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BFs weird fetish

  • 13-08-2008 5:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey there,

    Going unregistered for this one. Ive been with my boyfriend afew months and last weekend we got talking about our sexual fantasys and fetishes, he told me that he would love it if i penetrated him with a vibrator or dildo. He said that he has done it before and it is a MAJOR turn on for him. Im in shock, is it normal for a straight guy to be into this kind of thing? I dont think i could do it to him, it would just seem weird to me.

    Any help or advice would be appreciated. Am very confused here!


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  • #2
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Yes, common enough.
    The anal area is very sensitive and pleasureable to explore there.
    THe male prostate when stimulated can give intense sensations.
    It does not mean that your b/f is gay or bi.
    however, if you are uncomfortable with it, talk some more and find out what and how he likes it.


  • #3
    baglady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 255 ✭✭baglady


    my OH has never asked for this but I have some friends who are with guys who like the anal stimulation thing. It's not weird, it's just probably that you are not used to it. If you are uncomfortable though, don't do anything you don't want to


  • #4
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    its common enough you should feel happy that he trusts you enough to tell you that

    weather you do it or not should be discussed at length with him


  • #5
    tiptap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 317 ✭✭tiptap


    oh my, if someone went near my rear I'd go mental....such a turn off for me !!


  • #6
    Flamed Diving
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,609 ✭✭✭Flamed Diving


    My ex-girlfriends fantasy was to 'do me' with a dildo. Unfortunately for her I was not willing to do it! People are into funky things, theres nothing wrong with it.


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  • #7
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    Perhaps one day there will be a PI thread with "weird fetish" in the title that is actually about a weird fetish, but it is not this day.

    It's about as common as they come. May not even be a fetish if he's tried it before, but simply about the fact that anal stimulation feels good.


  • #8
    Wurly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,095 ✭✭✭Wurly


    Some guys love this due to Mr Prostate being located in that area.

    It's not weird at all and certainly has nothing to do with being gay.

    However, if you are not comfortable doing it, then don't. Discuss it further with him.


  • #9
    HouseHippo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    Yes its quite normal.
    The male "G-Spot" is located in this area and the right kind of penetration can result in explosive orgasam. Just insert your finger first just to "break the threshold" if you will, and use a come hither motion.
    Make sure you use plenty of lubrication and ease into it. Its an extermely sensitive area and uninformed play can be very painfull and dangerous, go slow and always stop if it hURTS.

    A small vibrator would probably be best at first, maybe a durex play ring, and then move on to dildos.

    My bf wont let me do it, maybe we should swap :P :D

    It's important to note, this does not make your bf gay, millions of people have odd fetishes. Maybe you should share a sexual fantasy of yours with him.
    Its important you are comfortable with each other to enter into fantasies but most of all
    HAVE FUN!!


  • #10
    ScouseMouse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,070 ✭✭✭ScouseMouse


    In an adult relationship between two consenting adults, anything goes as long as both people are comfortable with it. This does not mean he is gay or anything. As long as you are comfortable with the idea, go with the flow.


  • #11
    Heisenberg.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,541 ✭✭✭Heisenberg.


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  • #12
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    The Scientist wrote: »
    The OP has explained that she thinks this is wierd so dismissing it as 'common as they come'
    You don't think that knowing something is edit common has any value?
    The Scientist wrote: »
    brushing it aside as a common practice isn't exactly helping her
    I brushed nothing aside, I said it was common and that it may not be a fetish. I didn't bother to get into opinions.
    The Scientist wrote: »
    and may influence her into doing something she doesn't want to do.
    If somebody is going to do something they don't want to do because it's common, there's nothing anybody can do to help them.


  • #13
    towel401
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,917 ✭✭✭towel401


    Unregfreakedout wrote: »
    Hey there,

    Going unregistered for this one. Ive been with my boyfriend afew months and last weekend we got talking about our sexual fantasys and fetishes, he told me that he would love it if i penetrated him with a vibrator or dildo. He said that he has done it before and it is a MAJOR turn on for him. Im in shock, is it normal for a straight guy to be into this kind of thing? I dont think i could do it to him, it would just seem weird to me.

    Any help or advice would be appreciated. Am very confused here!

    at least he doesn't have amputee fetishism :)


  • #14
    trio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 494 ✭✭trio


    This is not unusual - BUT if you don't like it? Don't do it!

    I went out with a guy a long time ago who was into this - but I got no enjoyment out of it whatsoever.

    In fact I felt a bit redundant, like "why exactly am I here again?", was in truth a bit bored whilst he was getting his jollies, and also I just find bums in general to be a bit of a turn-off, what with poo coming from there and all! :D

    So I gently told him it wasn't my thing and in fairness to him, it was the end of the story. He respected it and never asked for it again. He was a gent, at the end of the day. Maybe now he's with someone who is as enthused about giving it as he is about receiving it! :D


  • #15
    05D
    Closed Accounts Posts: 190 ✭✭05D


    Hi Op,

    Nothing weird about this. My partner asked me to do the same (not with the big guy tho!!) but to just insert my finger. He doesn't like it all the time just on special occasions. He really enjoys it though and he if most definately not gay.

    You should tell him what you like and maybe work on it.

    NEVER DO ANYTHING YOU ARE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH!!!;)


  • #16
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    Unregfreakedout wrote: »
    I dont think i could do it to him, it would just seem weird to me.
    Then for the moment its not something you can do. But perhaps give yourself time to consider the idea, without going for full on penetration. Consider whether you would be willing to touch him in that area at all, even just outside, and kind of meet him half way.

    People arent born with full on fetishes inside their heads, they develop from mild to extreme in stages. The same could be said for anything sexual. You learn and develop and push boundaries. You might find that if you try something simple, you may overcome your aversion in stages too. Seeing someone else turned on by your actions can be a wonderful thrill for the giver.

    But only if you want to, if you cannot make it work at all and find it offputting, then your partner needs to understand it may never be an option.


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