My Problems

LegacyUser

Hi all,

The problem is that I have anger Issues and I don't know why or do I?

I enjoy hurting people especially the women in my life, Not physical but mentally. I am not proud of it I wish I could change I just feel Like i need to hurt people before they hurt me you know. I have no emotions what so ever, but I guess I do if I get angry a lot. Usually bottled up but the wrong person heads up receiving everything.

Sometimes its bad to the point that I go out to drink and plan to look for trouble but obviously it doesn't go as plan because my super woman takes care of me. If am with her but I love being alone when I go out but she tags along.

Should I see a shrink does that yoke really work? right now I just wanna fight, God (Forgive me Lord) I wanna beat someone up so bad. Like tonight I saw a lad he thinks he is stronger than me and I so want to beat him.

I have a kid and I want to protect him damn I need help. My family must not know that I drink ( My side of the family eg parents). I am angry for no reason and now I am making my ,misses sad. I love her and I can,t show it. I tend to flirt a lot with other girls but if I see she is getting interested I back off. I am very charming and I know it not bad looking either .

In addition I grew up with no dad and I hardly see my mum but she is now back in the scene. I grew up with my sis and now am living with my partner. Today I just found out I am my own worse nightmare. If I don't get better I will lose what I love must. I am sick of pushing everyone away and running to the land of warcraft.

RedXIV

OK you do really really need to address this, and the worrying part is you are out seeking trouble. Take it from me, the amount of people more than capable in different fighting diciplines in this country is staggering, head over to the Self defence forum for a look.

Especially with a child, you don't want to end up scrapping against someone who could leave you in a coma or completely helpless.

i'd suggest two things.

Get yourself to someone who can find out why you are so angry.

Get yourself to a boxing or martial arts club and train a few times a week. You might get some of the aggro out of your system and you'll be with people more than capable of dealing with any anger issues you might have.

Best of luck mate

Red

Miss Fluff

Go to your GP and ask to be referred to anger management classes.

Why musn't your family know you drink btw?

LegacyUser

Because I am a mMuslim so I shouldn't drink.

Irishcrx

Hi mate,

I can relate a bit to you here , but let me tell you , you do not have anger issues because of nothing there is a reason for it be it your own insecurity's or other.

"I saw a lad who thought he was stronger than me and wanted to beat him up"

That is an insecurity in yourself , there are plenty of people out there who can help you with this. You need to get off the computer and get active, exercising is a great way to relieve stress otherwise you bottle it up and take it out on the ones who care about you. On the other hand you fancy yourself as quite good looking and flirt with other girls you probably do it to feed your own ego as you do with fighting. The mental abuse with womenm may relate back to a poor relationship with your mother, I bet under it all that you are a decent bloke but you won't find that looking for trouble with other people you will end up either becoming a bitterly angry man or in jail.

I myself had some issues when I was younger with anger so I can speak from expierience, and I learned that blaming my lack of a dad or bad relationship/missing mother is not the answer. I am responsible for my own actions and you are too, I would talk to somebody about it. I can't advise taking up kickboxing as a sport as suggested as with your attitude as it is it would add to your troubles but would be a great means of control when you've dealt withn your issues.

Good luck mate!

Beruthiel

Maximum Octane wrote: »

Should I see a shrink does that yoke really work? right now I just wanna fight, God (Forgive me Lord) I wanna beat someone up so bad. Like tonight I saw a lad he thinks he is stronger than me and I so want to beat him.

Go see a professional and let them help you to learn how to deal with all this pent up anger. There has to be a root cause, you need to find out what it is.
Join a boxing club.

I am angry for no reason and now I am making my ,misses sad. I love her and I can,t show it.

Why can't you show it?
If you care so much for her, make an effort before you loose her.

Because I am a mMuslim so I shouldn't drink

My friend comes from a muslim family, he can drink me under the table and back out the far side. When you become an adult you make your own decisions in life and your family must learn to deal with it.
Perhaps the fact that you hide so much of yourself from your family is not helping your anger issues.
Either way, get professional help now, before it's too late!