a few stuffed toy bunnies. No real one's.

ElvisP

I have a list of horror stories. I could write a book.

What are your worst ones? I'll fully accept that my gender are no angels either.

Now let me adjust these binocculars on that girl's window opposite my flat

ElvisP

thanks for your replies ladies

minxie

ElvisP wrote: »

you're reaffirming my belief in women. there are normal ones out there. you don't happen to have a couple of bunnies on the boil do you?
:pac:

only the two!!!!:D:D

MIN2511

Hey, it was a first date it didn't work out. Some people would prefer if a text is sent(i would!) just explaining that there is no point going on a second date.
"I think you are nice but i don't think there is a need for a second date"


And as for her friends, you meet nutters everywhere

MagicMarker

If you're being made out to be a bastard you should have at least slept with her first and got something in return.

I'd advise you to just forget about it and move on.

MIN2511

Just thought about this....How come she never asked you herself? Why did her friend accost you? If she had a problem she should have asked ya...

Anyways who wants to date a girl that lets her friends fight her battle....


man consider yourself lucky!

sannies

Hey

In defense of my gender sometimes men can make us a little "nutty" especially if we really like them and we can tend to overanalyse every little thing they say or do!

However that said, it really doesn't seem like you led her on in anyway. It seems she was more into you than you were her and got really hurt when she didn't hear back and then really angry.

You did the right thing just ignoring her friend and possibly she is really embarassed about the whole thing.

Still if this was the reaction after one date, it probably would have been worse if you had gone on a few more and then decided it wasn't going anywhere.

Marksie

ElvisP wrote: »

I have a list of horror stories. I could write a book.

What are your worst ones? I'll fully accept that my gender are no angels either.

Now let me adjust these binocculars on that girl's window opposite my flat

if you have a list of horror stories, then have you considered it might be you?

No poster is obliged to post their own stories in PI. That is not what this thread is about.
I suggest you read the charter

Bakc on topic which was your date, same goes for others