Possible Jealous

LegacyUser

I don’t know what to do in this situation, my ex and I broke up over a year and a half ago, we where only seeing each other for a couple of months. We did the whole not seeing each other for a while, he was going out with someone and I was seeing a guy.

We got back in contact and to be honest I do want him in my life and I don’t particularly want to go out with him.

The problem is that we were suppose to be going away for a weekend, others were coming to but we were sharing a room, he suddenly invited a girl he’s now seeing which meant we wouldn’t be in the same room. He didn’t ask if I minded if she came….I decided not to go as I don’t think I would enjoy myself…

I suppose I’m a bit jealous but also extremely hurt by his actions, I feel that I have been push aside.

I don’t know if advice is what I’m looking for but I needed to put this in writing before I go insane.

RedXIV

you don't want to go out with him yet you wanted to share a room together? to be honest lass, it sounds like you do still want him a primal level. Believe it or not, it's possible to still not have closure a year and a half after breaking up with someone.

Does he know how you feel?

Trinity

Be honest to yourself first and foremost and it will answer your questions

You are friends, you cancelled cos you could no longer share a room, and he would be sharing it with someone else.

Did you hope something would happen in the room to rekindle something?

If you really dont want to be with him in that way why would you mind him beign with someone else. Is it i want what i cant have scenario? Or i dont want him but i dont want anyone else to be happy.

LegacyUser

I'm sure he has an idea of how I feel, he's good at picking these things up. I know he's not interested so there's no point in telling him cause he would just tell me where to go.

There's nothing to rekindle, as I said above he's not in anyway interested.

I know time heals all wounds and I know I wil get over him even staying in contact with him (I've done it before).

I'm just annoyed at the moment that he didn't consider how I would feel. If the situation was reversed I wouldn't have invited the person, espically without consulting him or whomever else I was sharing the room with before hand.

LegacyUser

Trinity1 wrote: »

If you really dont want to be with him in that way why would you mind him beign with someone else. Is it i want what i cant have scenario? Or i dont want him but i dont want anyone else to be happy.

Of course I want him to be happy and at them moment she dose; but that doesn't mean that somewhere it still doesn't hurt even if I don't want it to or understand why it is.

If we went out together we would fight all of the time, there are to many things about us that would drive each other mad in a relationship but we get on being friends.

RedXIV

080808 wrote: »

I'm sure he has an idea of how I feel, he's good at picking these things up. I know he's not interested so there's no point in telling him cause he would just tell me where to go.

There's nothing to rekindle, as I said above he's not in anyway interested.

I know time heals all wounds and I know I wil get over him even staying in contact with him (I've done it before).

I'm just annoyed at the moment that he didn't consider how I would feel. If the situation was reversed I wouldn't have invited the person, espically without consulting him or whomever else I was sharing the room with before hand.

After reading that, i'm even more convinced you want a relationship with this guy.

And i sympathise if this is indeed an example of unrequited love but you have to understand, if he has absolutely no feelings and treats you only as a friend, then the idea of switching rooms to bring a girlfriend over a friend/former ex makes sense.

You still like this guy, there's the problem, and you will get over it but probably not while you're still in this kind of contact.

Best of luck though

LegacyUser

My problem is that I know all this and I know what I HAVE to do I just need to get the guts and the heart to do it again, I did it before and survived so I know I can do it again.:-(

Thanks. ;-)