Asking someone out who works in same building?

Aurora Borealis

Your advice please...

There’s a guy I quite fancy who works in the same building as me, separate office entirely from the one I work in but one floor up from us. I think he may possibly be interested too. There’s been a few friendly exchanges... Thinking of biting the bullet and asking him out for a drink, quite a departure for me as I never have before...
Thing is, do you think the fact that he is working upstairs could present a problem? From my point of view or indeed if it may be a factor for him if I were to ask him...

Would probably squirm with embarrassment if I did even though I do think more girls should take the initiative.

RedXIV

You've been on PI long enough to know what my answer is gonna be

Ask the guy. He's not sitting at a desk across from you so the whole work thing wouldn't be too over the top. You have something in common (work, isn't great but it's there) so you have plenty to talk about i'm sure and guys love attention like this. trust me, we do.

Best of luck

Red

barbiegirl

The main question here is as you mature enough to deal with things if they don't work out, whether that be if he says no, or if he says yes and it's a disaster, or indeed if he says yes, you date and then fall out later. If you can honestly say you are, then go for it, ask him out, if not then don't. I've never had any issue, but I do remember one guy I went on 1 date with, not even a date, more some very drunken snogging that had been coming for ages, on the Monday he couldn't talk to me. Really annoyed me.
I met my OH through work, (we're marrying 3 weeks from tomorrow), so I say go for it. You never know :-)

Handsome Bob

I may get lynched for being negative but I can only draw on my own personal experiences. But here goes...

I had a handy office job for the past two Summers to help tick over the College finances. Last Summer when I came into my last 4 weeks on the job I had to train in my replacement. I explained how to do the job clearly and easily, I also introduced her to the other people in the department and made her feel like a part of the team. She was a nice girl but I had no interest in her as I already had a gf. After about a week and a half (on a Friday) out of nowhere she asked me out. I politely told her the situation but she stormed off.

I come in on Monday and her friend (who got her the job) called me a bastard for leading her on.

Me: How on earth did I lead her on?

Friend: You were so nice to her.

Me: And?

Friend: Guys aren't usually that nice and helpful unless they are interested.

Me: I don't know how many guys you know, but not all guys are dicks to women that they aren't interested in. I just made sure that she fitted in asap.

Friend: You led her on and people are going to know about this.

Next thing I know my colleagues are criticizing me for "leading her on" (even though these clowns knew I had a gf) and it made my last 2 weeks on the job hell. This Summer I could not go back over that.

My advice to you is please, please make sure he is interested. Go out with work colleagues socially and see what happens. Maybe get a friend to go over and get him/ her to casually ask what he thinks of you. If all he is being is friendly in the workplace then that is not enough to ask him out, you could end up making life incredibly difficult for both of you.

IanCurtis

Go for it.

If you don't ask, you don't get.

LegacyUser

I'd definitely say go for it! I started working in a new office in October and within a month one of the guys asked me out...we've been together for the past 9 months and I wouldn't change a thing about it. It helps that he's not in the same dept (even though the office is small enough and everyone knows about us!) and he's rarely in the office so I don't see why it'd be a problem that your potential guy works on a different floor...

Aurora Borealis

Don't think i'd be disgruntled if it didn't work out, could be a bit cringy but nothing I couldn't handle. Anyway thanks for the encouragement. Still on fence but at least the work conundrum is cleared up.

A.B.

RealistSpy

Aurora Borealis wrote: »

Don't think i'd be disgruntled if it didn't work out, could be a bit cringy but nothing I couldn't handle. Anyway thanks for the encouragement. Still on fence but at least the work conundrum is cleared up.

A.B.

Ah go on you sound nice what do you have to lose? Let us know how you get on .
You will be grand.

Burial

Aurora Borealis wrote: »

Don't think i'd be disgruntled if it didn't work out, could be a bit cringy but nothing I couldn't handle. Anyway thanks for the encouragement. Still on fence but at least the work conundrum is cleared up.

A.B.

You should give it a go. I mean if the work thing isn't a problem, then you really do have nothing to lose. Good Luck!