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Feel completely heartbroken and alone

  • 10-08-2008 2:54am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey, posting here coz I need to vent this.

    About a month ago my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me. She was my first serious love, first girl I slept with and was really the closest friend Iv ever had in my life (and I was those things to her as well). Im 23 now, and shes only going on 21 in a couple months, so I guess I shouldnt be surprised that it didnt last since shes so young.

    Since we broke up she wont speak to me and has been going out of her way to see other guys. This is because we broke up before but we always got back together, so she just wants to do that so we dont slip back into a relationship again.

    Thing is, before we broke up I wasnt that happy in the relationship either. But now that its over I miss her more than anything, and I cant get rid of this sinking and empty feeling in my heart. Im also going around convinced that Ill never meet another girl again and that she was my one and only shot at a relationship..... thats stupid I know, but cant shake it. And I really loved her family too and knowing Ill never see them again either is horrible.

    Is this normal to feel this way? Id give anything to have her back again, and a huge part of me just misses that close friend I had who I could tell anything too, but I cant be in her life because she doesnt want me to be and because its so saddening just imagining her being with other guys that when she does find a new guy Ill be devestated.... :(

    Any opinions or experiences would be very appreciated because I just feel like **** at the moment


Comments

  • #2
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    There a lot of threads similar to yours, what you miss is the "friendship" part of the relationship. I suggest you go out make new friends, hang out with school chums, work colleagues, join a club.

    You sound like you are in a little hole and want her to rescue you, dude the real world is real! She's moved on!!!
    So forget her


  • #3
    fuzzywiggle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,089 ✭✭✭fuzzywiggle


    Aloneandsad85 wrote: »
    Thing is, before we broke up I wasnt that happy in the relationship either.
    Aloneandsad85 wrote: »
    Im also going around convinced that Ill never meet another girl again and that she was my one and only shot at a relationship.....
    Aloneandsad85 wrote: »
    a huge part of me just misses that close friend I had who I could tell anything too

    Ok, so have a loook at what you've said here. The most important thing you said was that you weren't that happy in the relationship so why would you want to get back to that? Why would you want to be unhappy?

    Really you're just missing having a grilfriend and that's all. I don't think you're missing that particular girl. And you're also afraid you wont find another girl, and think you need your grilfriend back because of this. You're only 23!! You'll meet another girl, of course you will!


  • #4
    Karen_*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,610 ✭✭✭Karen_*


    Of course its normal to feel this was and its the most awful feeling in the world. Its so so hurtful and its a huge loss. But you will be ok. You will but it's going to take time and I know that is absolutely no consolation to you at all OP.

    We all break up with someone at some stage and go through this and hard and all as it is it's part of life. She wasn't right for you OP and you've loads of living to do. You weren't happy and this is going to be the best thing that could happen although it sure doesn't feel like it now.

    Rejection is a horrible thing and its so hard to get your head around that you two were so close and now she's moved on and doesn't want you. It makes no sense at all! But we've all been there. And one thing I do promise you is that it gets easier.

    And OP just because she's moved on and cruel and all as it is, its no reflection on you. Its just run its course. You're still a great guy, you're just not her great guy. And all things happen for a reason. Mind yourself really well now and do your best to think good things about yourself and feel good about yourself.


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