Meeting people?

illiop

I have a problem meeting people, as in men or getting a boyfriend or whatever you want to say.
I'm only 18 so I know I'm going to be told that I have loads of time and all that but I find it very hard to meet people. Like every other girl I know I get dressed and go out to nitclubs and pubs and all but the only attention I seem to get is from people I can't have ie. they have girlfriends or they're my friends brothers, or they're some old man who whispers somthing in my ear like "Yer lookin' Mighty...".
My friends sometimes tell me I'm picky when someone approaches me on the dance floor but don't I deserve to be a little picky? besides, I want someone to chat me up for once, you know, it'd be nice to know soemones name before they started mauling me for a change.

Anyway, thats my rant...any tips?

qz

I'm 19 and single and a guy if it helps?

Seriously though, we're only young so everything will come in time, be it the next night you go out or in a few weeks or months. There's no rush. I find if you go out just with the intention of having a good time and not solely to go out and get your hole you're actually much more successful and comfortable in talking to the opposite sex.

But you're right about being picky, you've the right to be as picky as you want to be. A mate of mine scores almost every day (not even night) and his reason is that he has no standards, so he'll never be disappointed. Personally, I couldn't stand for that. Be as picky as you want, it might reduce your chances but so what, won't it make the catch all the better?

There really is nothing to worry about at this stage. Just go out and have fun.

Alicat

illiop wrote: »

or they're some old man who whispers somthing in my ear like "Yer lookin' Mighty...".

**shudders** god it's creepy, aul' fellas wandering around night clubs tryin to get it on with young girls.

No point in spending your youth searching for the perfect man! Enjoy your nights out with your mates, have a few drinks and a few snogs. In otherwards, have fun! The relationships can come later!

I wasted my late teens searching through the clubs for Mr. Right. Should have focused more on just enjoying myself.

Having said that, 24 this year and have a lovely fella so it all worked out in the end (and i didn't meet him in a club)

MagicMarker

illiop wrote: »

I have a problem meeting people, as in men or getting a boyfriend or whatever you want to say.
I'm only 18 so I know I'm going to be told that I have loads of time and all that but I find it very hard to meet people. Like every other girl I know I get dressed and go out to nitclubs and pubs and all but the only attention I seem to get is from people I can't have ie. they have girlfriends or they're my friends brothers, or they're some old man who whispers somthing in my ear like "Yer lookin' Mighty...".
My friends sometimes tell me I'm picky when someone approaches me on the dance floor but don't I deserve to be a little picky? besides, I want someone to chat me up for once, you know, it'd be nice to know soemones name before they started mauling me for a change.

Anyway, thats my rant...any tips?

Why don't you get off your arse and go and chat someone up?

You're perfectly within your right to be picky, but don't whine about not meeting people on the internet, because you are meeting them. You just don't think they're good enough for you.

Maybe instead of judging someone on the dancefloor, you take their number and converse with them before deciding they're not to your standards.

Creamy Goodness

get away from pubs and clubs, i find them awful places to meet new people and doubley so if you're looking for a boyfriend.

i'd be much like yourself, i suck at meeting new people but trying my darnest to rectify it, the best ways are often the most simpliest. i took a japanese language class and started attending boards beers which are basically gatherings of like-minded people from boards.ie for drinks in a nice relaxing setting. come along to the next one.

when it comes to "picking" someone yes you deserve to be picky, you say you'd prefer for someone to chat to you before mauling you, well you ain't going to get that if you rely on the cattle market scenario of pubs/clubs.

also don't be looking for a boyfriend straight off, i know it's hard not - speaking from experience here - to but it will just come off as needy.

jellie

try to relax & not think about it too much. chances are you wont fall in love in a nightclub. dont think of a night out as a hunt for men, go out to have fun with your friends, & maybe meet some new people but dont go on a boyfriend hunt.

for a lot of people it happens when youre not looking or when youre least expecting it.

& yes, BE picky if you want. dont settle. nothing worse than waking up the next day & thinking "ugh omg i cant believe i kissed HIM!" :P

zAbbo

Stop looking specifically for boyfriends!

Go out, do new things, enjoy random peoples company !

What are the chances of meeting a potential boyfriend in a sweaty loud niteclub where most people are drunk?

Switch your scenary, take up something new, a course, a class, anything.

Most people meet partners from their own social circle, expand yours

qz

Also, at age 18 ar you beginning college or anything? I take it you'll be going into a new year of something at least, what better time to start afresh just going out with (new) friends and enjoying yourself on nights out? (As opposed to going out actively seeking a boyfriend).

illiop

Thanx. Thats all good advice. I think I just needed a rant. don't get me wrong, i'm not one of those creepy girls who thinks everyone who looks at them wants to to be there life partner or something!

abitlonely

I don't know if you're in / starting college but it can't
be beaten for meeting like-minded people. I'd agree with
the above to concentrate on enjoying yourself and the
rest will sort itself out.