broody male!

LegacyUser

Hi,

Going unreg for this.

I'm a late 20's male. Lately I've been finding myself feeling "broody" and I was wondering if this is normal/natural/common?

I'm not in a (serious) relationship at the moment. I've been engaged previously and my fianceé had a child who was a big part of my life for a number of years. The relationship ended almost 2 years ago. I can't help feeling that missing that child is contributing to feeling like this.

I guess I'm wondering if any other men out there have gone through similar feelings?

seamus

It's normal enough I'd say.

I'm mid-late 20's and sometimes when I see kids with their fathers I think to myself how cool it would be to be Dad too. If that's what it means to be a broody male, then I guess I've been broody too

I can certainly see how having another child as part of your life could easily contribute to this. Our instincts cause both men and women to assume roles as protectors and providers within our social circle, even towards children who aren't our own. I would imagine this protective/nurturing urge is something hormonal, so when the child is suddenly no longer a part of your life, then you'll begin to miss those hormones.

Broodiness may be "withdrawals" (for want of a better word), or simply a desire to return to that hormonal state - hormones which deal with family/protectiveness/procreation all tend to be very pleasurable and sometimes addictive.

No, you're not weird.

Beruthiel

broodymale! wrote: »

I've been engaged previously and my fianceé had a child who was a big part of my life for a number of years. The relationship ended almost 2 years ago.

Was it not possible for you to keep in contact with the child?
I was with an ex of mine for about 5 years, as he had become fond of my daughter he kept in contact with her, still does 9 year later.

Wibbs

Judging by my mates, it varies a lot. One friend of mine was cooing at kids at 25, another when he hit his mid 30's and a few never do. Im 40 and it hasn't happened yet.

IAs you reckoned, it's as likely along with some background broodiness that the loss of that child from your life is adding a lot to it.

Latchy

No not weird at all ,how many time will you see a group of single men and women cooing over holding a beautiful baby and you know a few are thinking , hmmmm, this is nice , so it's a natural instinct to feel they way you do ,specialy if you have already expierenced bonding with a child as you mentioned .

trio

Of course it's normal. It'll probably continue. I'd say tons of men are gagging for wee babies of their own - they just don't talk about it.

Unfortunately there ain't a lot you can do about it at the moment. Broodiness can be a pretty distracting thing, I imagine. Try to just not let it take over to the point where it becomes hugely important. You're not in a serious relationship so it could be several years yet before you have one of your own. So you need to find a way of putting your broodiness into the background until the time is right.

molloyjh

Friends of mine recently had a baby boy and the mother and my fiance were out to lunch one day with him. Both said it was the men who were paying the young lad all of the attention, so it would certainly seem very normal to me.

And remember, we're all just animals really and one of our main instincts is to reproduce. So if anything its one of the most natural and normal things any of us could feel.